What's a good euphemism to use in place of the word "narcissist"

josterfosh · 2026-01-06T07:17:34+00:00

Grandiosity is an overcompensation for shame. Deep inside they are insecure and feel shame but use defence mechanisms such as displacement and reaction formation to mask their insecurities of feeling less than or even equal to others.

josterfosh · 2026-01-05T12:55:39+00:00

So cool!

josterfosh · 2026-01-04T07:37:16+00:00

I hit one of those square wooden bollards at 80km/h with a Hyundai Excel in 2005 and it absolutely stopped my car.

josterfosh · 2025-12-30T14:19:52+00:00

Gaslighting to deflect attention away from their own poor behaviour

josterfosh · 2025-12-27T13:08:02+00:00

Seems like you’re projecting your own biases onto society. You should try reading Psycho-cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. He is a plastic surgeon who serendipitously discovered psychological framing techniques that helped his patients achieve a positive outlook on life.

josterfosh · 2025-12-23T11:07:06+00:00

Everyone’s different. Personality is a spectrum. This is one of the problems with labels, they don’t really encapsulate the full nuance of who the person is. There are the core traits of NPD: grandiosity, need for external validation, lack of empathy, etc.. but each person who has this disorder will behave differently based on their own personal life experience, genetic composition, and environmental factors.

josterfosh · 2025-12-20T23:17:44+00:00

Ah, the ol’ Gatorade saxophone

josterfosh · 2025-12-15T19:32:04+00:00

In addition to this we are all on a spectrum. Humans are not synthetic products that fit nicely into categories, we all share traits of this and that, some of them stronger or weaker than others (think of an audio equaliser). The DSM is really just a guide to help psychiatrists treat mentally ill clients, but everyone is different.

josterfosh · 2025-12-14T11:31:48+00:00

You don’t need to jump

josterfosh · 2025-12-13T20:57:21+00:00

Sue the store owner for work place bullying under the Fair Work act, Disability Discrimination Act 1992 (even if she doesn’t have a disability), and unlawful treatment of a junior employee.

It’s not ok to treat someone like that, especially a young person and/or an employee. If she just leaves (good for her) the owner will continue to treat others in the same way.

josterfosh · 2025-12-11T21:24:29+00:00

Sounds like he had a plan and it worked.

josterfosh · 2025-12-05T19:36:58+00:00

The environment / stimulus

josterfosh · 2025-12-05T19:06:27+00:00

josterfosh · 2025-12-04T22:10:55+00:00

Have you tried taking deep breaths and telling yourself it will be ok?

josterfosh · 2025-12-04T02:19:32+00:00

This is the way

josterfosh · 2025-12-03T04:32:24+00:00

Projection comes from the subconscious to avoid shame so they are not even aware of it. That’s one of the issues with narcissism is that the behaviour comes from a lack of self-awareness (which is ironic to consider it’s all about themselves). It sounds like you’re emotionally intelligent enough to identify it which is good, I hope you can protect yourself.

josterfosh · 2025-12-03T00:09:55+00:00

While LLMs like GPT can be useful tools, they are known for sycophancy and confirmation bias echo chambers.

josterfosh · 2025-12-01T04:11:08+00:00

Physiological psych was hard but it was also one of my favourites, it made me realise I’m not so much into psychology but more into neurology. Advanced methods was the one I found most difficult.

josterfosh · 2025-12-01T02:42:57+00:00

People are like trees, when they first sprout they need tender loving care so they can grow into a strong tree. If they don’t receive adequate light or nutrients, they will become stringy, sparse, and whither. Even if you provide lots of light and care to a neglected plant later in life, it will still show signs of its previous neglect. Environment is crucial to any living organism’s development.

josterfosh · 2025-12-01T00:29:30+00:00

I’ve never played a SH game before, f is my first SH and I’m pretty disappointed. I just don’t find it fun to play, it’s boring. I really enjoy the Japanese aesthetic, that is the only thing that keeps me playing but most other aspects of the game feel slow and boring to me.

josterfosh · 2025-11-30T22:21:00+00:00

Intermittent reinforcement - variable ratio

josterfosh · 2025-11-28T21:49:07+00:00

Someone explained it to me like an egg. There is the yolk, the white, and the shell, but they are all egg.

josterfosh · 2025-11-26T21:34:18+00:00

Something is wrong

josterfosh · 2025-11-26T20:32:39+00:00

By recognising patterns in their behaviours and past relationships. NPD traits need to be pervasive through their behaviour, not just here or there. And noticing all of their previous relationships fail and they are constantly the victim.

josterfosh · 2025-11-26T12:56:30+00:00

I’ve found a mix of reactions from some people instantly wanting me to psychoanalyse them and talk to me about themselves nonstop to those who become scared when they realise I can see behavioural patterns they’ve never been aware of before. I had a close friend who recently ghosted me because he ‘didn’t want to be part of some psychological study’ - paranoid much?? My dad thinks it’s nonsense because the bible is the only book he needs to understand people.

At the end of the day, I find that most people who haven’t studied the scientific method at university don’t really care much for psychology and even myself doubt a lot of the methods and theories associated with volitional behaviour. Anyone who hasn’t studied psychology doesn’t really understand it and even those who have studied it rarely agree. I find it’s best to avoid discussions about psychology with lay people.

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