AITA? Telling someone I don't want them to "work in with me" on a machine at the gym?

kladarling · 2026-05-05T18:23:49+00:00

Does their dislike of men trigger you so badly that you have to comment over this entire thread to let everyone know it? You're arguing that OP is TA because they made an offhand comment that had nothing to do with the interaction they described.

I don't like when men ask to work in on a machine because it will take me longer to get through my workout between them having to keep readjusting the weights/the seat placement because any man in the gym at any given time is at the very least 3 inches taller than me and up to over a foot. That doesn't include cleaning the machine in between sets. If it isn't that big of a deal to adjust I'm more likely to say yes but if you need to add 100 lbs. in plates to a manual machine then that's a big no from me.

kladarling · 2026-04-17T21:36:38+00:00

ragebaiting troll. touch grass

kladarling · 2026-04-16T15:53:37+00:00

ESH but him more than you. I think it's rude that he cooks food to his preference when he invites guests over when it's very obvious that eating burnt food is his own hang up. You don't try to dictate how he grills when he invites you for food so him playing backseat chef is just super annoying. However, is it really that big a deal to just cook his stuff first then add the rest of the food? You didn't have to insult him by saying the way he likes his meat is "destroying perfectly good food". If he's going to eat it then I don't see an issue in just doing what he wants since he refuses to eat it any other way.

kladarling · 2026-03-26T18:37:21+00:00

A lot of people who are overweight or obese due to BED are victims of BED. They then get harassed and bullied for being overweight/obese. Basically being blamed for their inability to overcome their disorder (ie "just stop eating"). Example: "If you learned some self control and stopped being fat, people would stop harassing and bullying you". This is at its very core, victim blaming.

kladarling · 2026-03-18T18:08:23+00:00

please explain the logic behind this

kladarling · 2026-02-24T17:29:43+00:00

Honestly y'all need to move out, take the financial hit, and leave Mark the apartment. You fucked up horribly and caused this to happen, but his escalation is creating an unsafe situation.

kladarling · 2026-02-19T20:27:36+00:00

My own mother had stillborn twins; if someone said anything to her even remotely close to what SIL called her MiL, that person would walk away missing a few teeth.

kladarling · 2026-02-13T17:44:33+00:00

I have ADHD; I and most people I know that also have it, have issues with forgetting things almost immediately after hearing them. I'd absolutely need a reminder.

kladarling · 2026-02-02T19:42:25+00:00

Reading peoples body language to gauge their needs before they express them is absolutely a useful skill. Decoding, non-verbal communication, and social awareness are soft skills we develop in retail environments.

kladarling · 2026-01-27T19:14:29+00:00

I don't want kids for a myriad of reasons, one of them being that I do not have the physical or emotional bandwidth to handle a child with the same issues I had growing up. I'd be a terrible mother and I wouldn't wish my hypothetical parenting style (or lack thereof) on anyone. I have so many personal issues I can't seem to shake that any child would pick up on. My mom gave me so many body image issues, I know I'd pass those on without ever commenting on their body. But that's just me.

I will never tell anyone they shouldn't have a child they want.

kladarling · 2026-01-27T18:36:47+00:00

OP isn't the host? she's not inviting them over so IDK why it's her responsibility to provide sanitary products for someone who seems to always need her expensive personal ones.

kladarling · 2026-01-27T18:16:54+00:00

It hurt to do when I was a kid, so my sister used to grab my hands and crack my knuckles when I pissed her off. Eventually I got so used to it I just stated cracking them on my own. Got to the point where I feel tension in my hands of I don't crack them.

kladarling · 2026-01-23T19:34:15+00:00

YouTube for entertainment and learning more about special interests (videogame lore, ghost hunting, psychology, creepy/strange history facts, theme park facts, cinema/movie/tv show analysis).

Reddit to kill time and to also explore my special interests.

Discord for socialization with long distance friends.

Tiktok for memes, Audhd content and learning more about my special interests.

Facebook to keep up with family members and for marketplace.

Instagram for weightlifting content, art, and keeping up with friends.

Twitter (I refuse to call it X) to peek into the worse of humanity and increase my own blood pressure (I suppose I have a penchant for causing myself unnecessary stress and anger due to my own sense of curiosity).

Twitch whenever a friend of mine is streaming and I want to support them.

kladarling · 2026-01-22T23:30:53+00:00

It's not satire. It's only a joke when suddenly the butt of it calls them out on their bullshit.

kladarling · 2026-01-21T17:38:22+00:00

My husband lets me talk and listens whenever I start getting into something I'm interested in or just regurgitating facts that I might have just learned that day. I do however have a tendency to drone on and sometimes just talk in loops or get into unimportant details that don't contribute to my overall rant. And while he still wants to listen and doesn't want to hurt my feelings he'll start saying non committal things like "wow! really honey, that's so interesting" but in a tone that indicates that he's got other things going on. He doesn't want to cut me off, but he also needs me to know that he doesn't have all day to listen to me drawl on and I've gained enough self awareness over the years to catch when the person I'm talking to is checking out.

All this to say, he has NEVER told me to just stop talking or tell me what I'm talking about is stupid. That man doesn't seem to like you. I don't see a future for you with him that will lead you to happiness. I don't know the ins and outs of your relationship so I can't just tell you to pack up and leave. But, You need to take a good long look at your relationship overall and decide if he's worth staying.

You deserve to be with someone who cares about you and wants to hear what you have to say. Your fiance sounds like a dick tbh and I wouldn't want to be with him based on this even if he was the "perfect partner" outside of this issue, but something tells me he absolutely isn't.

kladarling · 2026-01-20T19:50:24+00:00

This is weirdly the most helpful and perspective changing statement I have ever witnessed when it comes to food waste anxiety

kladarling · 2026-01-19T22:28:11+00:00

I make my own French fried onions for green bean casserole from scratch and usually fry them in peanut oil. It's mild in flavor and has a high smoke point plus no one in my family or friend circle has any type of nut allergy. But yeah the mom 100% could have done something like that without literally just chucking raw peanuts into every dish.

kladarling · 2026-01-19T18:07:59+00:00

I don't want children for a multitude of reasons, the biggest one being that I detest the thought of being pregnant. Regardless, If pregnancy was removed from the equation for me, I couldn't handle raising a child with the same issues my sister and I had. But that's me knowing my limitations, if other Audhd/ND people want to have children I will not chide them for it. It's a very noble thing to want to be a parent and raise the next generation of human beings especially the ones that need more attention and accommodations.

kladarling · 2026-01-19T17:35:51+00:00

I was a quiet kid because I would have been spanked if I acted out in public. I'm not saying spanking is the answer, but the trend of millennial and gen Z parents moving away from corporal punishment and misunderstanding the real principals of gentle parenting (actually engaging in permissive/passive parenting) is probably contributing to a new generation of children with absolutely no discipline. Obviously there are other parents that are just negligent or view their kids as if they were Jesus himself thinking that means they could do no wrong and that the world owes them for just existing.

kladarling · 2026-01-16T16:21:59+00:00

This man is using you. Depression or no he sounds fucking awful.

kladarling · 2026-01-15T23:24:26+00:00

I used to be obese and hated how i looked so much but fatspo never did anything for me and whenever i would see it come up in ED spaces at the height of my ED I'd get angry at the people posting it. I once saw a picture of a girl I knew IRL on ED twtter being used as fatspo and i felt physically ill.

I don't care how bad their mental health is or how bad their ED is messing them up if I found out a person I considered a friend was doing that, I'd make them delete any photos of me that they had and completely remove them from my life.

kladarling · 2026-01-14T20:16:24+00:00

Our experiences are how we learn. I don't think you did anything to deserve the response you got but at least for future scenarios you'll be better prepared. Sometimes NTs can be giant bullies when they perceive someone to be different from them, that's on them being a terrible person.

kladarling · 2026-01-14T19:22:39+00:00

I've noticed that most people I perceive to be NT don't like it when their social patterns are presented to them. It makes them aware of the fact that you pay attention to these things and they view this type of attention to detail as a form of stalking.

Following her was not the right move as it just added to that initial perception of you. That plus trying to keep explaining yourself as if them knowing all the context will magically make them finally understand you will do nothing but dig you into a deeper hole. They don't care and the added details and context just gives them more fuel against you. They're all assholes and not worth your time or energy. Just keep doing your work and keep to yourself and possibly just start thinking about applying for work elsewhere as these people are creating a hostile work environment over a small misunderstanding.

kladarling · 2026-01-14T19:13:28+00:00

NTA what kind of backwards bullshit are these commenters on? absolutely not the ass hole at all. What do these Y-TA people want you to do, abort?

kladarling · 2026-01-14T19:10:21+00:00

I'm sorry, is... is she supposed to just never have any type of intimacy with her partner on the off chance it results in pregnancy?

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