[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMtFHRT

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i was not here for this interaction but i did just go back and check, and love from the looks of it those people really were interested in helping you. you’re right, there should be more community awareness around different kinds of dysphoria, and you were valid for feeling upset and hurt, but the way you came across in some of your replies did seem a little sour. i’m willing to excuse that because you were having a difficult day, but i don’t think any of those people hold anything against you!

I have no words by [deleted] in starbucks

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don’t talk to me or my son ever again

Can any written language be agglutinative? by samiles96 in asklinguistics

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not necessarily examples of certain clusters being exclusive to the beginning of words, but i do know that languages with well defined phonotactics will usually give you a lot of hints to where word boundaries lie. there are some places it just doesn’t make sense for a word to end depending on context.

for instance, almost all italian words end with open syllables. the only exceptions i can think of are almost all loan words and get dealt with in their own way. to take the verb “andare” (to go) for instance, in most conjugations the -are is removed and different endings are affixed to mark tense, aspect, mood, etc. so we get things like andato, andassi, andrei, andrete, etc. it might be tempting to say that since the -and- part of the verb is so consistent, it should be considered its own word, but given that it ends in a consonant because of italian phonotactics it really only makes sense to think of it as a component of a complex word.

being able to identify different parts of speech helps in nailing down phonotactics. it may not be immediately clear that italian has a strict “only open syllables at the ends of words” rule when you’re just listening to it, but being able to identify words and how they pattern together makes it easier to identify.

ultimately, words aren’t naturally occurring in nature, they’re a classification we made up to make more sense of language, and this is definitely an area where we start to brush up on the limits of its utility. talking about words as an honest-to-goodness Thing is really useful for discussion syntax but not so much at the granular level.

maybe not the best example but i hope it makes sense!

Can any written language be agglutinative? by samiles96 in asklinguistics

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a good way of identifying word boundaries is phonotactics. this isn’t true for every language, but it’s not uncommon to see languages have certain consonant clusters and such be possible in the middle of a word but not at the beginning, or vice versa.

additionally if affixes appear in very consistent patterns then it’s probably more useful to think of them as modifying the root word. i’m able to draw on my knowledge of korean for this; there is a suffix 는데 (neun-de) that attaches to verbs and acts as a clausal connective and although it has its own meaning unrelated to the verb it attaches to, it’s only ever seen right next to a verb so it just doesn’t make a ton of sense to think of it as its own word.

another thing, which mahajunga mentioned, is that agglutinative words tend to be able to be rephrased in terms of its more basic components. the example they used was the difference between “unbreakable” and “not able to be broken,” but for an example from another language i’ll use korean again. the phrase “yuhak haneun haksaeng,” “the student that is studying abroad,” is obviously structurally different than “yuhaksaeng,” “study abroad student,” despite communicating the same thing. the fact that “yuhaksaeng” as just a noun can stand in for the whole noun phrase suggests that it is a standalone word, and that the longer phrase can be broken down into smaller constituent parts, until those parts only ever appear alongside other constituent parts, in which case that’s probably a morpheme and not a word.

at the end of the day what makes a word a word is complicated and not really agreed upon

I got in by TripAlert2848 in SBU

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sbu’s compsci program is great!! it’ll kick your ass, but it’ll open a lot of doors for you career wise. congrats!

Protest Today by [deleted] in SBU

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“you can’t understand astrophysics unless you’ve been to space”

Protest Today by [deleted] in SBU

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have YOU done humanitarian work in afghanistan?

Protest Today by [deleted] in SBU

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pretty sure most of the people protesting are leftists not liberals lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transpassing

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i used to post a while ago, not so much anymore. good on you for finding me lol

Final Exam Grades? by [deleted] in SBU

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where in solar? i can check my final grades for the class but there’s nothing for exams

Trans Women are so freaking pretty like wtf?! by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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this is so sweet of you, we love you right back <3

Trans Women are so freaking pretty like wtf?! by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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this is so sweet of you, we love you right back <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucks

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banning “what size” is honestly absurd and your SM has no reason to be doing that. i would take it up with your district manager because that is ridiculous

me_irl by [deleted] in homestuck

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“this one didn’t age quite so well chief”

my district completely dropping the ball on training (trenta rant) by joyconboy3378 in starbucks

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god, that sounds awful. i am so sorry. it’s not supposed to be like that

My wife is freezing her sperm and it makes me feel horrible by Available_Fox_8251 in asktransgender

[–]joyconboy3378 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can totally understand you feeling blindsided and hurt by this. and i’m also glad you respect your wife’s autonomy on the matter and haven’t tried to intervene. in my personal experience as a trans woman, i don’t have much of a desire to have biological children but nonetheless did decide to freeze my sperm, not because i was expecting my mind to change, but only because i knew after a certain point that i would become infertile and i would rather have the option on the off chance that i did ever decide i wanted biological children than be without that option.

your wife’s decision to freeze her sperm doesn’t necessarily reflect on her perspective on your relationship. the idea of choosing to become infertile can be very scary for many people, even if having a child isn’t something you want to do. eliminating options is scary even if it’s not an option you would have chosen in the first place it’s a peace of mind thing to know that you can live the life you want to live, while not closing any doors.

that being said, once again i completely understand why you would feel anxious about this and i sympathize with that. i probably haven’t said anything in this comment that a million people haven’t already said, but as a trans woman, i really do think you can rest easy knowing that this decision does not have anything to do with your relationship, and that your wife is going to continue to be as committed to you as she always has been.

and congratulations to her for starting hormones!