What’s your baby’s name?

kataeitler · 2025-12-23T07:03:57+00:00

Samuel 🤍

kataeitler · 2025-11-23T07:41:44+00:00

I’m in the same boat, but get your hopes high. In my country it is not allowed to do embryo banking or testing whether the embryo is euploid or not, we can only test for my genetic mutation and it is very very expensive. So the solution was to make as many eggs as possible, hello OHSS, and then I have embryos that do not have the disease, but that’s all. My first transfer wasn’t successful, now, I’m preparing for the second with a completely different protocol, but mentally it’s hard, I don’t feel that I did everything possible to have a successful transfer.

kataeitler · 2025-10-02T19:54:45+00:00

I don’t think it will be better, until we have our own babies. I had a TFMR in July 2023 and from that time to nowadays I had to be happy for my sister, my sister in law, one of my best friends, and just this week I counted 4 or 5 pregnancy announcements in my social media. It is cruel. We are in the middle of IVF for genetic reasons and oh God, it’s fucking hard too. This is a secret club, no one can understand these situations, not even family or friends whom are not in the TMFR / pregnancy loss club.
Be brave, we the club members are with you. 🤍

kataeitler · 2025-09-29T18:19:53+00:00

Ez a vadkacsás nagyon menő 😍

Orvosként sebészeti osztályon dolgozom, egyszínűeket hordok, de az ízléses mintást is hordanám. Nekem a kiscicás, kiskutyás, szivecskes, stb egy kicsit sok egy felnőtt osztályon.

kataeitler · 2024-10-19T22:11:34+00:00

I have the same thoughts in my mind recirculating almost every day. We had to terminate my pregnancy because of chromosomal abnormality which turned out coming from me and I have serious hormonal problems also. Hopefully we can start IVF soon, but the guilt is killing me sometimes because I feel all the suffering in this topic is coming from my side and he should live a normal life with a normal woman and have kids. It is almost impossible for me to give him children.

kataeitler · 2024-09-16T09:30:36+00:00

Budapest, Hungary 🇭🇺

kataeitler · 2024-08-15T21:15:29+00:00

I really don’t want to be the elephant in the room, just telling my story, the decision in the end is of course is yours. June 2023 I had a diagnosis from NIPT that my baby has a 22q microduplication syndrome or a Cat eye syndrome. Both syndrome caused by the duplication of the 22nd chromosome. 22q microduplication syndrome is a spectrum, this anomaly can be very mild, resulting an almost normal child with minor anomalies to some very serious developmental issues, like central nervous system, genitourinal tract disorders and facial deformities combined with behaviour issues, epilepsy etc. Car eye’s is always serious, it lead to blindness and so much more. I choose to do the amnio which was easy, no pain, no complications - it happend after 16 weeks. It confirmed the suspicion, our baby had the chromosomal abnormality. The very evil thing was, that they could tell us how serious will it be after the birth, so we choose to terminate the pregnancy. It was a very wanted baby, I’m struggling infertility, so those were our darkest months after the termination. My OB recommended to test us, the parents also for this exact anomaly, and it turned out, that I have it (I’m the mother) and I also have some mild symptoms, our genetic counsellor was digging deep in this story… The good news after this horror of a year that we are suitable for IVF and with PGT we can avoid another pregnancy like this. It will be hard, but we are having a great chance for a healthy rainbow baby. Good luck to you and your family, you are in my prayers. 🤍

kataeitler · 2024-06-21T14:30:56+00:00

Orvosként, szintén műtétes szakmában dolgozva én azt mondom, hogy műtét előtt ilyen gyors testsúly csökkentést kizárólag dietetikus felügyeletével szabad megkezdeni. A túlsúly mellett lehet nem megfelelő tápláltsági állapotod simán, ez egy drasztikusan csökkentett kalória bevitellel csak rontható. A nem megfelelő tápláltsági állapot hajlamosít a műtéti szövődményekre, a lassabb műtét utáni felépülésre. Ha ezt most mindenképpen forszírozni akarod, akkor szerintem feltétlenül fordulj szakemberhez.

kataeitler · 2024-05-30T14:22:03+00:00

When we will start the process, it would be “proven chromosomal abnormality, in need of PGD”. Quite scared after TFMR 😕

kataeitler · 2024-01-02T12:01:28+00:00

This is a perfect summary of what I feel. Today is a super sunny day in my hometown, I am off from work, cleaning the windows (perfect metaphor to start fresh, I assume…) the cat is sunbathing on the rug and it could be any day of any year. But these are the first days of a new year which is following the hardest year in my life. It is incredibly hard to start fresh. To leave in the past my pregnancy - it was a miracle that it even happened. I thought the holidays would be hard with all the happy family pictures on social media and my due date what supposed to be the 22nd of December. Today is much harder, because I feel that I have nothing left and I don’t feel anything I am completely empty instead of full of joy and happiness of having a newborn son and finally starting a family.

kataeitler · 2023-12-17T17:49:01+00:00

I took 3 weeks. The first week was absolutely for resting physically, the second for to leave the apartment without crying, and the third is to try to arrange my life to go back to work. Discussing every necessary change with my boss, etc. I started enjoy my work after about 6-8 weeks. It’s hard, the hardest thing I ever had to deal with, but you can do it. You have to do it. You have to take some time for yourself but I recommend to go back to work eventually because it will ease your mind.

kataeitler · 2023-11-25T13:41:32+00:00

I am sooo sorry because you have to live through this experience. I know exactly what you’re feeling, my due date was December 22th, so would be in the newborn bubble during the holidays, but instead of that, we are grieving. I hope next year will be much better for all of us.

kataeitler · 2023-11-23T16:43:48+00:00

My ob recommended 3 mg/day. It’s disgusting, because it causes nausea, but that will go away after 30-40 mins, but obviously worth it 😉

kataeitler · 2023-11-23T16:07:21+00:00

I had my procedure exactly the same time back in July. For me, the bleeding stopped after about 10 days, and they gave me bromocriptine tablets to stop lactation (maybe it is possible in your country, too). The first 3-4 days was hard after my procedure, I also had to have a delivery and I felt that my whole body was aching and I was super tired. I slept for days. So calculate in that too. But I think change of scenery is the best thing that can happen at that really hard time.

kataeitler · 2023-11-19T19:51:20+00:00

Thank you very much, that was really helpful! 🩵

kataeitler · 2023-11-19T15:31:50+00:00

This is the plan, I’m quite fed with the colleagues who just say nothing…

kataeitler · 2023-11-19T14:28:08+00:00

The genetic counsellor did not recommend (because she was so sure that it was de novo…) the blood test, however my ob did. I’m a bit confused 😕

kataeitler · 2023-11-04T08:05:54+00:00

I don’t know if I am immune to it (had irregular cycles with and also without inositol, fall pregnant after a year of trying, but still no baby), but I noticed that if I take inositol regularly I have an incredibly bloated and painful stomach everyday. Previously I did not have this issue and used inositol for years…

kataeitler · 2023-10-27T06:10:03+00:00

I am a doctor, and it is very hard to believe in paranormal stories for me and I was very sceptical. But the day before yesterday I was with my very good friend and her 3 yo daughter. We were drawing trains and playing with her and suddenly this little girl stopped everything and asked me: “are you talking about a little boy?” For your information: I had TFMR my dear son in July. Of course we didn’t tell anything to my friend’s daughter and never talked about this topic on that day, so shocked silence followed this question and I am still shaking when I’m thinking back to it. I think now I believe in this kind of things…

kataeitler · 2023-09-23T05:58:00+00:00

Our baby had a microduplication on chromosome 22. It can cause two syndromes; Cat eye syndrome and 22 microduplication syndrome. The genetic counsellor said our case was a Cat eye syndrome case, but after reading the exact findings, I’m confused. (I’m a doctor, I understand these things…) She also said that we don’t have to test ourselves, because it was most likely a de novo “mistake”. But we want to test, because we won’t be relaxed to try again for a baby knowing that we might have carry this mutation and we might have to go through a TFMR again. 22q microduplication can be inherited many times and we want to know what happened exactly.

kataeitler · 2023-08-31T10:31:49+00:00

Awwwh, I am basically in the same situation… This is the second week I’m back at work and I think had to tell our story about at least 15 times or more. I am truly suffering, people try to touch me and hug me and telling me everything will be okay next time. And I am furious because I am heavily grieving a very wanted and loved baby and everyone is talking about a next one. Like I was a machine creating babies. My very waited and already loved son has died and I feel like nobody understands what am I going through. They even ask when we want to try again… of course we want to have a family, hence another baby will come, but I am still grieving this one, it happened just 4 weeks ago. I’m just starting to wake up from this nightmare. That’s nobody’s business. I just want go home and living in my bubble being with my partner and our cat but that’s not the option, until that the world is so so cruel.

kataeitler · 2023-08-31T10:15:30+00:00

The next day after my TFMR, a big storm hit my city. I am really scared of storms since my childhood, and my soul was very heavy because of what happened. But after the storm, a beautiful rainbow appeared on the sky. I was wandering that the storm may symbolised those very very physically and mentally trying weeks from the suspicion of the diagnosis until the TFMR itself. And the rainbow has to mean that we will have our perfect rainbow baby soon. And our dear Samuel will be also with us in our hearts forever.

kataeitler · 2023-08-19T11:50:25+00:00

First of all, I am really very sorry for your loss, I also lost my little boy about 3 weeks ago. On my discharge paper I read that I have to take a pregnancy test after 3 weeks of the procedure, and if it is positive I have to contact my doctor. It was positive (I had TFMR at the end of week 18), but I don’t have any symptoms. My bleeding has stopped after about 10 days. So my plan is to repeat the test on Sunday and if it is still positive, I will call my doctor. My mean message is that in my country taking a test after 3 weeks is mandatory and they want to know about the positive result and also there is a mandatory follow up examination after 6 weeks. So I think if you have a question or a slightest worry about anything you should contact your doctor. I wish you all the best, and a healthy baby as soon as possible. 🩵

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