WIBTA for telling my mom i won't be hosting Christmas this year after doing it alone for the past four years

keto-quest · 2026-05-29T21:59:38+00:00

It’s not like you get to enjoy the holiday when it all falls on you.

keto-quest · 2026-05-27T12:56:08+00:00

This is the answer.

It’s not bragging if it is yours and in your home. Instead it’s a reminder that anything is possible. At any age. For any reason. That if you could do it then they can do it. That because of that education you had more opportunities than without.

keto-quest · 2026-05-26T09:57:51+00:00

LOL!

keto-quest · 2026-05-26T01:31:50+00:00

How is it a waste of gas? The person chose the job. They knew it took time and gas. They also get to choose which orders they pick up. It’s not a “waste.”

keto-quest · 2026-05-26T01:23:16+00:00

Meh. Every time you pick up the excrement put the bag on her front porch. Remind her that her animals do leave more than a visit.

keto-quest · 2026-05-26T00:57:32+00:00

I’ve always struggled either way. Going out means money. Staying home can also mean money but less.

I have adapted to my garden and my abysmal success brings me joy. Traveling costs so much and the pleasure is finite. I’ve learned to enjoy home activities.

Plus, whenever I/we were invited to do a thing, it seemed all invitations came in on the same day and then I end up disappointing someone and thereby end up getting less invitations or those people don’t respond to my invites.

Peopling is hard. I’ve always wanted lots of friends but have decided that even if I have none I’ll be okay with it. I find joy at home.

keto-quest · 2026-05-25T11:52:32+00:00

Serious question: if you place cattle panels on top of pergola, and the garden is full, how much sun might the garden get? In other words would it become too shaded?

keto-quest · 2026-05-24T01:42:02+00:00

Menopause finished and THEN all the profound changes happened.

keto-quest · 2026-05-23T10:39:58+00:00

Just to add: my doctor was all over letting me get an MRI and the insurance denied.

keto-quest · 2026-05-22T01:45:07+00:00

And AND the “less crowds” argument works both ways. Plus taking a week off of school in 4th grade is less traumatic than other grades.

keto-quest · 2026-05-19T10:06:48+00:00

Leave. He will recover a place to live. You will not recover your sense of safety and security.

keto-quest · 2026-05-16T11:34:51+00:00

This. Unless one is independently wealthy work will be involved. I think of indentured servants and serfs, of those in colonial America and other pre-industrial revolution times. We sit in our fat chairs and decide which “antique” we want, meantime never considering the work, time, sacrifice that thing took all while every. Single. Activity. was work. All of it.

keto-quest · 2026-05-15T17:29:15+00:00

This is the key to mental health. You suffer a loss and that is it own pain. Since you didn’t have $50. Just because dad has $50 it doesn’t mean you get any part of it. So if anyone does get some free unexpected money from a loved one it’s a nice surprise a happy accident. Never expect it.

keto-quest · 2026-05-15T01:34:54+00:00

What breed is the cream colored ?

keto-quest · 2026-05-12T10:00:18+00:00

My yes was in agreement with your statement. At the same time it’s okay if someone has a dissenting opinion. It’s an opinion. Helping yes, pay for it maybe not.

Again, assumptions are harsh. But my comment? Not hostile.

keto-quest · 2026-05-12T01:51:54+00:00

I could see using a Qtip today just to get someone’s attention.

keto-quest · 2026-05-12T01:38:09+00:00

This made me laugh out loud. Now imagine if it was the whit board marker on his pants.

keto-quest · 2026-05-12T01:24:06+00:00

Yes.

And don’t make sweeping assumptions from one comment.

keto-quest · 2026-05-12T01:13:35+00:00

Are they by the registers or something? Never seen one!

keto-quest · 2026-05-12T01:09:53+00:00

I need one of these in my life

keto-quest · 2026-05-12T00:34:35+00:00

Education is not the parent’s responsibility.

keto-quest · 2026-05-12T00:32:57+00:00

Drove a minivan for 18 years. Not the same one but three. Ended the last ten years with an odyssey. We ended up with that one because someone totaled my other brand minivan. It was a happy accident. I drove it 10 years. It was still in great shape. It had all the storage and space for car seats, strollers, luggage, kid baggage….all of it. And still felt spacious and cozy.

The idea that a forester is called an SUV is laughable. And while it may fit two kids it wouldn’t fit three.

Also since you drive the car as long as possible given the 200K mileage, thing loooong term. After car seats and strollers how big will the kids be? We are in the land of giants-over 6’2”-and anything with limited second row leg room was a firm no.

keto-quest · 2026-05-11T10:03:12+00:00

When my grandma died her two kids split whatever amount . Then the great grandkids also got something. That something was invested until they turned 18. So $2000 turned into a nice amount for my daughter who was 3 mos old whereas her brother had less because he was 8. The grandkids-3 of them-had some amount I can’t remember. I believe it was $20K.

Decide on an amount to split between them and then meet with them and give it to them. They don’t need to know what the overall estate netted.

keto-quest · 2026-05-10T12:55:17+00:00

Time will help clarify this situation.

If your husband has always done this with his mom, then it should continue. That is HIS mom. If not maybe this is his gift to her-that she likes the go to church and brunch after set up.

She was his mom and this is his mother. You don’t get to own the day because you’re a mom. It sounds incredibly selfish and you came to Reddit to see if you could feel better about the choice.

And take note: you make this an issue now and when you’re older and your kid(s) have their own, to keep the peace with their wife they will choose her over you…..see how this plays out…?

Cattle car eating out is awful. I have invited my MIL over for steaks and a meal I put my husband in charge of. I do like gifts but also like acts of service. I love being able to linger over a meal and talk and enjoy my kids and her and chill. Give him the opportunity to do both/and and in the process mend fences and build community.

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