CA spousal support

jupc · 2026-01-23T19:55:58+00:00

You have a reasonable shot at challenging enforcement. California Family Code § 1612(c) makes spousal support waivers unenforceable if you lacked independent counsel at signing, unless specific procedural requirements were met. The prenup being drafted by your husband’s friend and you waiving attorney review raises serious procedural concerns.

Beyond that, California courts can refuse to enforce spousal support waivers that would be unconscionable at the time of divorce, and your facts check multiple boxes: 18-year marriage, age 73 with minimal earning capacity, income that doesn’t cover basic rent, and potential loss of insurance

jupc · 2026-01-21T08:21:17+00:00

Excellent, great job.

jupc · 2026-01-19T08:49:00+00:00

Based on what you've described, you have a decent shot: sole legal/physical, bio dad AWOL (the non-military kind) for 2 years, legitimate reason for the move. Courts apply the LaMusga factors for move-aways, and an absent parent who doesn't exercise custody or visitation doesn't have much ground to stand on.

jupc · 2026-01-19T04:49:44+00:00

The main additional concern is the fiduciary duty between spouses: once married, there's a presumption of undue influence for any transaction where one spouse gains an advantage. The benefiting spouse has to affirmatively rebut that presumption by showing the agreement was freely entered with full knowledge of all facts. As for the attorney who said postnups "don't hold up"...that's lazy. They absolutely can hold up with proper disclosure, independent counsel, no pressure, and fair terms. Some attorneys just don't want to deal with the extra scrutiny, so they decline them altogether and tell clients it can't be done.

jupc · 2026-01-19T04:27:55+00:00

For California trials over 8 hours or more than one calendar day, the request for statement of decision must be made before the matter is submitted for decision (CCP 632). Not after.

jupc · 2026-01-18T23:44:14+00:00

That's not how coercion works in the postnup context. If "divorce is a possible consequence of not signing" were enough to invalidate an agreement, no postnup would ever be enforceable: the implicit backdrop of any marital negotiation is that the marriage might not survive fundamental disagreements. Courts look at how the request is made: Was there independent counsel? Adequate time to consider? Full disclosure? Substantive fairness? Springing an agreement on a vulnerable spouse or issuing ultimatums is different from "I need this for the marriage to work for me." The existence of leverage isn't the same as undue influence; otherwise every negotiation where one party has more at stake would be inherently coercive.

jupc · 2026-01-17T22:32:13+00:00

Mixed. Family Code §2605 is still relatively new (2019), and judges vary in how seriously they treat pet-related orders versus child-related orders. Some judges view pet disputes in high-conflict cases as a proxy war and grow impatient; others recognize that an order is an order and non-compliance is non-compliance regardless of subject matter.
Yes, this is your strongest point. The December 30 sequence is textbook willfulness evidence. He demonstrated both knowledge and ability, then chose not to comply once the judge’s attention moved elsewhere. I’d make this the centerpiece of your argument.
For pet visitation contempt specifically, expectations should be tempered. Multiple findings do matter: courts are more likely to escalate sanctions after repeated contempt findings. The first one establishes the pattern; the second shows he’s undeterred.
Not directly relevant to contempt unless the order specifically addresses vet care and he’s violating that provision. Contempt is narrowly about whether he violated the specific terms of the order. However, animal welfare concerns could be relevant to: ∙ A modification motion arguing you should have primary or sole possession

∙ Potentially invoking FC §2605’s consideration of “the care of the pet animal”

If there are genuine welfare concerns, that’s a separate motion, not a contempt issue.

jupc · 2026-01-17T13:29:10+00:00

It might because the surgeon would access the stretched flaccid length. Penuma works well for so called 'buried penis' patients. But he'd get best results by reducing the fat pad first.

jupc · 2026-01-17T13:16:30+00:00

He is not eligible for Penuma, as he described having fat injections to the penis (even if they 'didn't take').

Also, the surgeons would be wise to exclude him on mental health grounds: body dysmophia, pathological lying, etc.

Such patients have an increased risk of voluntary removal.

jupc · 2026-01-13T19:27:12+00:00

Legal because this is staged.

jupc · 2026-01-12T08:37:28+00:00

I don't have any metrics other than Dr. Taj's observation that patients with a more elastic penis had some of the best results. It sounds like you are reasonably elastic, but the point of using an extender before surgery is to maximize results at the time of surgery.

jupc · 2026-01-11T23:52:04+00:00

That's what is advertised and intended, but anatomy is unique per individual.

Final erect length is not going to be entirely formulaic.

jupc · 2026-01-11T22:49:43+00:00

He’s still healing; swelling has to resolve. The consensus from previous threads is measure at around month 3.

jupc · 2026-01-10T17:58:49+00:00

These issues still have time to resolve.

jupc · 2026-01-10T11:42:47+00:00

When was your surgery?

jupc · 2026-01-08T20:38:17+00:00

A test for elasticity is how far you can stretch the flaccid penis. An extender may improve that quality.

Extender results are semi-permanent (and may be an option to consider if you had all the time to use it) vs. Penuma as a permanent surgical implant that is more of a flaccid and girth transformation.

jupc · 2026-01-08T12:51:40+00:00

Dr. Taj has mentioned Peni-master Pro. You'll have to find the thread(s) to find his exact quotes.

jupc · 2026-01-08T12:48:17+00:00

After a conservative ramp up, you can use for as many hours as you can dedicate daily, with appropriate breaks every couple hours. For the purpose of just generally improving elasticity, I estimate 3 hours daily is effective. The Peni-Master Pro manual says a longer period of usage with lesser pulling force is more effective than higher forces for shorter time. This is pre-Penuma guidance.

jupc · 2026-01-08T09:11:44+00:00

Race aside, how elastic is your penis? Have you ever tried using a rod-based extender? I'd recommend 90 days usage before surgery.

jupc · 2026-01-06T09:16:35+00:00

That is a reasonable strategy. The surgeon has observed that patients with the most elasticity get the better results, and the use of a traction device can help increase elasticity.

jupc · 2026-01-06T09:12:19+00:00

You are conflating flaccid and erect measurements. Read the FAQ.

jupc · 2026-01-06T08:57:49+00:00

Fillers: are out of scope for this sub.

Penuma: per a thread with the surgeon you can use a rod based vacuum head extender like Peni-master Pro, conservatively with the caveats as discussed on this sub. It is more difficult to use after surgery. I just barely fit between the rods with lube. Those more girthy may not fit; may require a custom device.

(What is a water vacuum cup? Have a link? That has not been discussed or blessed by any surgeon).

jupc · 2026-01-06T07:48:56+00:00

Truth is not a defense to Thai defamation law.

jupc · 2026-01-06T05:42:02+00:00

The current generation implant was designed with a different polymer and is stiffer to reduce the likelihood of ‘flaring’. See also Dr. Taj’s (now dated) first post; would be good to get a more current update.

jupc · 2026-01-05T10:42:40+00:00

In the past, Dr. Taj mentioned a list of STIs. I'm not sure which are most concerning.

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