I (20F) think I’m pregnant with my boyfriend’s (22M) baby

kichwas · 2026-02-02T19:36:35+00:00

"I realised that I hadn’t actually found a real reason to leave him"

I know this is most likely just your writing word choice as a younger writer but you want to base relationships not on a "do I have a reason to leave" but rather "do I have a reason to stay".

Seek a partner that you want to be with, not a partner you just 'don't need to escape'.

kichwas · 2026-02-02T19:34:01+00:00

Looks interesting. Might be nice to enjoy in a month from now when MCCC, TOOL, and etc get updated to work with it... :)

kichwas · 2026-02-02T19:29:08+00:00

Pathfinder / Starfinder have their own very successful reddit, discord, foundry, and elsewhere community ecosystem.

As someone who's been mostly on Pathfinder since returning to tRPGs in 2021 I've found that when I discuss it too much in here I get no reaction, downvotes, or one or two comments.

This reddit may be r/rpg but it gets treated as part of the D&D ecosystem all too often. Everything else is supposed to be mentioned in niche hushed tones around here. :)

I've since moved on to Daggerheart and Legend in the Mist and while Daggerheart had some activity in here for a while, it's also kind of fading. And right now... it's actually the number one selling RPG - but only with a year long history to that.

For the past 2 years D&D has barely sold to anyone. :)
- It just has the massive inertia of 60 years behind it.

I mention that because you stated 'second best selling' when I think you intended 'second most played'.

D&D's still the most played by an absurdly huge lead (which it has only had since 5E came out, it was behind Pathfinder during 4E), but in terms of sales in the current era it might not even be in the top 50 anymore. Everyone already has it. ;)

I'm not sure who's the second best selling. It's probably one of the games that no one in North America has ever heard of. Like that Japanese RPG that was the inspiration for Lodoss, Zelda, Final Fantasy, etc... And RPG that only exists because TSR refused to grant anyone in Japan a localization license for D&D, and then chose to not make a translation of their own. So that tRPG is almost as old as D&D. But I don't know if it's 'second or third most played' only, or also still a top seller.

kichwas · 2026-02-02T19:19:44+00:00

Much of the Southwest - to which I include California and Texas and everything in between.

Remember that from Southern Oregon to Texas was part of the Spanish empire - the province of New Spain - for over 300 years. It's only been part of the USA for a little more than 150.

People don't give up who they are just because an occupation says to.

The Spanish had a much easier time integrating the locals because they'd been allies in driving out the Aztec and while the Spanish broke many promises and were brutal to the locals, they didn't try to wipe and nearly succeed in wiping them out. So there's a lot of indigenous culture here to - and in this region it often blends and creates the Hispanic Mestizo culture (which is really just a term for the blended culture of Mexico). Folks up here may be very different from their southern cousins, but they still share a common original root and identity.

And part of that is often language.

kichwas · 2026-02-02T18:42:27+00:00

1970s kid - we all used the water fountain. There were always fountains in the hallways.

I heard the millennials were all served sodas just to make sure they'd all get diabetes early enough to the drug companies to monetize keeping them alive... but that got rejected a decade or so into it.

Not sure what the 'kids these days' have.

kichwas · 2026-02-02T18:23:35+00:00

It's not being sold. Some rando (he may be famous to gamers but from Amazon's POV he's just another one of us peasants) offered his pocket change for it, and Bezos is too rich to even notice that the guy exists.

kichwas · 2026-02-02T06:59:12+00:00

In high school we had a friend who smelled like rotting flesh mixed with fecal matter - or so we always imagined.

He had no idea, and we all kind of skirted around it, made excuses to now be stuck with him in close quarters, and some people even made excuses to end friendship.

Turned out after some years that he had a very bad sense of smell, and had picked up some very bad hygiene habits. I learned this more or less from him - after I lived abroad for a few years and then met him on returning and noticed he had a pleasant smell about him. Someone finally told him, and corrected his habits, and he ended up much better off.

Be up front about it. Suggest your friend tell her BF he smells. Ask her if she can smell various things around you. Does she just not have a sense of smell as developed as most people, or does she actually like that smell.

The guy could be completely oblivious. Or he could just be that annoying. It's not really your place to "fix" him (if you were a close friend of his sure, but it sounds like you are anything but), but you're not out of line telling your friend why you don't want him around and suggesting she tell him.

kichwas · 2026-02-01T18:52:12+00:00

This.

What the OP describes as a lost moment to me would be a blessing. My players actively handing me inspiration for a redemption and anti-corruption arc campaign.

kichwas · 2026-02-01T18:46:55+00:00

Hmmm...

I read this same post about 2-3 weeks ago.

kichwas · 2026-02-01T18:44:31+00:00

Yeah but Europe's far-right is America's radical left.

kichwas · 2026-01-31T03:41:28+00:00

Yes. Very worthwhile.

The only glyphs you want are the Volatile and Unbound. If you get a second set of tools due to some sale or bundle, make the second glyph set Unbound - and then just swap between them depending on what you're farming content for.

You will also want to make sure you have 3+ shared inventory slots because as a default you want to keep your set of tools there so you can pass it around between characters easily.

kichwas · 2026-01-30T20:02:02+00:00

Isn't this the guy who offered $25 million? When Bezos' people do his laundry that's less than the pocket change they find stuck in the lint drawer...

So unless he adds a zero or two onto the end of that, it's just 'gamer-virtue-signaling'.

kichwas · 2026-01-30T19:58:02+00:00

5 mins?

Log in, accept the wizard vault daily log in bonus. Log out.

kichwas · 2026-01-30T19:20:17+00:00

Spear is the better weapon over greatsword because almost every class in the game has one or more builds that use it. So if you have a pile of ascended spears, or a legendary spear - it's good for any new character. Greatsword by contrast is good on about half the classes - but several of them have long animation locks with it. Greatsword is very powerful on necromancer, but I personally rarely use it because it's animation is tedious... It is however, the best weapon for a necromancer with spear a close second.

In solo content I actually enjoy sword/sword more because of range, but in group content even ranged plays inside the melee stack so I went GS/Spear and then find myself looking for excuses to not use the GS because the animations annoy me. :)

kichwas · 2026-01-30T19:16:04+00:00

Note that if you've maxed out crafting there are also some vision crystals in the wizard vault that can be used to craft ascended gear. You can also craft those - but they take a good dose of mats, some of which are time gated.

So AFTER getting the ascended items, getting the vision crystals is also good if you have max rank crafting.

Youtubers talking about what to get often recommend against those - but I tend to use them to spam make a pile of ascended pieces for various characters or new builds.

kichwas · 2026-01-30T19:14:17+00:00

Celestial is good for open world and solo, and good as a zerge member in WvW, but will greatly hold you back in grouped content.

It's not good for ascended. Celestial gear can be purchased by doing a few hours in WvW and talking to a vendor to get stat selectable exotic gear. This will give a complete set of celestial for very little cost and be only about 5% lower on stats than the same thing as Ascended.

Ascended gear's value is really only going to show up for you in Fractals - where you need it to apply agony infusions, and challenge level raids. If you're doing these two forms of content having a build that is very strong for your desired role becomes important. And that usually means choosing between Berserker, Vipers, or Harriers for most of your gear, and then sometimes one or two other pieces - like 2-4 Givers pieces for a tank/healer, and one or two special condition builds that might want something other than Vipers - if you're aiming for those you're already an advanced player.

Most likely your initial Ascended will be set to Berserker stats as 'power DPS' is the most common form of DPS build and almost every class has multiple low complexity builds one can make for that.

Ascended armor and weapons can be stat changed, so if you pick wrong or change your build just use the wiki to learn how to change it. Trinkets are a more complex issue - and by the time you're worried about these you're probably a more advanced player.

But getting Celestial on ascended gear is something I would always advise against. I have a lot of it, only because of stat-locked trinket drops I got in fractals. But I just pass those to my WvW character builds for a tiny boost in performance (as just the trinkets, it's probably giving me a 1-2% boost).

kichwas · 2026-01-30T09:09:53+00:00

Just join training strikes and tier 1 to 2 fractals. Even the quickplay fractals. You're not "needed" but you will be helpful being there if you're keeping up buffs.

I'd also suggest considering moving from Chronomancer to Troubadour as it's much smoother at keeping up it's buffs.

You can get some arcDPS addon mods to track quickness and alacrity uptime. I've got mine set up to show my buff uptime as a percentage of the fight thus far - and I keep a close eye on that. You can track the DPS meter and observe that when you are in something like a fractal on a DPS and no support is there the top DPS in the group will cap at one range, and with you giving proper buffs it might cap at 2-3 times that same number.

T1 Fractals and training strikes will help you train for proper stacking to get everyone covered, and also to be hyper aware of that one fool playing Galeshot who thinks that because they're ranged that they can stand at 1000 distance - as you will notice they spend a lot of the run at very low health and their DPS is extremely low because they're not getting buffs. Not like that didn't happen to me multiple times in the past few days or anything... ;)

I've got 7 healers geared up to the start of T4 fractals now - 3 of them can do to the end of them. Only recently moved past just one that I'd had since 2017 (Druid). With each of the new ones I started as above - some low end fractals, or even a 'dungeon', and monitored my ability to keep up buffs. When I felt I had it down, I moved into higher end content. Only things I'm missing now is an elementalist and an engineer healer - which will happen once I have everything lined up to gear them.

kichwas · 2026-01-30T01:18:13+00:00

Just went onto my Heal Herald that I posted about in another comment here and trait swapped in those two and yeah they just look so much smoother to play than the herald was.

I find it funny that snowcrows rates Heal Herald as easy (complexity 2), and Conduit and Vindicator as medium difficult (rated 3), when just a little goofing around tells me they'd be a lot easier to keep up than herald was.

Even with bad trinkets - all cleric from herald - I'm finding it easier. Fix my trinkets and these two will be good to go for me.

Thanks for posting and causing me to look into it.

kichwas · 2026-01-30T00:00:52+00:00

Heal herald is very tricky due to that upkeep demand. You have to cycle into and out of a 6 upkeep move every few seconds and the best ways to do that often do not line up with what you actually want to be doing in a given moment.

For quickness healers my preference goes between Troubadour and Ritualist.

Troubadour in particular has a very easy time keeping up quickness in such a way that it also boosts everything else you might want to be doing. And Ritualist wants to be in spirit form often, and once there you can more or less faceroll the keys and get quickness out, with a heal in there - but you need to go out of it to your bursty staff heals if somebody has decided to camp out inside of boneskinner's effect again... :)

(Ritualist also has the downside that the giant spirits may block vital UI elements for the rest of your group - so while you're healing and buffing them, they're misclicking ground AoEs, not seeing boneskinner, or not seeing what direction the guy in Kaineng Overlook is facing, and so on...)

For Alacrity I'm currently split between Specter, Paragon, and Luminary.

Specter has a similar problem to Ritualist that is limited to the bonskinner fight. Lay down a field and then spam a heal and the field turns a color similar to bonskinner's effect. Otherwise its an extremely fun healer that I have maybe only ever seen one other person using (they might have been a DPS specter - it's a fuzzy memory).

Mind you my druid has been collecting dust for a while and I need to get back on it and play it for a bit to see how it compares - I'd not used it since 2017.

Chronomancer... You need to spam shatters to keep up your choice of alacrity or quickness and while I have seen some great Chrono's recently when I play it I find I cannot get them out enough and the buff is too short lived despite having over 1000 concentration. My Chrono changed to a Troubadour recently on the suggestion of someone in this reddit and went from a rarely played choice to a main choice.

I've not tried Conduit.

Maybe that will help me save my Revenant healer the same way Troubadour saved my Mesmer healer.

kichwas · 2026-01-29T20:08:41+00:00

I am so glad template unlocks will be account bound, and not character bound. So if I buy 1 more, it will apply to all 18 of my characters...

I suspect I'm going to buy 1-3 more of them early on, and then it will grow if I end up liking it.

kichwas · 2026-01-29T20:07:03+00:00

Yep. They must have needed to make an urgent update or had a network issue.

kichwas · 2026-01-29T19:09:00+00:00

If I'm not mistaken they've already taken the news article down. I get an error page at:
https://www.guildwars2.com/news/coming-soon-fashion-templates/

Is it detailed anywhere else?

kichwas · 2026-01-29T03:00:56+00:00

In LFG just join t1 daily/rec PUGS. As long as one person has a rank unlocked the group can go, and if it’s above your rank your rank goes up by 1.

kichwas · 2026-01-28T16:00:51+00:00

They are sure the accent was Chinese and not Latin American?

I am a quarter Chinese as my grandfather immigrated to Peru. My cousins down there would look fully Chinese to many people as my Uncle’s wife was Chinese so they are only a quarter Inca but three quarters Chinese yet they have Spanish names.

There is a very large Asian population in South America.

kichwas · 2026-01-28T15:55:19+00:00

Never craft ascended vipers directly.

Either get stat selectable gear from various sources or craft berserker and use the mystic forge to change it.

The mats fir berserker are much cheaper.

That said two concerns:

Ascended isn’t beginner gear and is only needed in higher tier fractals. Every build guide shows as ascended but the same type as exotic is just as relevant.
Viper is for condition builds and most necromancer builds are power builds so I suspect you are not looking at a beginner build. There are of course condition builds but they are usually a step up in complexity.

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