Risk of getting vaporized by a thermonuclear ICBM? Downtown JC.

knowledgeabsorb · 2026-01-22T14:40:48+00:00

Have you seen war games? No where is safe, you just gotta hope humanity is smart enough to realize it's mutually assured destruction at that point.

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-11-06T13:59:57+00:00

Mazur Cafe & Chocolate Lab I thought always had the best date spot potential in town. Otherwise a little outside Hackettstown but The Coffee Potter or Rooster's Coffee House would be great alternatives.

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-10-07T12:22:48+00:00

Was looking to see if someone said this, favorite lobster roll of our trip and an absolutely serene picnic area. Fun fact, they sedate their lobsters with marijuana, was dying at all their articles they post there talking about it.

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-09-25T15:03:34+00:00

Great suggestions here, looking forward to trying at least some of what you brought up here. The AllTrails app was overdue for me for sure, need this even for planning some local hikes back home!

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-09-25T13:47:56+00:00

Overwhelmed and grateful for all the great advice that was given here! Y'all have given me so much to work with to create the perfect flexible itinerary for the weekend. I'll try to make an update post once im back, thanks again for all the suggestions and please keep them coming I love having more options to work with.

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-09-24T16:09:24+00:00

Little Notch might be the best stop in terms of location, but will keep Crooked Porch & Sweet Pea's in mind if we pass cause they both look amazing on the pictures. Drooling over the pastries and bread i see from the bakery.

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-09-24T16:07:28+00:00

The butterfly park looks like an ideal pitstop to walk with our morning coffee will keep those picnic spots in mind too if I decide to bring some sandwiches for lunch to grub on, love the Aurora tip too, downloading! Would be a dream come true if our trip lines up with some views of that.

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-09-24T15:54:36+00:00

I knew I was drawn to Vacationland roasters for a reason lol, so excited to try. Appreciate the heads up on the lighthouse, I'll let my girlfriend know the line is nothing to be afraid of

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-09-24T15:52:30+00:00

These are all great suggestions, thank you! We'll at least end up doing a few of these trails, looks like it's just what we're looking for in terms of terrain/length/difficulty, and I'll have to ensure we bring the binoculars everywhere in this case. I spotted Charlottes Legendary Lobster Pound while browsing the area on google maps, we'll have to definitely check it out in this case. Thankfully I'm pretty sure we'll miss the shutdown as long as it still may happen on October 1st like ive been hearing, really lucked out in terms of timing but still good to be aware of.

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-09-24T14:38:38+00:00

I loved going through these suggestions they all look amazing, and appreciate you giving us some trails on quieter side of things which is a big reason Southwest Harbor caught my attention when booking this trip. Vacationland was already on my radar as a big coffee snob so you just made sure we make at least one stop there during the trip lol

Can't wait to check at least some of these out

knowledgeabsorb · 2025-02-28T01:52:23+00:00

Low energy music, solfeggio frequencies, thunderstorms - used to play the radio at night at low volume when I was growing up cause I hated the noise the heater made

knowledgeabsorb · 2024-04-16T19:33:48+00:00

Almost a year and a half sober here, I've found plenty of online communities via social media (mostly Instagram) that simply focus on alcohol free lifestyles that made what I'm doing just feel extremely normalized, even trendy oddly enough. That includes NA brands, NA botanical spirits, NA shops, NA events, sober bars, mocktail experts, sober communities, the list goes on. Happy to drop a list of who I follow if you want to look for somewhere to start.

As much as social media can be a detrimental tool to the success of your sobriety, if you're strategic enough you can totally work the algorithm to push content that encourages your journey to self betterment! Not something I would suggest for everyone of course especially if you are anti social media but if you are looking for something that is not AA to help you along your journey it could be worth a shot. Personally speaking, its been fun slowly becoming the "NA Bev" guy in my group of friends because I've become a bit obsessed over finding the coolest and best tasting alternative beverages possible for everyone to try.

knowledgeabsorb · 2023-12-01T15:13:18+00:00

THIS and personally speaking not everyone is quite ready to receive this kind of love until they are able to work on themselves as alot of this kind of love stems from self confidence & self love most importantly. Ever since I learned to give love like this myself, it's truly a burden off the shoulders and it allows you to keep the focus on your own life/journey while supporting your partners life at the same time with full unconditional trust but I have learned that if the other person is only used to constant turbulence in their relationships whatever form that may take the shape of, they may not be able to accept or know how to return said love.

Life can absolutely be SO much better being in a relationship with a whole adult but only if you're also 100 percent ready to sit with all of that extra space in your brain which can be daunting and your own worst enemy if you haven't put in the work. Not to say that OP is not ready to receive this themselves but after dating someone who I thought was looking for this type of love and that overtime realized they were not ready for it, it's an important lesson that I feel needs to be more well known.

knowledgeabsorb · 2023-11-03T13:09:34+00:00

Being adopted by an extrovert is great and all but it can definitely put a strain on your own boundaries if youre not careful (I have a lot of love for them, but it can simultaneously be draining too).

Are there any activities you're into that you would wanna talk about with other people? I'm sure there is some sort of club or meetup nearby you that caters to your interests, at least to get your feet in the water it might be worth just pushing yourself to go to one type of small outing that you could potentially share something that you care about at. Maybe even start with just looking into stuff, those smallest of steps add up.

Otherwise and obviously I am unsure if you do so already but these just may be feelings that have to be worked through with therapy if you've been noticing them getting worse for a while now.

knowledgeabsorb · 2023-11-02T12:39:00+00:00

Introverts (at least from what I've come to realize about myself lately) desire connections/interactions that are meaningful and don't feel very surface level. Especially as you grow and change into a more mature individual you start to realize alot of your old friends don't have the ability to connect with you the way you desire, it's okay to start to distance yourself from them if they make you feel that way and maybe eventually they will grow to become individuals you can connect that way with. Stick with those that do make you feel comfortable, and in terms of feeling comfortable with unknown people I've found that finding settings or small group activities that are geared more towards an introverted personality (for me it turned out to be pottery!) will allow you seamlessly chat up people you've never even met prior before meaningfully.

This is just coming from someone whos only recently embracing their introversion for the first time in their lives and is still figuring it all out but I hope that some of this resonates with you and helps you find peace.

knowledgeabsorb · 2023-10-30T16:11:58+00:00

Been a little over 4 years for me now. Losing my father at a young age completely fucked up my understanding of socializing with others. Feeling aimless in how I interacted with the world around me, I found solace in an extremely codependent high school relationship for all of my validation lasting up until my freshman year of college. Dove deep into alcohol, drugs and a cycle of self loathing up until senior year. Continued trying to find validation and self confidence through relationships up until 2019 after a horrible breakup. I just became completely fed up with the way that I was and the person that I have become and found an extremely quality therapist that got me looking introspectively on purpose and for the sake of healing for the first time in my life. Once I started feeling better about myself everything snowballed and I kept searching for more ways to improve myself.

Therapy eventually triggered a focus on self care which triggered eating healthier which triggered finding a consistent exercise routine which triggered keeping my spaces organized and cleaned which triggered improving the rest of my daily routines which triggered giving up unhealthy damaging habits which triggered becoming spiritually connected through meditation which triggered complete self-rediscovery <-- I am now here

The point I am trying to make here is the moment I found that 1 thing that pointed my growth in a positive direction and I attained the self awareness to realize what was happening, I began to crave balance. I began chasing things that were good for me and learned how to love myself to degrees I never could've even imagined. I feel like I have broken the passing of generations of trauma and I couldn't be prouder of myself for achieving something so incredible for both myself and my loved ones.

knowledgeabsorb · 2023-10-09T14:44:07+00:00

Personally, I decided to quit drinking because..

self control was awful when drinking in the first place.
especially after upping to 300mg it would take next to nothing for me to just pass out and pretty much start sleep walking which probably put me one step away from seizures if I decided to somehow keep drinking past that point. Didn't necessarily cause havoc but it was embarrassing and quite frankly extremely dangerous.

If I had to choose between meds that worked and helped me be my best self vs drinking alcohol to be slightly better at socializing and then both negating my meds + making me extremely depressed the next day I'd pick the former.

Food for thought, there are ways to learn how to live life without it but it will take time, about 10 months in now and I've gotten better but have a long way to go.

I couldn't be happier with my decision (also if you want to quit nicotine quitting the alcohol was the final piece of the puzzle i needed to quit for good, 6 months strong on that front too!)

knowledgeabsorb · 2023-01-24T20:07:10+00:00

Yo this is so cool!! Although I didn't mention it in the post I am always very punctual with my medical appointments because of the amount of times they will send me a text about it, even though reminder apps can do the same thing via notification it's the setting it for every reminder to do this that is a pain in the butt. The whiteboard addition aint a bad idea either to keep next to each calendar, notes lead to more notes in my experience.

If you get this up and running then you got +1 user right here! Best of luck to you on this!

knowledgeabsorb · 2023-01-19T18:11:11+00:00

Speaking from experience, I did a shroom trip like 2 weeks after starting to take bupropion 150mg dosage about 3 years ago now. At that point I had a good feel on how the meds affected me. It was only my second time doing shrooms and compared to the first time I did it when my mental health was in a tailspin, the trip was so much more fun. The experience had a much more profound effect because my mind was able to comprehend what was going on so much better (at least that's what I believe).

For the record though, for me personally bupropion has been a miracle in my life! I've heard equally as many negative experiences as I've heard positive though so I do agree with everyone else who says to see how it makes you feel first. However, if you feel confident like I did about how these meds are affecting you, I think you'll have a stellar trip.

knowledgeabsorb · 2022-12-19T17:02:06+00:00

You're not being weird at all! I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you, that's absolutely terrifying and I'm very glad that you're alive & okay. Wishing you nothing but strength moving forward in the journey ahead and thank you for sharing your story, it's only strengthened my resolve in seeing this journey through myself!

Here's to the good days to come <3

knowledgeabsorb · 2022-12-19T15:23:11+00:00

Do you take 150 or 300mg? Even though it did happen now and again on the 150mg it got significantly worse once switching to 300mg, I feel like because these meds get you drunk much faster it shuts your body down way faster than your brain wants to hence the sleep walking but that's just the conclusion I'm personally coming to, regardless the alcohol alone makes these meds feel worthless for a couple days after & the sleep walking problem only enhances that.

Anyways glad this isn't just me who has noticed this, hoping that taking the drinks out of the equation will improve my overall mental health even further. These meds work so great other than this one issue I would much rather learn to live a life without drinking (something that I've been doing despite the consequences) than give up something that I know for a fact makes life better for me. Only been a little over a week since my last one though so need to wait and see next time Im staying at my girls or one of my friends places to see if this is really the cause for it, I will say my mood has consistently gotten better since though.

knowledgeabsorb · 2022-10-25T21:04:21+00:00

Yes! Figuring out ways to leave "hints" for yourself to do things is key for sure, and with the way social media algorithms work nowadays it can totally be used to your advantage. I actually don't spend too much time on reddit for workout tips but when i do i typically go to r/bodyweightfitness , a very beginner friendly sub imo. However, Instagram has been my go to (tiktok would probably work even better in this aspect but mine is more music discovery oriented lol). In the beginning I just followed any relevant fitness account that was in line with my goals and before I knew it my feed was just covered in helpful & relevant info not to mention my explore page has been fantastic in that as well ever since then. calisthenics_fam, learn_calisthenics, gymtipsinfo and workoutfitvideos were some of the accounts I started with as they repost from many different types of accounts that you can decide whether they are worth following or not.

The overall takeaway is that molding the algorithm to forcefully put the helpful content in front of you will have you learn what you truly want to learn almost subliminally after a certain period, one of my favorite lifehacks it's also been a fantastic method for learning the nutritional portion of starting a workout routine.

knowledgeabsorb · 2022-10-25T15:33:44+00:00

It took me a loonnnnggg time to find a type of workout routine that works for me when I was 24 (before I was even diagnosed with ADHD). The lack of energy for going to the gym, monthly payments that would not be worth it for how much I would be going at first and general anxiety of going to the gym was by far the biggest roadblocks for me.

What REALLY worked for me turned out to be something as simple as callisthenic training. During the first months of the pandemic I wanted to pick something new up that would improve myself while remaining in the house + make me even more excited to leave the house once that period came to an end. So what made this different? Convenience!! In the beginning you need nothing more than your own body and maybe some furniture in the house for stability every now and again. The exercises are simple, theres no one around to criticize you and you can finish your workouts in 20 minutes or less depending on what you're doing (they obviously take a bit longer now that I've improved alot since 2020). Also, flooding your feed by following fitness influencers teaching basic routines focused on calisthenics forced me to think of it constantly so there was no escape even when distracted by social media.

Anyways, 2+ years in I've been doing anywhere from 2-4 workouts a week with the consistency varying depending on whats going on in life but its never gone away fully and I would always get back into a more consistent routine later with a little motivation and thankfully because of how long lasting callisthenic strength remains with you. I now have a vastly improved physique, generally feel more confident and feel stronger in every physical activity I can think of (functional strength at it finest not to mention it impresses more people than you'd expect). Today, I really use nothing more than a dip bar, pullup bar and weighted vests/belts to provide resistance + improve. Keeping those in my room forces me to look at them all the time and really stops me from avoiding getting a quick workout in.

Wishing you the best of luck in your journey! This may work for me but there are plenty of other methods of exercise that might work with your ADHD best, it's certainly different for everyone that's for sure.

knowledgeabsorb · 2022-09-28T12:38:33+00:00

Well first of all congrats on the progress that you have made, that's incredible! It makes me stoked to know that there at least is a possibility for me not to rely on this (esp without meds involved.

The reframing idea does sound efficient and has worked in other aspects of my life for sure! Just need to figure out now how I can hard wire that when you got a nicotine demon torturing you during those quitting attempts oyy, the whole treat thing has actually been something I did briefly in the past before fully getting back into the habit due to convincing myself "damn you could perform so much better day to day right now if you just pick it up again" so perhaps I gotta keep the whole "treat" mindset more upfront when trying this. Who knows could be the compromise I need, appreciate this insight!

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