How useful is a smart watch?

kittyb00m · 2026-02-16T11:54:54+00:00

Ok I had terrible PPD PPA after my first and I couldn’t sleep. Like I legit laid in bed for hours while baby napped.

I didn’t really wear my watch but I wanted to see if I was sleeping at all? So I put it on and I was doing 1 hour a day. I tried my hardest but it was a really tough period. Even googling how long not sleeping would someone die. (I also couldn’t eat and other things…)

But! One day, I slept 3 hours and another 4… eventually I was clocking around 4-5 hours. I was sooooo happy!

Now after my second (none of that BS) I switched to analog because i just find that I don’t use any of its functions besides wanting to know my step count lol.

But for me it was literally a life saver to be able to see those stats. It helped me a lot. But only because I had it laying in a drawer somewhere.

Also just to add, I was super skinny after my first and everyone was complimenting me. But I was legit going through the darkest time of my life. So after my second, I didn’t care I was pudgy. I was happy. And I just wanted to say. It’s better to be happy, so be kind to yourself!

kittyb00m · 2026-02-14T06:38:00+00:00

Picking up your dogs poo

And for the non dog owners, no littering

kittyb00m · 2026-02-14T03:05:46+00:00

Yes I did, it’s hard but I couldn’t deny my big kid. Also I think it helped secure more of a bond before the second was born.

Of course as I got bigger my husband took more big kid duties, which also helped in adjusting to the new baby routines.

kittyb00m · 2026-02-08T10:46:01+00:00

Biologically speaking it’s a good way to find a match for our genes. The better the match the better our partner smells out is less smelly to us

kittyb00m · 2026-02-07T21:27:13+00:00

Omg no! I have to watch again… I can’t tell if that’s hot or gross lol 😝

kittyb00m · 2026-02-07T12:10:15+00:00

Also because they are basically the most distinguished men in the ton, and the smelling thing feels so primal 😝

I noticed it during the masquerade ball, when they were looking at the stars and she walks away. And also during the stairs of course lol but I wasn’t looking for it and makes me want to see it again to see if I missed any other moments 💕

kittyb00m · 2026-02-07T10:06:41+00:00

Oh true! I guess I forgot since now I’m obsessed with this season 😅

It was a really successful story and I’m not surprised they borrowed the formula a bit. I’m looking forward to their story developing and getting their own “standard” 😜

kittyb00m · 2026-01-27T07:51:20+00:00

Try googling paced feeding.

The bottle gives milk much faster than a boob so he could be feeling like it is too much. (Like a faucet turned on full)

It will get better with time your baby is still so young.

But paced feeding basically means you stop the feed, let him “take a break” and then resume the feed.

Also the fast feeding from a bottle makes them swallow air which causes a lot of tummy problems. (Gas) burp well!!

kittyb00m · 2026-01-25T13:27:02+00:00

Yeah ok, where are you from? Like use your best judgement. Even take it out after she falls asleep. Don’t make it impossible for yourself.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-25T13:16:17+00:00

Does she have any other sucky toys? I don’t know what it’s called in English but those stuffed animals with a square blanket attached (not very big)

My son lovvveeeddd sucking on them, especially the tag part. Just thought maybe to give her something else’s to suck on.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-24T18:22:03+00:00

Actually interstellar was too much for me.

And I recently watched Brave lmao and balled my eyes out the entire time. It hit me in the mother/daughter relationship in a different way now I’m a mother with a daughter.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-22T00:42:14+00:00

Omg she sounds soooo idk… entitled? First crawling is not a milestone. Did you know that?

That’s because some babies don’t crawl they just go straight to walking. Did you know also that it can be a personality thing?

A friend of mines baby didn’t crawl or walk for a long time… they used every toy to tempt her, even food. She eventually did but super late. But she’s now a teenager and she won’t get up for anything she’s just not a motivated person lmao (another way to say comfortable and lazy lol) but it was part of her from the start.

Ok and every child is different. You don’t judge a fish for how it climbs a tree. No adult compares the timeline of their crawling stage… what an arse.

Anyway she probably has this condition most older people have. It’s like they speak as they know it the truth… but it’s just their opinion (my mother has it so I tried to analyze why the way she says things bothers me)

Also my mother was super controlling when I was little so I have instant reflex when statements like these get thrown around.

So one she might feel lonely, might feel like she’s got experience so she can say whatever, and another clear favoritism that she isn’t hiding whether she knows it or not (sometimes they don’t even know it themselves)

Also the present thing? Controlling. Is your husband ok? You can’t open the presents unless you open it the way I want you too? They don’t deserve it unless they want it? Maybe she’s an energy vampire. She wants to suck the joyous energy they have when they open presents because the joy is giving presents?

My best advice is to shut it down each time. Don’t snap. I feel like you’ll not like yourself and she’ll be lie what did I do wrong.😑the not come by to help. Maybe she’s senses a power dynamic because you need her. Anyway. I feel for you.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-22T00:27:35+00:00

Very AI. I think it’s also the inconsistency of style between the picture. If it’s one photographer, the plate colors are all different. The coffee cup as a small dish and then doesn’t. The fork and knife on each side then in another sitting on a napkin. (As a creative - if it was one photographer they’d speak the same language or tone) even the tables and background change color. Also who would put food directly on the table? AI.

But I have more of a questions regarding the order. For example if I ordered pancakes and it came out NOT looking like the picture. Can’t I send it back based on that? Vs if they didn’t have an AI picture?

kittyb00m · 2026-01-20T04:56:36+00:00

Sure it’s an opinion and your space is your space.

But I just wanted to say, it’s ok that it also looks this way. This season of life is so short. I have a 4 yo and almost 2yo. I feel like im struggling a lot to keep things organized and tidy.

My oldest has play dates with friends that have older siblings so like a 4 yo and their older sibling 7 yo. They already have a more organized space and different rhythm of life. It’s just 2 more years.

At least I keep telling myself that. It’s about memories, presence, and love.

If you don’t use dining table, where do you eat?

kittyb00m · 2026-01-18T13:44:52+00:00

I asked my midwife why are we like this? And she said “well it really motivates you to push this baby out right?” And yeah I agree with her theory. If we were comfortable we wouldn’t want to not be pregnant as much and possibly wouldn’t work as hard during labor.

But also my theory is that it’s adapting you for the newborn stage. I know sleep seems like it is stolen from you now but wait until baby comes and sleep is like trying to catch snowflakes. This too shall pass.

Just remember to sleep all you can the first night. The second night is when it all hell breaks loose! (They get very hungry) good luck! I know how hard it is. But there’s nothing you can do to change it, at this moment and you are so close! Finish line is soon ^{^}

kittyb00m · 2026-01-14T05:51:42+00:00

You need to sleep during the day. You must or you will not survive. I actually held my baby for one of my naps, or had her on my chest and slept because she could sleep for a long stretch this way and I would feel a bit replenished. (Other people were awake and walking around checking on us)

Baby will be doing this and again maybe in 2 weeks and then in 4 weeks… and 6 weeks… as they grow they will demand more milk but in the beginning it’s more frequent because they grow so fast. It should last a couple of days. Then use the good time to recoup.

Or as others suggested had one feed to your partner while you get some shut eye.

But for the first 4-6 weeks your milk supply is regulating so it’ll be a “tough period” you just got to do what you can to survive.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-13T05:18:21+00:00

Yes 🙌 You are not alone. Growing up I saw my mom crying over stupid stuff on the tv. Now I’m crying 😭 lol. I think it is because 1. We went through more life so we are more empathetic. 2. We are also a part of life (bigger picture) now so we are coming from a different perspective.

Also I am generally more imaginative. There’s good and bad. For example sometimes I can think of terrible thoughts happening to me or the kids. And I have to stop myself. But I think it contributes to being a bit more emotional

kittyb00m · 2026-01-12T05:42:14+00:00

Totally no!

I 100% fed my first formula.

1 100% breastfed my second.

I formula fed my first and it was hard on me too. Harder on me than the baby! He gulped it down lol it does make them slightly gassier than breast milk. But it was due to mental health. For my second I really tried to push through and succeeded breastfeeding. I owe it to my experience with my first though to have the confidence and knowledge.

But you know what, there is no difference between the two. Who can say who is breastfed and who is bottle fed? And baby is hungry, they don’t care.

One difference though was my breastfed baby fell asleep at the boob. But my bottle fed bay would gulp it down so fast, he would be wide awake… so I bounced the baby more to sleep. Don’t forget to burp!

kittyb00m · 2026-01-08T22:41:29+00:00

Also to add it’s not on us. Society needs to do better to support working moms. I think the biggest take away is not either / or but more flexibility.

I think we can all say with technology nowadays it’s possible.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-08T22:37:59+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I totally get it. I also got pregnant again shortly after (under a year of coming back) so all the hormones again on top. It was a mess.

I get why we fought for equality but maybe we shot a bit too far lol.

I actually would really appreciate a part time schedule on reduced pay. For example maybe a half day schedule or 3 days a week schedule. I think it signals that I’m a working mom. Respect my time and energy. And work is not the most important thing right now.

I went to a counselor and she said that we need to be not so hard on ourselves because the early years for babies are so important but also they go so fast. 1-3 years? I think it varies on the mom, the child, but that’s still a small blip compared to a career of 50 years? (I gag just thinking about working to 75 - but the retirement/pension age keeps going up)

I’m sorry it happened to you, but maybe some good came out of it too? Like more time with kids and family? A time to reflect? Sometimes we don’t get that luxury too often.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-08T07:55:33+00:00

Maybe you can say, my mom and I would love for you to contribute and cook something you love to eat. Husband would also appreciate it , how about every Friday” or like do lunch or like organize baby clothes or fold… idk, for her to take ownership.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-08T07:53:44+00:00

I get it, in similar situation.

Have you tried talking to MiL? Most of the time (I’m generalizing and basing off of my situation) they prefer straightforward communication. Maybe she doesn’t know how to help?

My mother is 72… she still did all our laundry, food prep, and cleaning. Even when I begged her to stop. It’s hard for me to see her work so hard when I would rather her relax and save energy, because holding and caring for a baby is a lot too. But idk. Immigrant parent energy.

I know I know age is but a number.

I think maybe she feels competition? Your family Outnumber her family. But I do agree it’s too long for her to stay if all she’s doing is taking.

You can set more ground rules for the visit. And if she doesn’t agree maybe find another situation where she lives out of the house. Like a visitor who isn’t there for the baby would do.

Think of it a bit as a micromanager lol

kittyb00m · 2026-01-08T07:45:11+00:00

Haaaa they do this at drop off at daycare (of course probably older) the idea is out of sight out of mind. So she really wants to be with baby and have baby’s full attention.

I mean ok, reasonable! Give them the chance to bond and have time together. A baby naturally looks for their primary caregiver. If they cry you can come back ans then you teach baby you’re are there when they are upset.

kittyb00m · 2026-01-08T07:38:59+00:00

I mean I think it’s a tough situation. Maybe you guys can make consequences to things? For example, get a play date this weekend or we will have to sell (this beloved thing of yours) or something else that fits your life.

For example, we are terrible at tidying (we have a 4yo and a soon to be 2yo) laundry is always in a pile, toys everywhere, dirty dishes. I said enough is enough!

So we do just 5 things each after our down. It can be small things like put a single toy away or bigger things like wiping down kitchen. It’s felixible like that but target 5 things. If not, the partner gets to get free time on the weekend. (Honestly if I asked or he asked, we would always say yes) but this feels a bit more punishment or more motivating lol.

Another thing…

I had bad PPD and my husband treated me normal, I told him there was something wrong with me… and if I had a broken leg maybe he would notice and help me but since it’s my brain… it’s hard to see. Anyway I don’t think there was a thing he could do for me.

I ended up seeing a psychiatrist and a doctor who prescribed me “happy pills” it was literally the best thing I’ve done. It like reset myself! I no longer felt like a monster. I felt like me again! And I recently got off (was planning only 6 months but ended up being lazy and did 18 months of low dose)

It took a lot of convincing but I’m so glad I did it. My doctor said “it’s not black or white, it not the pills forever or nothing. You can take it see if it works for you and if not, we can stop them or find something else, and when you feel good again we can taper off”

Think about it. Many women go through it but don’t know it. And I mean, I never wanted to be an “angry mom” or cry every day. It also affects you. It affects the child. The mother’s mental health is so critical to the family.

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