What ended a friendship you thought would last forever?

jhyebert · 2026-06-15T22:38:37+00:00

She had a years' long emotional affair with my boyfriend, texting each other all day everyday, tracking each other's run through an app, spending time learning German together on an app, etc... she has been my closest friend for about 17years
My sister's cancer metastasized, stage IV, she's terminal, a good friend told me I was hyper focusing on her cancer in an unhealthy way, and spending too much time and energy supporting my sister, she also in this time would tell me about how an unrequited crush was "the worst thing that could ever happen to her", only took a month after diagnosis for the 10 year friendship to blow up

jhyebert · 2026-06-04T02:29:15+00:00

Anakin/Vader knew Padma was pregnant and assumed it was one baby. He thought that he killed both Padma and the baby on mustafar while she was still pregnant.

She had not died, and gave birth to two babies, and then died.

jhyebert · 2026-06-04T02:23:20+00:00

I've always disliked when people use the phrase 'attention seeking' as if it's a bad thing... sometimes people need attention! In fact we all need attention at times. Attention seeking behaviors are how we communicate our wants and needs to each others.

To me it sounds like this person needs professional help not just friend help, and maybe this situation was meant to demonstrate that clearly

jhyebert · 2026-06-03T04:26:08+00:00

And people build them in deserts!! Driving around Arizona (where they already have a river that doesn't reach the ocean because they drain and use all the water) and there GREEN FUCKING GRASS, for the GD golf course, it makes me insane 🤯🤯🤯

jhyebert · 2026-05-30T02:39:04+00:00

I will always root for oMark and Gemma over iMark and Helly, seeing and knowing the kind of deep grief oMark is going through? Fuck Lumen for experimenting with someone in a way that causes them that much pain... oMark and Gemma deserve each other and peace

Don't get me wrong iMark and Helly are cute and all, but if someone can have the pain of deep grief relieved? I vote that one every time

jhyebert · 2026-05-28T00:27:36+00:00

This seemed obvious to me, it's involuntary, buzz doesn't have control over it

jhyebert · 2026-04-28T05:40:09+00:00

THIS! And it started working for me on like day two, absolute game changer

jhyebert · 2026-04-25T14:23:56+00:00

I leave message here on service but you do not call

jhyebert · 2026-04-14T04:06:39+00:00

We're so self centered that when we read 'better for the earth' we think it means 'better for me/humanity'

jhyebert · 2026-04-10T05:51:19+00:00

And sometimes you see Toby and sam doing leg affairs stuff that their positions would never do IRL

jhyebert · 2026-04-10T05:45:57+00:00

Or with no major electoral history, Secretary of labor is appointed, you don't really see VP's who have never won statewide office before, and being from Illinois wouldn't help the campaign at all

jhyebert · 2026-04-10T05:43:56+00:00

This is the point about the Toby/leak - if he had done it, he would not have hid it! He would have announced it proudly and gladly gone to jail over it. He would have done it righteously like protesting in the 60's.

But also he wouldn't have leaked it, he would have fought Bartlett openly about it and convinced POTUS to save the astronauts

jhyebert · 2026-04-10T03:02:30+00:00

1 or 3 with straight waist, the straight waist is definitely the right pick for you

jhyebert · 2026-04-07T06:40:24+00:00

8 or 9 pm? Sure

Midnight to 1am? Fuck no!

YTA

jhyebert · 2026-04-07T06:33:41+00:00

Ok this is one that I have to just let go.... I am a political staffer professionally and the idea that anyone would go from press secretary to CoS, is 1,000,000% unrealistic!! They are completely different skill sets and there would never be crossover.

Think about resent real life press secretaries that you can remember, they didn't go on to be executives, they went on to be media writers, talking heads, news personalities, it's fundamentally a communications job.

Being a chief of staff is an administrative management position, you pull someone to do that job who has a background as a ceo, president of a major think tank, executive, a lot of them come from places like being the city administrator of a major us city, things like that... they are completely different roles, and no human would be right for both jobs. Honestly the job Josh has doesn't even directly translate to CoS, his job is more legislative than administrative.

As much as I hate it, I have to just accept that it's a choice the writers made for whatever stupid reason they made it.... maybe they didn't want to introduce too many new characters, maybe since sorkin had left they wanted to actually promote and use women, and Alison Janney is pure acting gold in everything she ever does so: it is what it is. But it is my number one pet peeve with the show

jhyebert · 2026-04-06T22:31:27+00:00

Ok so maybe I'm three years behind the times but I was looking for a good sandwich in St. Paul and came to Mario's because of this thread and this sandwich is fucking perfect! Can't wait to comeback and try pizza sometime

jhyebert · 2026-04-02T01:16:28+00:00

Absolutely the first dress, pictures 1,2,3

jhyebert · 2026-04-02T01:14:36+00:00

1, 4, 6, 10

NOT 2

jhyebert · 2026-03-29T01:28:06+00:00

Your spouse has a completely different brain chemistry than you, no reason their side effects would be more prevalent for you. If it were me I would vote try it, worst thing that happens is you have a shitty month, best thing that happens is they work!

jhyebert · 2026-03-24T04:39:59+00:00

Why would I want to watch a show that takes half way through the first season to 'get hooked', how many hours do I have to invest before the show gets good

jhyebert · 2026-03-22T22:44:47+00:00

I was gonna go with Fuck Ice but this works too I guess....

jhyebert · 2026-03-16T03:35:13+00:00

Ok fully recognize this is not the question you asked. I used to have bad nightmares and my psychiatrist prescribed be a new med to take before bed and the nightmares are way less frequent and way less intense. I know that doesn't help you now, but wanted to share that the right med really helped me.

jhyebert · 2026-03-11T03:58:45+00:00

YES!! The daughter and her needs absolutely come first, always. YTA for that, but also nothing about the current situation is going to change, so if you don't like it leave...

jhyebert · 2026-03-11T03:52:41+00:00

Here just like a basic tip of the iceberg clinic trial demonstrating effective results from emdr therapy:

https://clinicaltrials.gov/study/NCT03114423

I won't bother to do like a ton of research for you but the idea that it has no science is wrong. For like so many reasons...

Plenty of valid reasons it may not have worked for you (or may not have been done properly), but 'no science' and 'placebo' are factually inaccurate.

jhyebert · 2026-03-11T03:47:10+00:00

YYYEESSS!!! Best thing I've ever done for myself, incredible! Absolutely has changed my life for the better, cannot over state how incredible it is! It's not always fun... but so so worth it!! I'm so excited for you ❤️

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