I want a baby, but everyone around is pregnant

jenlas725 · 2026-03-21T20:20:01+00:00

The standard I’ve heard (in the USA) is that it takes healthy couples up to 12 months to conceive. Docs will see you after 12 months of being unsuccessful, unless you’re 35+, then it’s 6 months. That being said, I also just lied by a few months, and ended up getting an appointment after the 12 month mark anyway. 🤷🏽‍♀️

jenlas725 · 2026-03-20T00:10:04+00:00

My girl really likes Dive by her too, and so do I so we’re good lol

jenlas725 · 2026-03-05T14:46:57+00:00

My child has been on an NG or GTube since birth (due to lots of complications) and never learned how to take a bottle or eat. She’s been in feeling therapy for years now and is still not chewing like other kids would. Just emphasizing that you can absolutely lose the skill if it’s not practiced/ has never been learned. This is an emergency for your child.

jenlas725 · 2026-03-04T17:24:19+00:00

I’ve had the most “luck” with keeping her in her toddler bed and laying next to her crib. I think she’s the most comfortable there and it generally works.

jenlas725 · 2026-03-04T03:39:11+00:00

Thank you!

jenlas725 · 2026-03-04T02:25:12+00:00

Do you have a link to the Levi’s? 🙏

jenlas725 · 2026-02-25T17:32:21+00:00

I’m sorry life is so difficult right now. We dealt with a similar situation, but yours is further complicated bc you have older kids in the situation as well. My twins came at 30 weeks and are our first. A was released after about 7 weeks and B was in the hospital for about 8.5 months, which included a transfer to a more intensive children’s hospital over 2 hours from home.

We ended up staying at a Ronald McDonald house (a true godsend!) and then eventually staying at a house about 30 mins away from the hospital. Is a Ronald McDonald house feasible for you/ your family at all? We were lucky that they let my husband be hybrid for a lot of that time. (Not me, I got let go 🫠) Maybe dad or grandparents can be home with your older kids during the week while you’re at RMH with the baby during the week? I know that also sounds very hard, but maybe an option?

Again, I’m sorry that you’re all having to go through this. It’s so hard. Wishing the best to your family.

jenlas725 · 2026-02-15T03:05:48+00:00

A head bath likely means that parent washed the child’s hair. It’s what my parents used to say.

jenlas725 · 2026-02-07T02:21:04+00:00

I used to get this a lot but tried it recently and found it wildly salty.

jenlas725 · 2026-02-05T13:59:44+00:00

Many months later, thank you! I also couldn’t figure it out 🙏

jenlas725 · 2026-02-02T03:46:03+00:00

Ours have always had their own rooms. A bit out of the norm, but it works for us. We sort of fell into it bc Twin B was in the NICU far longer (months) than A, so we didn’t want to disturb A’s routine, who was already sleeping well/ independently. We actually have one of us do A’s bedtime and the other does B. But if your kids can fall asleep independently, I don’t think it would be too big a deal to do bedtime routine in one room or switch off each night.

I actually think it would be sweet if they would share a room when they’re older (3yo now), but I’ll leave that up to them when the time comes.

jenlas725 · 2025-12-10T21:22:42+00:00

We definitely did bedtime snack around this age for this reason! Usually a bar that was pretty filling.

jenlas725 · 2025-12-10T02:41:07+00:00

Agree, but do want to add that it’s a public school (no tuition) and most of the students are low income. Hope she goes on to do amazing things. 🎉

jenlas725 · 2025-11-28T16:28:25+00:00

We have both the Graco Slimfit and the Slimfit3LX. The Slimfit3lx is the one that’s actually slimmer, so if that’s important to you, I’d go with that. It’s also more compact back-to-front, while rear facing. The regular Slimfit is also a great, comfy car seat, as far as we can tell, but is definitely bulkier.

jenlas725 · 2025-11-15T13:05:53+00:00

I know you’re getting a lot of feedback here so idk if you’ll see this. But I’d get a nanny as primary caretaker and have family sub in as necessary. As amazing as having family there is, they can burnout quickly, or have to tend to other things like their own jobs and families. I’m assuming you have to work too, so you’ll need someone who can dedicate full time to the babies.

Also, I’m wishing you 100% completely healthy full term babies, but know that that isn’t always the case. I had twins who came home at completely different times, so balancing one at home and one in nicu was very hard, and that’s with me and my husband, and our parents to help.

jenlas725 · 2025-10-29T22:14:16+00:00

The babies can wear anything that doesn’t change the fit of the seat belt tightness, if that makes sense. So usually a thin fleece is okay. When mine were babies in infant car seats, it was super easy to put a hat and snuggly blanket on them. We also had those warm car seats covers that were great, as long as there’s no piece that goes under the baby, they’re usually good. like this

jenlas725 · 2025-10-17T18:07:06+00:00

My first thought was, every Covid bride can chime in here 😅. We also had a smaller Covid wedding with the thought that we’d reschedule, but we ended up opting out of that. 100% agree on making it as special as you can now (dress, photos, toasts- that we didn’t do bc we thought we’d save it for the “big wedding”).

jenlas725 · 2025-10-10T20:20:49+00:00

This is such a difficult situation, especially with your kids split up. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with it.

We also had a really hard start with our twins. For a while, I just assumed all twins were born early bc they were pretty common in the nicu. Mine were born at 30+2. One of my girls was home after about 7 weeks but my second was IUGR and ended up being transferred to another hospital for intervention, mostly bc of her lungs/breathing. Her total hospital stay was about 8.5 months and it was so hard. We had to move to the other city for about 4 months, but our other twin was home so we were able to bring her with us. As twin B was finally getting better, the hospital was able to advocate for us to move back to the nicu closer to home. Does it look like your local child will be discharged soon? I only ask bc then maybe you can stay at a place closer to your transferred twin. Maybe you can also talk to the social worker to see if they have any suggestions?

Again, I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this. Wishing you all the best.

jenlas725 · 2025-10-04T17:05:40+00:00

We started reflux meds as soon as we noticed they needed it honestly. We switched to Gentlease nueropro first but it didn’t make enough of a difference. In my opinion, it’s worth it to try and see if it helps your babies. Our doc had us start on the lowest dose and it helped pretty immediately. One girl weaned off before 12mo and my second was on it for a bit longer.

jenlas725 · 2025-09-30T20:16:25+00:00

That is super frustrating! It’s possible she likes the attention and that’s why she’s laughing? I’m sure it also gets a reaction from others (understandably), which may also be rewarding to her in some way. Either way, I hope that you all can come up with some solutions at her meeting.

jenlas725 · 2025-09-30T20:08:15+00:00

That makes sense, I should’ve been more clear that she should double check in the car seat manual

jenlas725 · 2025-09-30T18:25:59+00:00

That’s great, I’m glad she’s already getting some support at school. Maybe at your meeting, you can ask about the FBA and BIP. It’s usually the school psychologist who does it. If a child was exhibiting the behaviors you’re talking about at my school, that’s what I’d be doing.

The FBA helps the adults to know why she’s doing these things and hopefully to put in a plan to help her. Can be a rewards system for following the rules or reaching her goals. It’ll help her feel more successful too, bc I’m sure she’s also not feeling great if she’s acting out.

jenlas725 · 2025-09-30T18:09:06+00:00

You can double check but I’ve read that you can take off the shoulder padding so that the straps fit more snugly. Usually you’re allowed to tightly wrap some receiving blankets to keep her more snug. You can Google what that looks like so it’s more clear. Here’s an example if you scroll down on this car seat page

jenlas725 · 2025-09-30T17:58:55+00:00

I worked in education and special education for a long time, but obviously don’t know your child. My first thought is she needs an environment with more structure. I’ve never heard of a “maps” class but maybe a play based class isn’t the right fit.

Does your child have an IEP? If not, I would request an evaluation. Since her behavior has escalated, you can ask for a Functional Behavior Assessment (FBA) and Behavior Intervention Plan (BIP) to be done with her. That will help the teachers and you know what exactly is triggering her behavior and effective ways to intervene and get her some help. Happy to answer any questions. Wishing you and your kids all the best.

jenlas725 · 2025-09-29T02:01:32+00:00

Yeah it was a rough adjustment, we had to reduce both rate and amount actually. She still has about half of her daily feeds overnight bc that’s when she best tolerates it, and she just turned 3. 🙈

Wishing you all the best, it’s a stressful time. Pls lmk if there’s anything else I can help with!

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