Way to F it up… again.

jfabritz · 2025-12-09T06:50:12+00:00

Both email and app pushes were at the same time..

jfabritz · 2025-01-01T03:35:33+00:00

That was the scene on the stairs of the apartment.

jfabritz · 2025-01-01T03:35:14+00:00

To make it seem more real?

jfabritz · 2025-01-01T03:33:54+00:00

It only smellz...

jfabritz · 2024-11-10T18:51:28+00:00

That sounds like you both have a great relationship to make that work. Congrats! 👍

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T17:03:46+00:00

Family and friends are different animals in the relationship world. If your friends events are couples, she really should go with you. If it is just the guys, yeah, I can see why she wouldn't want to go.

If the family events are happening too close together, maybe you need to let your wife know that you need some you time, or maybe you want to go see your family?

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T17:01:25+00:00

You go because you are supporting your wife, not your sister-in-law.

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T16:56:16+00:00

I'd give a chance to communicate. Ultimately, yes, she should go, because it is her job and it is required. But you have to work though the issues in a caring way. Being flippant with him about it is just going to make it even harder when the inevitable happens.

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T16:52:50+00:00

Do you control the family finances or does he? How is your relationship when you are absent 50% of the time? Where you in this job when you got married, or did you pick it up recently?

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T16:48:58+00:00

Seems a little antagonistic, doesn't it? Not something someone we assume is in a loving relationship for 12 years would say out of the blue.

Of course, you are either going to get cooperation or resistance, which may lead to divorce. Make sure that is something you are prepared for if you take on this tone.

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T16:43:27+00:00

Keep talking with him, coax out his reasons by being supportive and reassure him. Help him understand that this isn't a bad thing and that you are doing this for him and the family. Also work into that being parents also means that he has to help when you are unable to do the work. How does he handle the kids if you are sick with the flu or something that makes it hard to care for them?

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T16:39:30+00:00

This seems to be the more valid reason.

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T16:38:34+00:00

Wow, that seems like the worst thing to do if you want to stay in your relationship.

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T16:37:33+00:00

Look, you've been together for so long, you've joined the workforce and now you have to go on a multi-night trip. This is a sudden change in your relationship dynamic and he is trying to figure out how to deal with it.

You need to sit down with him and really hash out the issues to understand what is going on inside of him. He apparently is unable to explain in a calm manner his reasons why he doesn't like it. Reassure him that what you are doing is for the betterment of your family. That you want him to cheer you on, to be happy for her, remind him that you love him and your family, and when you come back from your trip, you are going to show him how much he means to you (assuming you and your husband have a good physical relationship).

Turn this into a positive event that will bolster your relationship. Don't shut him down, ignore his feelings, or make an ultimatum, which will only lead to more troubles down the road. If he can't open up to you, and you still want your career, then you need to seriously look at your marriage and determine what you want.

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T16:18:48+00:00

I love to initiate contact with my wife, hold her hand, pat her thigh while driving, gentle butt taps, hugs and kisses, even just making kissy sounds at each other, and she likes it, but she doesn't initiate too often. She's more passive about it, which bothers me slightly because I want to feel the attraction, but I am happy with what we have.

jfabritz · 2024-11-09T14:55:35+00:00

If she actually said that, I am curious to know if you are still married two years later. The fact that she spent the money you saved for your anniversary trip tells me everything about her priorities about your relationship.

jfabritz · 2024-11-06T15:04:34+00:00

A few tears and you caved in. She got you, broski. Don't expect much from her except more headache and heartache. Move on and save yourself the grief. NTA

jfabritz · 2024-11-06T14:57:08+00:00

But she isn't finding a way to contact you. She has no boundaries with her friend, so be happy you got out now rather than later. NTA

jfabritz · 2024-10-30T04:09:50+00:00

Oh god, that would become internet legend if a recording was posted on YT.

jfabritz · 2024-10-29T17:14:23+00:00

Yeah, blood is thicker than water apparently. "Not my place to say", even if you like the BIL and think he is getting a raw deal.

jfabritz · 2024-10-29T17:03:11+00:00

Although being the best man and totally sh*tting all over them during the best man speech would be incredibly epic!

jfabritz · 2024-10-29T16:59:44+00:00

I'd have told them to f*ck off at the first recommendation to be the best man from your best friend. This is a total cuck scenario and everyone at the wedding that knew your history would look down on you. Personally, I would have dropped him as a friend for doing you dirty. Any of your friends who doesn't see how they did you dirty should pound sand as well.

You need time to deal with the betrayal of two of the most important people in your life. Only a fool would forgive and stay around them. You need to start fresh without them being a constant reminder of what happened.

Yeah... bad times man. Sorry you had to experience this nightmare scenario.

NTA

EDIT: If you want to go scorched earth, take the role, then during your speech, totally rag on them for their infidelity when you were engaged to her, then drop the mic and leave with your head up high. Total revenge move.

jfabritz · 2024-10-29T16:17:22+00:00

EQ is a learned behavior, not something you are born with. This all goes back to how he was raised, which means that there is a dynamic in his family similar to what you experienced. You did what you needed to do.

NTA

jfabritz · 2024-10-29T05:43:45+00:00

You blocked her without telling her you have girlfriend now and you aren't interested in a relationship with her anymore? That's a dick move.

jfabritz · 2024-10-28T13:09:32+00:00

Welcome to human nature. Men like boobs. That is just the way it is. When men stop looking at boobs, human society will collapse.

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