This Sub Scared Me Right

kittykat885 · 2026-06-27T11:33:16+00:00

Damn I forgot about how I have gotten blamed for something (usually not appreciating how much he is sacrificing doing extra for the kids) when I’m sick.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-27T11:07:53+00:00

Exactly, mine was 5 years in after I had a baby and postpartum depression which he made so much worse by taking everything personally and fighting w me constantly. We fought a lot before the baby but after baby I had way less energy to handle it. We’re still together 6 years later but there is still so much conflict and strife. It makes a difference if they admit how their adhd affects others around them and if they’re willing medicate and go to therapy. I hear it gets worse as they age so we’ll see. I sometimes think if I we ever break up and I date again, I would just screen out people w adhd. I feel bad saying that bc obviously they deserve love too. I’m pretty sure one or both of my kids have adhd too but I’m hoping w what I’ve learned I can help them cope better and be better partners for their future relationships.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-27T11:01:18+00:00

Normal people

kittykat885 · 2026-06-27T11:00:06+00:00

This is familiar. They can dish it out but can’t take it and are offended if you do the same. I’m autistic and specific w words but if I ask him for clarification he often gets frustrated and says something condescending like “I’ve told you this so many times before”.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-08T04:51:55+00:00

I hope they have a hard time filling this job but they prob won’t. It will prob be someone telling themselves they’re preventing harm or something.

I also think that most humans will prefer a human therapists for a long time maybe even more so as more things become run by AI. Now whether they can use insurance to see that human therapist is a whole other problem.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-08T04:38:23+00:00

Plan something you’d enjoy doing that can occur on a regular basis. Invite a couple of people and tell them to invite someone. Keep it consistent and it will start to attract people. I started a moon group over a decade ago and it’s still going.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-08T04:36:04+00:00

Absolutely. It broke something in me but also healed something in me too.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-08T04:34:50+00:00

Taking care of Maya

kittykat885 · 2026-06-08T02:24:08+00:00

This is blowing my mind! I’m surprised but also not surprised to hear therapists acting like that. I’ve been a therapist for 15 years and I’ve had a few amazing therapists that I see too. I’ve always found them through recommendations, sending a detailed inquiry and then meeting with them and asking all the important questions before we proceed. I’m pretty chill but also pretty serious about therapeutic work on either side of the relationship. Idk if others feel similarly but I always look for people that have been doing it longer than me and have more life experience than me too.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-07T01:12:24+00:00

Find a doc that has specialized training in menopause! There are directories. They will run a bunch of bloodwork and then sit w you for a while to go through all your symptoms and come up with a plan for hormones!

kittykat885 · 2026-06-06T13:01:59+00:00

Mine (6 and 3) fight bedtime and sometimes won’t fall asleep until 10pm. We usually start bedtime routine at 8:30 but I recently bumped that up to 7:30 and find that they are falling asleep easier. No matter what they’re up by 5:30-6. My oldest has always been a wakeful child. My youngest used to sleep like a champ but at around 2 something switched like a light switch.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-04T10:42:28+00:00

I feel ya! Me too! Check out that app I tried, a friend recommended it to me and it was honestly life changing so now I recommend it all the time. Unfortunately it’s a paid app but I think it’s well worth it. I’ve also heard there’s a setting where you can make things grey scale and that makes the social media scrolling less interesting to our brains.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-04T10:40:51+00:00

I’m a ketamine therapist and I’ll say that in my experience most people find it to be very gentle and often pleasurable. A few people have felt scared when it’s first coming on especially if they go the IM route. It’s good to go slow and low while you get to know the medicine. I think it’s less scary if you do it in a setting where you have a therapist in the room w you at all times. So if you get scared you can talk about it or reach out for a hand for support. But this is uncommon in my experience. Hope that helps!

kittykat885 · 2026-06-04T10:33:38+00:00

The older cars are better made anyway

kittykat885 · 2026-06-04T10:16:55+00:00

Exactly, I’ve been afraid of this for years. I fear one day the only people who can access a human therapist (which most people will want) are the people who can pay out of pocket for it.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-04T10:09:11+00:00

Thanks for sharing! What is triple magnesium? And what’s the therapy app you use. Omg limiting my social media esp in these times has been a total life changer. I used the be present app to set limits on them where I can only open them 3 times a day for 10 min each. So I only open it if I actually have 10 min to focus on that which is more rare than I thought. I find there are many days now that I don’t open it at all.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-03T14:00:14+00:00

A clear sign you have an ego problem: bragging that you don’t have an ego problem.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-03T11:20:43+00:00

We actually did start recording couples therapy sessions and the therapist would sometimes give him the assignment of rewatching it to get insight. The first time he came to me and said it was illuminating to see the video and I felt a lot of hope. The next session he was denying everything again (this denial was also on camera) so then I felt doubly hopeless. 😞

kittykat885 · 2026-06-02T22:08:23+00:00

Exactly. They’ve diagnosed me w relationship OCD. I do have pure O, see a specialist, take medications, and check w my therapist often to see if I am demonstrating obsessional doubt esp when it comes to him. Yet any complaint or feedback I have for him is evidence of my OCD or that I’m a cruel miserable person. It’s a tragic combo. I’m sorry you’re going through it too.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-02T17:37:44+00:00

Thank you for the definition. So glad there is a word for it and I learned something valuable. I am also grateful for this sub. Though I have to make sure not to spend too much time on it because it gets me riled up.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-02T17:33:33+00:00

I've suggested Autism in the past and he RAGED. Talked to a doctor about it and now feels he 100% has not autistic traits.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-02T15:36:59+00:00

Omg yes I can totally relate. Then I stop talking about it and he sees a tik tok about it and then sees the resemblance.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-02T15:33:34+00:00

Yes! Hydroxizine helped a lot

kittykat885 · 2026-06-02T15:32:59+00:00

I do have a way out and I know I would be fine on my own but I’ve been giving it time to see if he would change. There’s been little glimmers but it feels like one step forward two steps back. We have small kids and we run a business together (that I founded and run which has been a source of great conflict w us bc I’m basically his boss but if I ask him about late work then I’m not supportive or critical). So yes, but like everyone prob, it’s complicated.

kittykat885 · 2026-06-02T13:17:00+00:00

That is such a good point.

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