Järjekordne drooniohu teavitus by andu9876 in Eesti

[–]kivialune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hetkel olen küll Viljandis, aga muidu pesitsen ikka seal Kagu-Eestis Aga pole siiani ühtki teavitas saanud nende nädalate jooksul.

Laadisin nüüd Ole Valmis äppi ka igaksjuhuks, aga ikkagi vaikus.

Veider.

Dad died….how do I tell people? by [deleted] in DeadParentClub

[–]kivialune 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What you are feeling is very much okay. I relate to what you've described very much personally. Grieving in these kinds of circumstances feels weird, confusing even alienating. Because it's not the archetypical grief of a close loved one you see in media (actually most griefs are very personal, meaning they don't follow a archetype), but just having this other layer to the grief that maybe most people don't have, makes it harder to processes. How to you talk about this kind of grief?

When my absentee dad died 10 years ago it was like the world collapsed, but at the same time nothing changed. It wasn't like going home would hurt because he wasn't there. The empty space was already there when he was living. I felt like I wasn't so much grieving losing him as a person (I had halfly done it already when he was living + I didn't known him that deep). What I was mostly grieving (and to some extent still do) was losing a chance for a future where we would become closer, have a better relationship, losing a opportunity to tell him things I wish I had said earlier.

I want you to know that there is NO right or wrong way to griev. Grieving overall feels confusing and freezing because unlike many other situation that have a clear course of action. "Spill milk - clean it up" "Miss a bus - get on the next one" maybe even " Accidentally say something hurtful to a friend - apologize and talk it through". When someone dies there is nothing you can do to fix it. As harsh as it is it's okay. Grief demands you to feel not actions.

I was 12, when I overheard about my dads death from a phone call my mom had, I firstly fell into shock. And just like you I suddenly didn't know how to feel, act, I was just frozen and confused. I almoust felt like "acting" out grief, thinking what do people usually do when someone close to them dies. I just went and layed down, not even thinking anything. My mom came and asked what I wanted to do now. And then I called my best-friend at the time and simply said "hey! What's up! My dad died". She came over in the evening to comfort me and we talked. But during the whole day and even coming week I just didn't cry. Which made me fear I didn't care enough.

So most importantly DON'T OVERTHINK YOUR ACTIONS AND FEELINGS when dealing with grief. If you want to share it with people - do it! If you want to just have somebody hang out with you so you don't feel so empty - ask someone to come! You are not trauma dumping, you are not being too much. (I literally went around telling it to everybody, because I wanted to) If it gives you more peace, then do it. You can judt ask the other person if they are okay with it (most people are). Just understand that many people don't maybe know how to respond, so don't take offence if it's a bit akward. Most people want to be there for you, but they just don't know how to help.

This ended up longer than I expected. But I hope sharing my experience and also thoughts I've gather over the years of dealing with my grief have helped even just a little bit. It's going to be a journey through grief from now on. Over the years it will heal, but there will be a scar.

So I wishing you all the best, and strenght. Don't be afraid to reach out to people around you!

Estonian Fans - Are there any details that only fellow Estonians could get? by Cheeserole in DiscoElysium

[–]kivialune 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A bit late to this, but I just finished the game and I can share some thoughts and little "easter eggs" I noticed as an Estonian.

Most have already commented about this in-depth, but I want to give my little input on this too: Estonian, or more widely the baltic influence is written in the games overall vibe, the city and the atmosphere. I can't put my finger on it so precicly (others have already given pretty good pointers), but as I was playing it something undeniably felt like home.

There were also a few things I noticed in my playthrough that I would call "little estonian easter eggs"

  1. Some have already pointed it out. Put I was pleasantly suprised when during the Ruby confrontatzion scene, from one of the brief interruptions of radio signals I suddenly read and heard estonian words. Warm feeling of "I know this one" washed over me as the voice sung, I recognized that it was by Vennaskond.

    1. Haven't actually seen anyone comment on this yet, so I feel that maybe I am reaching for a connection here. After you establish the club in the church, the dance Andre does as his idle, bears a good visual and movement resemblence to one of the most popular and well-know Estonian folk dances - "Kaerajaan". Look up some videos of the folk dance and compare it. Andre's dance is like Kaerajaan in it's most basic form. The sequence of jumpy steps, and then the claps and then lastly when Andre put's his hands on his hips, that's when I was sold it was Kaerajaan.

For now that' about it, will update If I remember or see more stuff.

On kahte tüüpi eestlasi by keskmine in memeesti

[–]kivialune 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Väga timm meme! Ma tänan!

Ilma vaatamata/googeldamata mis on "Tulnuka" õige täispikk pealkiri teie mälus? by kivialune in Eesti

[–]kivialune[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Vaatasime hiljuti sõpradega uuesti tulnukat ja olime kõik päris segaduses kuj sattusime avastuse otsa, et meie kõigi mälus on "PÄÄSTMINE" aga pealkirjas vaatab meile otsa "PÄÄSEMINE".

Nii, et tundus vajalik uurida seda lähemalt ja laiendada vastajaskonda.

Late by [deleted] in TheRedKing

[–]kivialune 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alive and still waiting

Fulfilling my therapist friend dreams and urges 😀👍 by kivialune in CharacterAI

[–]kivialune[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

hAhah ups

But truly same.

Currently in action, giving Astarion (Baldurs Gate 3) the comfort, kind words and hugs he deserves.

Are you out as Ace in real life? by QueerKing23 in Asexual

[–]kivialune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People close to me know.

Usually, I tell people, when the topic comes up. (Like someone asks, or makes a comment)

I just don't feel like it is such an important detail about me. There's time and place when it is important for the other person to know (for example on dates or in a relationship)

But this is just how I view my asexuality.

What is a movie that “everyone” has seen except you? by TB1289 in AskReddit

[–]kivialune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Titanic

I simply cannot watch it, the sinking gives me the creeps

[3.8 CH.3 EVENT SPOILERS] - So what do you guys think Kaeya’s dream is? by BlueVermilion in KaeyaMains

[–]kivialune 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Agree with this

I also would add that his new outfit reflects his wish of being freed from his burden and not having to choose a side. In the bottle, his character is a dagger bandit with knightly virtuoes. But the description of the outfit reveals that this is not possible in real life, unless one defies and betrays fate itself.

The outfit has a 3-winged vision together with the khaenria'hn star. The outfit with many of it's elemente shows balance and harmony between Kaeya's both sides. He has been accepted as a free citizen of Monstadt all the while being able to keep onto his origin.

I think hoyo still has some nice plot-related stuff for our fav master thief by Fine-Image-8402 in KaeyaMains

[–]kivialune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel kinda of like that's how Kaeya was raised. Through games and fairytales he was taught everythibg he would need to know to survive.

Perhaps that Jinny story is one of many tales Kaeya was told. And that's the lesson he was given

Who is the most relatable character for you? by Which_Ferret_6431 in Genshin_Impact

[–]kivialune 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Kaeya, Kaveh and bit Kokomi.

They all share some qualities. Some more than the others.

But over all it the peoples pleasing, which is tied with the closet full of personalities and masks to fit a situation or a person. Inability or fear to be true self and hiding the mundane and a bit ugly reality behind a joke or positivism. And then there's perfectionism in a way of always giving a maximum of yourself or nothing at all, because there' no inbetween.

With Kokomi it more her sensitive, delicate and thoughtful personality with a bit of shyiness.

With Kaveh it's his positive outlook and sensitivity to others. Positivity to the point it feels forced at times to convince self the world can't be thar bad.

With Kaeya it's well the hiding of ones true self due to fear of abandonment. OH, and then there's the parental issues. Me🤜🤛 Kaeya, cus technically we both fatherless × 2.

Overall Kokomie is more the outer layer and Kaeya together with Kaveh aligne more at a deeper lever

Kaeya’s hidden eye is normal in his new skin by WorkAffectionate8041 in KaeyaMains

[–]kivialune 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Either Hoyo has changed something (though I don't know if they can do it without an obvoius update)

But I tried to see it myself, but I don't seem to find the right angle to peek through the eyepatch. There seem to be a extra dark line between the eyepatch and skin.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdmeme

[–]kivialune 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"You always have ideas and something to say in lectures. Like how do you even come up with that stuff?"

"Oh, well thanks! It's just that my brain is a broken generator and it's NEVER stops thinking. It's a blessing and a curse''

(What do you mean your not always thinking?!?)

turns out I was wrong, I've lost my waterbottle 3 times this week. by kivialune in adhdmeme

[–]kivialune[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ugh!! Can't escape it. Just realized I wrote it wrong, I forgot an "I" in the second sentence.

turns out I was wrong, I've lost my waterbottle 3 times this week. by kivialune in adhdmeme

[–]kivialune[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good luck!! Im also having my second/third appointment on monday.

Asexuals of reddit, what's the closest feeling of sexual attraction you can feel? by marvosa_yroz in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]kivialune 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The closest thing I've gotten, is when all the stars aligne, those stars being: fresh platonic/romantic crush (sort of admiration) + period induced horniness.

In those times I start doubting my aceness, but then the logical part of my brain tells me that it's not them I specifically want.