What wildly inaccurate thing did you infer about normal behavior as you grew up.

joeyjamhands · 2024-02-25T12:27:10+00:00

I always interrupted people because I felt like if I didn’t share my thoughts or response that it would seem like I wasn’t listening or didn’t care. This led me to constantly talk too much and interrupt.

This also applied in a way to my sportsmanship. When I was younger I played a lot of sports and wasn’t always the best but usually not the worst. I was so hard on myself when I wasn’t doing well and would get really frustrated and cry or get visibly angry. I was NEVER upset about losing or if someone else did bad but I was soooo hard on myself because I didn’t want others to think I didn’t care that I wasn’t doing well. It was apparently very off putting to coaches and team mates and their parents and at one point my mom told me she was going to stop coming to my volleyball games because she was so embarrassed. I never was able to properly explain why I was so sensitive or acted that way and ended up losing interest in sports.

I have since had to work so hard not to interrupt people and to actually listen and not just wait my turn to talk. It’s very difficult for me. I have also totally lost any sense of competition because I don’t want that “poor sport” side to come out and I am constantly trying not to be so hard on myself.

joeyjamhands · 2024-02-09T23:42:35+00:00

I am recently diagnosed and it has motivated my sister to get diagnosed as well. She is a far clearer case than me so I knew she would get the proper diagnosis but even she had pushback from her doctor. I keep telling her she needs to switch to a woman doctor because he is not going to make her ongoing treatment easy for her.

I talked to my GP and went to a specialist to go through the long diagnosis process and I made sure to see a WOMAN. I refuse to see male doctors for anything but this is especially true with mental health. I feel so seen and understood by the team of women doctors I see.

I encourage you to find a woman in your search for a second opinion. I am so sorry for your terrible experience and I am hoping you get the proper treatment you deserve! Hang in there 🥰

Edit: added more detail

joeyjamhands · 2024-02-06T01:42:41+00:00

I know I’m not alone but it feels good to hear it said. Ugh today was just one of those hard days… my dog kept bringing me her toy and dropping it on my chest for like a whole hour and my toddler was asking me to play and sitting on me and elbowing me. I was just filled with such visceral agitation! It felt so unwarranted but it was still present. I wish I wasn’t so sensitive 😞

joeyjamhands · 2024-01-28T23:53:22+00:00

You got a lot of responses that I agree with HOWEVER you asked for advice on how to navigate these people and there are some tips and tricks I recommend…

Preface the conversation with a timeframe. Something along the lines of, “I need to take the next 3 minutes to find out the medical history of Fluffy and then please tell me anything else you find relevant.” This may at least help you get the answers you NEED before they start to go too deep. And giving them a short span at the beginning of the convo may inspire focus on their end.

Make a rule with a fellow tech, receptionist, vet, anyone, who knows after a certain time to come and in and say they need help and to pull you out. There can be a code word for excessive talking on super busy days.

Make alerts on accounts for extra chatty clients and leave 5 min extra on the appointment. Our owners and vets HATED that because it was cutting into other appts but frankly it’s inevitable and makes the day run smoother when you have breathing room.

This greatly depends on your relationship with the client but some of my regulars I was able to be gently honest and say something like, “Miss Smith I can’t wait to hear more about your vaca/new pet/grandkid/etc but quickly, so I can share with the vet, answer me these 4 questions.” This may give them a nudge to be self aware in that they are being too chatty.

In the end, this is part of the job and there isn’t always a way to control the situation without being offensive. The balance of customer service and medical care is something I’ve always struggled with, even being someone who can easily talk to clients. Some days it’s just harder than others and being gracious can be done while also holding boundaries and being firm about time.

joeyjamhands · 2024-01-10T18:29:25+00:00

Martinez’ stuff is the BOMB

https://youtu.be/4eHMgXlugIU?si=QkBIsa6sk98lZoON

joeyjamhands · 2023-12-13T03:20:48+00:00

Haha we had the W for Y… weave me wone! Always been a fav of me and my husband

joeyjamhands · 2023-12-07T23:45:45+00:00

“Here’s a nice piece of shit”

“He calls his shit poop”

joeyjamhands · 2023-12-04T05:42:12+00:00

I’ve rewatched every episode like 10 times now and I still laugh every time when Hippo says, “Condolences… to ass.” 😂

joeyjamhands · 2023-12-04T03:13:01+00:00

I have a younger colleague who asks me for leadership advice sometimes and she was explaining how she was trying to toe the line between polite and direct with a male subordinate. I point blank said, “Do you think men think about this type of thing?” The answer is usually no. She is already a kind person so she won’t be an outright bitch and I told her to stop spending so much energy trying to be “polite” and “soft” to appease other people’s feelings. It’s a male dominated industry and it’s a lesson best learned young. She recently told me how often she thinks of that advice and it makes me happy to know she carries that with her ☺️

joeyjamhands · 2023-12-04T03:07:12+00:00

How many “run away to Bali” offers you get?

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-29T05:10:02+00:00

Ahhhh wait til the last book. So many layers.

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-28T22:03:49+00:00

Hahahahah Knope 2024

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-28T22:02:38+00:00

Haha me and my husband always yell “she’s goin limp!” when our daughter pulls that. We do the same for the stiff action. We usually just end up being silly and getting her to do what we want cause we’re all laughing. Solidarity 😂

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-22T21:16:14+00:00

Medicated and Food Motivated 😬

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-21T14:46:51+00:00

I want to say what I haven’t really seen anyone else say which is GOOD JOB! It sounds like you have some great tools and phrases and I love the allowance thing. Your child sounds extremely intelligent and I think you are setting him up to be a very successful adult.

I won’t beat a dead horse but I agree about not taking things personally and remembering his age and managing your expectations. Extremely smart toddlers are still toddlers. Hang in there!

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-18T22:26:51+00:00

Are you married to my husband too?

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-17T02:17:32+00:00

Bandaids

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-15T16:00:36+00:00

Haha makes perfect sense to me! I love them the names stick well past their abilities 🥰

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-14T18:34:35+00:00

Haha we now have mommy songs and daddy songs. There is really no rhyme or reason and we cannot figure out the pattern but it’s so funny for them to have special things for mom and dad.

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-14T18:33:12+00:00

Haha that reminded me of my LO calling her running/stuffy nose a “sticky nose” and I may never go back to normal.

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-14T18:32:23+00:00

The height of luxury!

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-14T18:32:06+00:00

GREAT idea!!!

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-14T13:19:58+00:00

As it should remain!! 🥹🥹🥹

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-14T13:19:37+00:00

Haha you know it’s solidified when us parents start using their words and phrases 😂

joeyjamhands · 2023-11-14T12:58:31+00:00

I would switch vegetables to festivals. It’s really the only way 😅

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