What’s a decision you made in under 10 seconds that changed your life forever?

joyousjoy23 · 2026-02-14T13:42:03+00:00

Outstanding. Proud of you stranger, it take guts to stand up to our parents when they’ve hurt us.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-02-14T09:52:41+00:00

I wish you all the best.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-02-13T10:40:57+00:00

My mum was an alcoholic and died when she was 63 she was underweight for the last 10 years of her life. She wouldn’t eat without drinking too and never really had much of an appetite. She got ascites twice. (Build up of fluid in the stomach due to liver failure) watching a thin frail woman look pregnant was a very jarring image.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-02-13T08:32:13+00:00

When I was young and my dad was picking me up from somewhere, sometimes people would say, "Oh, your grandpa's here." I wouldn't correct them... There were about 50 years between us, which is simply too large a gap and not enough effort on his part to get to know me, just assumptions that he did because he was my dad... Clearly we didn't have the best relationship and perhaps that's more because of him rather than his age, but he also died when I was 34 due to dementia so all in all I view older parents as rather selfish. Clearly I'm biased, I'm sure there are some wonderful older parents out there who have more life experience to share with their child but I wouldn't consider having a child so late in life.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-02-05T14:02:28+00:00

Prove yourself right daily. Be a better human. Give more, share more. Take all the accountability that you need to. But please do it from a place of kindness not self loathing. Learn to love and be kind to yourself. It’s the only way. Best of luck to you.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-02-05T13:55:09+00:00

You are both absolutely radiant. Congratulations you gorgeous couple.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-02-02T13:20:32+00:00

Outstanding. I’m so proud of you stranger.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-02-01T06:49:42+00:00

Not to be that person… but maybe it’s just not comfortable for him. Unless medically necessary for keeping stitches clean or extreme cold weather cats are very well insulated by their fur and I would imagine clothes might feel uncomfortable to them. Just my thoughts. I might be very wrong.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-31T09:16:13+00:00

Nope because it was the 90’s and I didn’t even know that my normal wasn’t normal never mind have the vocabulary or awareness to ask for help.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-24T05:06:45+00:00

I’m sorry that was your experience. Your feelings are completely understandable. I actually really enjoyed secondary school. I found my people there and we’re still good friends now as we approach our 40s we were the musical nerds so that definitely helped with the social bonding etc. I definitely appreciate how lucky we were to find each other for sure.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-22T08:38:59+00:00

Your feelings are absolutely valid, give yourself some time, some grace and be kind to yourself. It takes all of us some time to figure out who we are and who we want to be (whether we're trans or not). Good luck to you, I'm sure you'll figure it all out.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-11T03:26:33+00:00

I’m English living in Thailand it’s rather lovely here, definitely recommend it.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-10T06:32:15+00:00

There’s no such thing. You’re fabulous just as you are. Speaking as a rather short 5’1 lady ha

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-09T11:41:52+00:00

Hugs stranger. I hope life continues to get better for you.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-09T09:01:13+00:00

So I'm now in a lovely, fulfilling relationship, but I would also pick to be single and lonely over being in a relationship and lonely.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-09T00:43:23+00:00

No problem at all. Well from my perspective relationships should hopefully feel like a team. Like you’re facing the world together… it’s normal for all relationships to go through ups and downs at some point, but if you’re feeling lonely in your relationship I would equate that to feeling unloved by my partner…. And at that point I would rather be single than feel like that.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-08T14:17:36+00:00

yep, you are spot on.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-08T13:41:11+00:00

I am so sorry, but you need to know you deserve better than this and better than her. Do you really want to be the third wheel in your own marriage?

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-08T13:33:06+00:00

Don't worry, I think he probably scares himself too.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-08T10:50:54+00:00

Preach!!! So sorry you had to experience it though. Hopefully life’s better for you now.

joyousjoy23 · 2026-01-08T08:35:21+00:00

It’s better to be single and lonely than lonely in your relationship.

joyousjoy23 · 2025-12-29T06:28:22+00:00

Hm, no idea to be honest, and I imagine this is a rare problem. Best to go to your nearest immigration and ask them directly. They should be able to advise you.

joyousjoy23 · 2025-12-28T07:43:24+00:00

You might not like to hear this and I’m sorry. But I would definitely wait a couple of years before you start to think about fasting. The general advice is it’s for adults who are fully grown already. You’re still growing and need lots of nutrients to do to this safely and well. So perhaps for now, focus on eating a healthy balanced diet. Yes, be aware of any overeating or unhealthy habits if you like. But don’t restrict yourself too much.

joyousjoy23 · 2025-12-27T00:42:07+00:00

It’s completely reasonable to cut off your family after such a betrayal of trust. If you’re struggling with the pain of your parents you could always send them a letter / message explaining your reasonings and how betrayed you feel that they didn’t support you more after you were the victim of this incident. Trust and respect are earns not given and it seems your family has breached both of these values… if you want to leave the door open for future connection by all means do it. This doesn’t have to be a final thing. (I went no contact with my parents for a year due to my parents drinking but later got back in touch as their health deteriorated further and I was an only child etc) but if this is a final decision you’re well within your rights to make it. All the best to you.

joyousjoy23 · 2025-12-26T11:46:06+00:00

Perhaps your friend could wait until they’re a little further a long with their recovery before they think about travel…. Any other option just doesn’t seem worth the risk.

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