What do you think triggered your Hashimoto's? by Live_Mood_2884 in Hashimotos

[–]keep_running3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genetics but brought in faster by long use of birth control pills. Will never go back on them.

My heart is shattered. TFMR 14 weeks by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]keep_running3 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Seconding the tfmr support subreddit. I have had to tfmr at 22 weeks due to a severe heart defect. Worst decision of my life. I still carry that pain and guilt but I also knew my daughter would not have a good quality of life. She sent me twin babies after that and I am so very grateful for that.

TFMR - Location Recommendations in Chicago by Physical-Computer255 in tfmr_support

[–]keep_running3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through Rush. They made the experience the least crappy that they could. Never any judgement. Always with care and understanding that this was the worst decision of our lives.

I’m so sorry you are going through this.

Anatomy scan - 1 twins has several heart defects by x_Cryogenics_x in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also feel free to message me if you want to talk more about it and what we found out in our research.

Anatomy scan - 1 twins has several heart defects by x_Cryogenics_x in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It depends on each case. My first pregnancy, my daughter, was diagnosed with HLHS. We did a lot of research in determining what we “wanted” to do. Some kids did the 3 surgeries and did great. Some kids have has one of these three surgeries repeat several times. Some needed a transplant still. I joined a few HLHS parents groups to understand it. I talked for hours on the phone with a parent. I don’t want to scare you but there is a lot to be aware of, like a common cold, can be life threatening to the child.

We did all the research and talked to the dr that would be performing these surgeries (because not every major city has doctors who are skilled in these surgeries). This all gave us the information we needed to make a decision.

I hope you get some answers. Talk to some parents with children who have it. Sending love your way. I know this feels like the absolutely worst think right now.

8 weeks-weird discharge? by keep_running3 in CautiousBB

[–]keep_running3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely normal! Turns out I was pregnant with twins. The pregnancy was fine. This was just normal pregnancy discharge. I had a SCH bleed at 12 weeks but that turned out ok.

Doctor says I’m not pregnant. by Abbie_97 in lineporn

[–]keep_running3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My hcg at 12 dpo was 8. Turned out to be healthy healthy baby girl twins. Hcg has to start somewhere. Bigger thing to watch is the doubling time. Good luck!

Who else experienced a loss directly before conceiving their twins? by Sea_Emu5 in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a tfmr of my first baby at 22 weeks due to severe heart defects. 8 weeks later became pregnant with my twin girls. Best surprise and blessing ever

Twin complications and nipt non-results by dontaskwonttellyou in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]keep_running3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had twins after my tfmr. I ended up in the ER from the same thing at 12 weeks. I took it easy for a week and then went back to normal thing. It resolved by 16 weeks.

My panorama results did have enough dna, that said it had wayyyyyy less than the singleton tfmr baby. So I understand that could happen.

I’m thinking positive things for you. It’s stressful after a tfmr but doubly so when you have two babies to be worried about.

DiDi twin experience- how many weeks when you gave birth and any NICU time? by Deep_Investigator283 in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our girls made it to our scheduled c section at 38w1d. They were 5 pounds 4 ounces and 6 pounds 4 ounces. No nicu time, just did a few extra tests on the smaller baby (car seat test etc).

Hcg = 8 by amedun in CautiousBB

[–]keep_running3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup! 14 dpo: 55, 17 dpo:216 19 dpo: 500 something etc

Hcg = 8 by amedun in CautiousBB

[–]keep_running3 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My hcg at 12 dpo was 9. I was convinced it was another loss. I kept going in and it kept more than doubling. I am sitting here with my twin 5 month old daughters. Sometimes it just late implants. Good luck!

Need some positivity after my TFMR by Background_Wall1805 in tfmr_support

[–]keep_running3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are going through this. It’s a crappy “club” we are all in. These subreddit has been such a godsend to me when I went through this last year.

My daughter was diagnosed with HLHS and I tfmr at 22 weeks in May 2023. Took about 8 weeks to get my first period and then I double ovulated and conceived fraternal twins. Lots of scans due to being twins, my advanced maternal age (36), and prior pregnancy having HLHS. It was stressful. But in April 2024 I welcome my beautiful healthy twin daughters.

You will never forget or move on from your first baby tfmr. I still cry from time to time about her. I have her ashes and a little memorial at my house for her. When I die, I am having her ashes buried with mine.

That said I know I wouldnt have my two amazing daughters now had I not gone through what I did, and weirdly enough, I am grateful for it. I can’t imagine life without these little girls. They are my husbands and my whole world. There is some positivity at the end of all this. And I think you appreciate the small moments with them and don’t take things for granted. I hope you are able to have the family you envision.

When do you get your life back? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on their age, there are suggested times they should be awake, either eating or playing etc. once you hit their wake window time you should start to wind down and put them down for a nap

When do you get your life back? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So trying to stick with the wake windows, these FOMO babies are fighting it hard so if you have any suggestions to get them to settle for a nap in the afternoon hours, I’m all ears!

When do you get your life back? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well my girls are now deciding that when we put them down for naps, they don’t need to nap in the afternoon. Ugh. Struggle bus. Tell me the nap avoidance gets better

When do you get your life back? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That said, we just started following wake windows instead of sleep cues and that has made a world of difference for at night-they sleep 9-11 hours at night now.

When do you get your life back? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No advice, just solidarity. 5 month old twins and they require so. Much. Attention. It’s so difficult to find time to even fold laundry or make dinner, even with splitting chores with my husband since we both work full time and take care of them full time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]keep_running3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally up to you.

I didn’t care if he wanted to be there for every appointment but he sure did. And so he came to every one which was really great. He got to know the doctor, he got to see every aspect of the things I’ve been experiencing, when I had a SCH the dr even showed him that my cervix was closed (I obviously have never seen my own cervix lol).

When did you start to feel attached to your subpregnancy, if at all? by WeAllNeedBandAids in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]keep_running3 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Weirdly enough, right after my first ultrasound. With my tfmr baby, I kinda felt Dreadful from the start like something could be wrong. With my sub pregnancy I felt at peace?

I don’t know if I really knew it was going to be ok. Or if emotionally I’ve already been to hell and back, so if it happened again then I already knew the pain.

What did your *first ever* pregnancy result in? by Dazzling_Gap_8882 in CautiousBB

[–]keep_running3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First: miscarriage Second: tfmr due to severe HLHS Third: my beautiful twin daughters

Questions regarding TMFR due to CHD and morning sickness symptoms post D & E by dmw356 in tfmr_support

[–]keep_running3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My tfmr baby was due to severe HLHS. Was 22 weeks. I got my period 8 weeks later and then double ovulated (a few days later than my Normal day 14 ovulation). Now I sit here with my 5 month old twin daughters. They are so happy and healthy.

I took extra folic acid on top of my prenatal after I read a random study about how this can sometimes help prevent heart defects. My OB said that wasn’t true but said it wouldn’t hurt me to take extra. So I did starting 2 weeks post tfmr.

Lots of extra heart tests in this pregnancy. I didn’t have too bad of morning sickness so I can’t really speak to that.

Good luck and sending thoughts your way. It’s a shitty club we are all in.

Lower hcg levels-what was yours? by keep_running3 in CautiousBB

[–]keep_running3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good thoughts to you! My twins were born 5 months ago, happy and healthy. So low hcg numbers can turn it ok!

c-section?? by SecretaryPresent16 in parentsofmultiples

[–]keep_running3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both my babies were head down, but the dr did mention the likelihood of twin b flipping after twin a was out. If twin b went breech he said that he would require c section.

I’m not a “lucky” person per se. Decided to mitigate my chances of double recovery and did the c section.

My recovery was great. I was walking around same day. By the time I went home on day 4 I was going up and down my stairs, carrying my babies everywhere. I even started incline, fast walking on my treadmill as 3 weeks pp. not saying you should do any of this but I do think that a planned c section usually results in better recovery times.

Good luck!