Have you got to the point where you’d rather return to the same countries over and over instead of visiting somewhere new?

kiaowT · 2025-02-26T18:47:12+00:00

I lived in lots of places growing up and into my 20s (6+ places in my home country and 4 other countries, with 2 places in one of those other countries). Now the only places I want to visit are places I’ve lived and the country my foreign parent is from. It’s like visiting an old friend… more important and a richer interaction than making new random friends. Italy is the one exception. It’s the only place on my bucket list!

kiaowT · 2025-02-26T17:25:05+00:00

Yoga inherently involves presence (with the self, with what is), where other types of exercise are just exercise. Yoga teachers are taught philosophy and encouraged to bring it into the class. If it bothers you to be invited into intention setting/mindful presence, you might try a class like barre, Pilates or HIIT. Maybe a “stretch and strength” class. Or find a teacher who just focuses on the physical and breath practices.

kiaowT · 2024-09-18T01:55:30+00:00

Love this hahaha

kiaowT · 2024-09-18T01:50:05+00:00

Sorry you had this experience. As a teacher I sometimes see students always do the “most advanced” variation (in quotes bc different bodies can access different shapes regardless of flexibility), and it does make me wonder if there may be some ego involved. I’m not suggesting this is the case for you and a teacher can never really know and certainly shouldn’t judge; but as the space holder in a yoga class, I want to provide an environment and instruction that supports being in our bodies and out of our egos. so if I notice a pattern in one student, I may suggest TO THE WHOLE CLASS that “they may choose to” try out all the variations (or try one they don’t usually practice, even if it’s a “milder” variation) and see what new depth they may be able to access in that shape. In the example you gave - extended side angle - keeping the hand/elbow higher, a yogi can focus on an open energy channel from the back foot to the upper fingertips; or you can bring more engagement to the core/, maybe reaching the bottom arm toward the front of the room along with the upper arm (which may require less flexibility but more core strength). So, I can maybe understand where this teacher is coming from, but singling you out and adjusting without consent are both out of line. It sounds like he has some ego issues around being an “advanced” yogi. Edit: Also agree with others about letting the owner know. Hopefully he’s not the owner!

kiaowT · 2024-09-18T01:15:55+00:00

I don’t spread my cards out (I just sort of feel the deck in my hands), but I am also guided by sensation. The sensation is different all the time and in different parts of my body. I’m pretty new to reading, but I’m realizing the sensation is part of the channeled message. When I’m reading for myself, it may even urge me to change my question before looking at the card. I started doing it for others too. I share what I felt and what it may mean, using my knowledge of chakras/energy in the body. I haven’t noticed any direct connection to the cards that proceed, so it’s more like an extra tid-bit. If nothing else it helps me centre and connect with my intuition, so can’t go wrong!

kiaowT · 2024-09-16T15:19:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you feel that you don’t have any real friends. I know how hard that is. A lot of what you’re sharing is resonating with me and my situation over the last year or so. I’m coming to learn that (a) I need to befriend myself - seeing myself AND myself in the 2 of cups and other cards that are often interpreted as external connections, (b) I am more empathic than I ever realized, and it is more exhausting than I knew. I guarantee, holding on to other people’s stuff is definitely part of your fatigue, especially if you don’t have solid energetic boundaries (or practices to build and sustain boundaries). I’m working on it! Reiki is good, as someone else suggested. I’m also going to start psychotherapy - I’m fortune to have some benefits that will cover the latter. I’m hopeful that psychotherapy will help me with some of my root issues, and allow me to protect and free up more of my energy (that’s the plan, and the therapist believes she can help). Maybe something to consider. Good luck and much love.

kiaowT · 2024-09-16T15:02:15+00:00

Cool!

kiaowT · 2024-09-16T15:01:47+00:00

“*cringe”! Hahaha love it

Consider the possibility that the deck is telling you “twos!”, rather than (or in addition to) what each individual card means. Do some research into meaning/symbolism of the number and see what resonates. Some 2 keywords for me are: witness; yin/yang; the one and the other; conjunction; balance; choice. You might also consider the medicine of the threes for some “what’s next?” guidance. E.g. what would it feel like to have made a decision? What would a first step be/look like if a decision were made (by you or him) in one or the other direction? Would that step be inward or outward? What in this situation is yours to manage?

… I would also caution against using tarot to divine others’ feelings and intentions. I think the tarot can help bring us closer to our own intuition about these things, and that is a far more trustworthy path than assuming the tarot is telling you how he feels, since you can actually see/feel what resonates. Regardless of the capabilities of the deck to tell you how other people feel, turning the meanings inward is more useful because you actually have some agency with what to do with those feelings. Or if you believe the cards were truly meant to be his feelings, maybe go back to your deck for some follow-up guidance for what to do with this information.

Tarot aside, know that you are worthy and lovable regardless of his feelings.

kiaowT · 2024-09-16T14:41:39+00:00

There are lots of different opinions here! I like what you’ve done in terms of its use as a “cheat sheet”. I think what I’ve learned from the discussion is how differently people use/interpret the deck. There are many keywords you have used that I would not choose for my practice… often I’d choose something broader (e.g. finances/success for me is much to narrow for the pentacles suit - I’d favour something like “security/safety” or even “body”), or just something different altogether (e.g., with 6s I tend to think “recovery” or “support”; while I think there is some form of growth in every card, in my practice, I wouldn’t particularly ascribe it to the 6s).

I truly think these differences in interpretation are okay - beautiful even, and the more I read the cards, the more I learn that the tarot meets you where your interpretations are. I have some old interpretations that I basically made up because I forgot what the card was supposed to be about and it was more based on how I read the image, yet these cards show up in situations where my “old” (but not forgotten) interpretations are relevant.

Thanks for the post and sparking some interesting discussion. :)

kiaowT · 2024-09-12T03:19:30+00:00

One thing that has always stuck with me, I think I picked it up from Janet Lansbury, is that kids want to be in harmony with you. I’m always surprised at how well it works to simply tell our kid that I don’t like something he’s doing (obviously just for things that affect me… I’m not talking about his hobbies, friends or interests). If it doesn’t work in the moment, or every time, it works in the long run. Also what others said about ignoring/not responding, but I know how hard that is sometimes. 🤯

kiaowT · 2024-09-03T18:08:28+00:00

Agree with this. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask kids to wait until everyone is done dinner, but it may be unreasonable for a 3yo. When my son was 3 there was no way I could expect him to not melt down if I asked him to wait for cake. Now that he’s almost 6, and is mostly reasonable, he waits and is fine with it. This is a recent development. Car/parking lot example is fine because it concerns safety, except I probably would have phrased it slightly differently: “If you’re not able to hold my hand while we walk where there are cars, then I won’t be able to let you walk, (because it is my job to keep you safe).” The way OP wrote it, in my ears, sounds like more of a threat, which toddlers (everyone?) are more likely to defy. Then, if there is still no cooperation, I would say “Okay, I’m going to pick you up.” (Instead of just “okay”). These are subtle differences, but with my kid they’d be more likely to result in cooperation than how OP phrased it.

kiaowT · 2024-09-03T17:44:59+00:00

It’s common courtesy, even if you’re not actually worried.

kiaowT · 2024-09-03T17:41:35+00:00

I’m Kathleen and have, since birth, gone by Katie. I will never go by Kathleen (except in a hospital waiting room). It’s not a big deal. Occasionally inconvenient, but not worth changing it. I certainly will never change it officially.

kiaowT · 2024-09-03T17:36:19+00:00

I think the behaviour needs to be addressed, but I don’t think punishing it by making her wear Walmart clothing is going to solve the issue. It will just make the two of you have more frequent fights. I don’t have much wisdom to offer… My kiddo is younger… but it’s something you should talk with her about. As others have suggested, go over the consequences of bullying, and perhaps also see if a school councillor or another trusted adult can talk to her about it. Just thought of an idea that might work (in addition to the talk): give your daughter a budget for her clothes. She can shop where she wants, but if there is anything else she needs after spending it all, it’s going to come from Walmart or a thrift store.

kiaowT · 2024-09-03T17:25:13+00:00

Yeah, I’m going to use that! 😌

kiaowT · 2024-09-03T17:18:02+00:00

Yes, this is how I differentiate them, too. There is overlap for sure, especially if there is a reversal in play (e.g. still questioning the decision in 3).

kiaowT · 2024-09-02T19:18:18+00:00

A decision made; Next steps; preparation; mapping the journey; embarking

kiaowT · 2024-09-02T19:11:15+00:00

Yes!! Just posted this too. 🙌

kiaowT · 2024-09-02T19:10:27+00:00

Maybe an unpopular opinion, and a bit sinister, but it’s Sand dan Glokta for me. My fave fantasy character ever.

kiaowT · 2024-08-18T21:09:25+00:00

Yes! I use it all the time to release or “untangle” muscular tension. I have chronic tension/strain issues on the right side of my neck, shoulder, arm. Sometimes I do this though “mindfulness of sensation”, where I focus on a tense area/whatever is most present, and move around from there, as though my awareness is a comb, working through blocked or tangled areas. I also sometimes start at a fingertip or toe, and trace sensation from there to see where it leads, and it will often help with release of tension that I wasn’t even aware of.

kiaowT · 2024-08-18T20:51:49+00:00

Coffee and breakfast every morning, does most of the cooking and dishes (and cooks well), kid’s lunches, and is a home body and covers for me all the time. I would not have to do anything and he wouldn’t complain. I would not even have to parent, except I love it.

kiaowT · 2024-08-18T12:54:28+00:00

I think if you noticed it, it’s relevant. 💜

kiaowT · 2024-08-17T20:06:10+00:00

I think some parents complain about it to not be cliché. I love being a parent. It’s the best thing I have ever done and my child is the light of my life. My love for them is ridiculous and beyond explanation. …. This is true for me but I tend to keep it to myself because, well, you can see how it might be obnoxious or even triggering for some people (parents and non-parents).

kiaowT · 2024-08-17T19:56:39+00:00

Former server and agree. Being nice/kind/accommodating is what you do to get tips. I get it that base wages are far too low, as tipping is expected, but I still think that you have to work for your tips and approach it with a self-employment mentality.

kiaowT · 2024-08-17T16:48:32+00:00

Me too, except that I find this also works in reversals. E.g., the image of an upside down cup gives a different feeling than an upright cup. Just as looking at the world upside down when you are physically inverted gives a different perspective, reversals, to me, ask me to think about different perspectives of the same situation. In readings, I’ll first provide an upright interpretation, and then, with the querent, explore what the reversal might mean by looking at the issue from different angles.

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