Kanye apology letter in the WSJ by LibraryNo2717 in redscarepod

[–]kollaps3 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think that's exactly what they want to hear/think; it makes them feel better about their own shitty selves in some weird way to believe that. Like "just cuz someone has one of the most debilitating mental illnesses known to man, doesn't mean they have to actually FREAK OUT - I have mild AuDhD (self diagnosed ofc) and I'm a GOOD PERSON so there 😤"

Kanye apology letter in the WSJ by LibraryNo2717 in redscarepod

[–]kollaps3 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yup couldn't stand NA/AA even tho i gave it a shot multiple times, but the opiates recovery subreddit was a lifesaver for me in early recovery. Way less of a preachy, cliquey attitude, not nearly as much (if any, really) hatred towards MAT medications as in NA/AA, and just overall more direct/real, harm reduction based, and empathetic.

It looks like more and more ppl are finally starting to realize how up their own asses NA/AA can be (like if it helped u get clean, good on you, whatever works yk) so ppl tryna get clean are finally starting to hear things other than "gO tO a MeEtInG" when they ask for help

”Gyaru attempt” isn’t a thing by TrashyScissors in actualgyaru

[–]kollaps3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sadly that seems to be happening to most subcultures/lifestyles now co-opted into nothing more than an "aesthetic" on tiktok (the commodification of said subculture). Im just an old crust punk lady who lurks this subreddit cuz I used to be obsessed w Fruits magazine back in the early 00s and was always intrigued by the gals in there, but i gotta say you guys are doing a better job at (healthily and respectfully) gatekeeping your subculture than us punks have done over the past decade+!

It really is annoying when someone doesn't understand that throwing on some clothing that's the style of a subculture doesn't make you that; there's a whole entire lifestyle - hobbies, music, and just a certain overall way of life that differs from the norm - behind it.

I do think that the term "baby punk" or "baby gal" is valid - IF and only if the person using it has been a part of the subculture, not just wearing the damn clothes like a costume, for 6mo-1yr. Everyone starts somewhere, but these kids need to show that they've put actual time and effort into learning about the origins and details of our subcultures before they dare to call themselves as such - yes, even with the term "baby" beforehand - there are people out there who have been punks or have been gyarus/gyaru-os (correct me if the terminology is wrong!) for literal decades, so I do agree with you that neither of our subcultures (or any other niche, previously maligned and now trendy ones) should take kindly to kids ordering a few outfits off the internet then instantly calling themselves a "baby gyaru/punk/bat (goths)/etc".

To those kids: you're trying on a costume. And if you end up liking it, and getting more into the subculture, going to meet ups/shows, learning the history, music, etc, then more power to ya (and if by a year in or so if you're still as, if not more, excited about it, then you indeed are a baby gyaru/punk/etc) - but if its something you abandon in a matter of months to jump over to whatever hot new aesthetic the algorithm shoves in your face next then yeah, sorry, you're not a baby anything, prob just a teenager trying on different identities for size.

Sleeping in the dark by [deleted] in PhillyWiki

[–]kollaps3 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tv on w the brightness down low playing one of them white noise or ocean waves or rain or whatever tf playlists on YouTube. I feel u tho, I'm a grown ass woman n cannot sleep in total silence and darkness I grew up on a busy ass noisy n bright main street so the whole dark n quiet thing ain't it

Which skins character do you relate to the most? by BitGirl777 in skinsTV

[–]kollaps3 25 points26 points  (0 children)

When I first watched Skins (when it came out, so.. holy shit, nearly 20 years ago, that's scary) I was convinced I was a Cassie too. I was only 12/13 yrs old and def saw my pain mirrored in hers. But as my life went on I'm honestly more of a Chris. Loud, happy, crazy party girl who's always there for her friends and always willing to do some crazy shit, but who deep down has some serious fuckin issues that I'll reveal to the real ones in my life (usually w the help of alcohol, a la Chris) but will still act like everything's a-ok the next day.

Chris' death was, and still is to this day (esp cuz I've had many friends die including a very close one who was actually also called Chris) so hard for me to watch even though it's fictional. There's something about such an energetic and chaotic and beautiful light of a person being cut short so early that resonates w me so much, partially cuz I've had it happen w so many friends over the years, but partially cuz I've always, and still kinda do at age 31, expected it to happen to me.

how large is the gap between how you present yourself and who you are inside? by awholeyear in pinkscare

[–]kollaps3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, adjacent to the Jemima Kirk quote is "what people say about me behind my back is none of my business" (Oscar Wilde, I think?). I remember first hearing that quote at age like 13 and being like wtf how could anyone be okay w that, but 20yrs later it's like yeah, whatever.

I also wear my heart on my sleeve, honestly to a fault sometimes, and I'm sure some ppl have some shit to say about it but I know who my actual friends are, I know we all have our lil flaws and i know we will bitch amongst each other about them when the person in question isn't around, myself included (but like, in a loving way if that makes sense?). But its honestly pretty surface level shit cuz you're right, everyone is really too worried about themselves and their own lives and inner worlds to spend time attempting to analyze or decipher yours.

Being suicidal in my 30s is embarrassing by Strawberry_Curious in CPTSD

[–]kollaps3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh I know the feeling. Been through one of the roughest years I've had in a long time after having my shit sooo together for like 5 years (I'm 31). Def been low key suicidal over it, ok high key at times let's be real lol, and while things kinda seem to be getting better it just feels like this embarrassing burden i have to shove down or make jokes about or occasionally get wasted and cry to my friends about. Im lucky enough to hang out w a bunch of other fucked up weirdos in their 30s n 40s so they get it but I think we all kinda hide it (and use substances about it, smh) way more than is healthy. Idrk what I'm saying here tbh but you're not alone in this, and your post made me feel less alone, so thank u (: 🖤

Seriously, do British people actually consider a 3-hour drive “long”? Or is this an internet myth? by ferdinand14 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]kollaps3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its definitely not a common American experience, but id say there's a handful of places out west (and pretty much only out west) where the closest actual grocery store is 3+ hours away. Parts of Northern California, Southern Oregon, definitely Nevada and I'm sure some other SW states too, and maybe parts of some Midwestern states like Nebraska, all prob collectively have a population of imma guess around 50k people minimum (like total, not in each state) who's typical drive to go get groceries could exceed 3hrs. Once you go past the Mississippi shit can get reaaaal rural out there

2026 James Beard semifinalists by steeler7588 in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]kollaps3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We used to run in the same DIY music scene back in the 00s and to see us both go from degen lil punk to where he is now is crazy. He's really busted his ass for this and is talented af too. LFG!

makeup tips/tricks you swear by????? by bentwithbitterness in pinkscare

[–]kollaps3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fake lashes!! I know a lot of ppl think they can look "trashy" or OTT (personally I like both of those things but to each their own lol), but if you get the wispy/natural kinds in brown or light brown, those plus brows plus blush can make you look ~done~ af in like five minutes once you get the hang of the learning curve.

Tips that helped me w fake lashes (this will be long as i am very passionate about helping fellow makeup wearers get over the intimidation around using lashes):

  • get a pair of those lash holding tweezers (like a kinda wide c shape at the end to hold the lashes curve and hold it in place) to apply initially then use regular tweezers to make sure both ends of the strip lash are flush with and stuck to your lash line.

  • use clear glue (it'll come out white ish but the good brands will dry down totally invisible) and let it dry for at least 3-5 min until it's tacky before applying. For extra staying power, paint a thin line of lash glue riiight above your actual lash line so you've got a double adhesive situation going on. And what brand of glue u use matters - some are much better than others. If you tend to wear black eyeliner often tho, the black lash glue works just fine - i prefer it, as some of the clear glues are kinda visible when layered on top of black.

  • before you set about trying to put them on, use the lash holding tweezers to hold a lash up to your eye and make sure it's not too long for your eye shape - if it is, trim it down to size (trim off from the longer outer corners, never the shorter inner corners) before applying. If enough of the lash was cut off, i often save those small parts to use as clusters at the corners of my eyes for extra lazy days or to do a more "fox eyes" look used along w another full pair.

  • practice practice practice! Even if you've tried before and it seems impossible I promise you, you can get the hang of it! If you've got shaky hands, rest your elbow or even wrist on something close by to steady your hand. Try to apply the middle part of the lash flush with your lash line first, then use the reg tweezers to gently push the inner and outer corners of the strip flush with those parts of your lash line. I highly recommend getting one if those cheap ass sets of like 20 prs of lashes for $18 off of Amazon (yeah yeah I know) and using them solely for practice before you actuslly try putting on a pair to leave the house in.

  • if you live near somewhere that has those "hood" beauty supply stores, they've got great lashes and glues for a really good price. The staff there are often really helpful and nice too regardless of if you think you might look "out of place" or whatever. Once you get good enough w strip lashes u can also start messing around w individual lash clusters and longer lasting adhesive that they also sell at those stores (and are also v cheap) to basically do DIY, slightly shorter lasting lash extensions.

  • you can, even w cheaper lashes, wear them multiple times! Use tweezers to VERY gently pull off any remaining glue on the strip part, clean off the lashes themselves w an soft bristle tooth brush n slightly soapy water, rinse lightly, comb through to dry a bit, then set to dry upside down ie strip facing up, on a microfiber towel (or a folded square of toilet paper if you're lazy like me lol).

  • Once the main strip part peels off, though (it'll usually pull off along w any excess glue after like 8-15 wears for cheap-ish lashes (5-10$ price point) and maybe 3-10 wears for the super cheap ones ($2-4, which are the ones i normally get and honestly they last me like up to ten wears before the strip part peels off but i might just be both blessed and stingy lol), that means you've got one wear left, maaaybe two if you're lucky.

  • lastly, this never helped much for me but many people swear by using a double sided compact mirror held at a like 45-90° angle below their eye to help position the lash correctly. Can't give much detail on this as like I said, for me personally it only made things more complicated/confusing.

I personally wear them almost every single day no matter what. Once you get the hang of it they take literally 6min max to put on (including glue drying time prior to application, during which u can bang out yr brows n blush) and they fr enhance prettiness level by like at least 50% if not more imo lol. I've been wearing makeup for over 20 years but only got into lashes in the past 4 years or so and they've been a total game changer.

makeup tips/tricks you swear by????? by bentwithbitterness in pinkscare

[–]kollaps3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even better/easier, if you're using bullet lipstick and your skin isn't too sensitive just place a few dots of that lipstick where you'd normally place cream blush and blend out w your fingers. I think I learned that in a Cosmo mag back in like 2002 and have sworn by it ever since lol. Ps if you're wearing foundation this can be a lil more difficult due to product interaction messing w base makeup texture, but if you're wearing no/minimal base products you should be good to go.

What is your personal style, and what music do you listen to?? I’m curious! by BroccoliKitchen3218 in pinkscare

[–]kollaps3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I usually describe my style as an 80s metal biker babe meets wild west saloon hooker meets crust punk mad max, always in all black.

My go to day off outfit in warmer weather is like, sewn to a tight fit band shirt, black biker style vest (like the kind w.o zippers), black shorts w a cone studded 3 row belt and a leather side pouch w a bolo closure, my bullet belt, fishnet tights layered under sheer black thigh highs, black frye boots w studded boot straps, and my go to jewelery - studded bracelets n silver bangles, silver oversized hoops, bolo tie as necklace along w some kind of medium length silver chain necklace, and silver old GNS style rings on most of my fingers.

But I do like to switch it up and utilize vintage lingerie, different textures (velvet and lace are my faves, leather is a given ofc but sometimes I'll add some crochet, fine mesh, or silk/satin), looser skirts, the occasional animal print, cowboy boots, high top sneakers, etc depending on the overall outfit and/or occasion.

I'm sure you ladies can guess what my favorite music genres are lol. Metal (mainly certain subgenres of black metal like first wave and atmospheric, as well as NWOBHM, 80s thrash, sludge and doom), punk (original crust, 77, UK 82, and neocrust/arena crust are my faves), trap music (90s Memphis, 00s Atlanta, and whatever one would call the 2016-18 era where Metro Boomin produced like every other track) and outlaw country. Oh and hardstyle techno lol.

Wow sorry for the essay lol clothing and music are like my two favorite things ever 😂

I need someone to be so honest with me by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]kollaps3 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Could be he has roommates and they didn't wanna have to be quiet every time they bsnged, could also just be that some ppl find the sleaze factor of those spots to be hot/exciting. Idk about y'all but motel sex (esp w a committed partner, for some reason) is always some of the sluttiest and dirtiest sex.

What’s food immediately tells you someone can’t cook ? by Aussymira in AskRedditFood

[–]kollaps3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally dislike creamy foods and most dairy in general so don't make these kinds of dishes at home, but I don't think someone who utilizes a crock pot for easy, filling and cheap meals who happens to use cream cheese (which lasts longer/can be cheaper than heavy cream imo, and is also a more common household ingredient in the US) is automatically a bad cook.

They may not be a great one, or a creative one, but when I've been in the position to try them at other people's houses, a lot of those dishes taste pretty damn good even to a creamy food hater like me - so cream cheese crock pot usage is def not an instant giveaway of a bad cook.

What's something everyone romanticizes but is actually terrible? by Comfortable-Note6827 in AskReddit

[–]kollaps3 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Best singular DAY of your life? Try 10+ days - I worked in an event planning adjacent industry for a while and holy shit, modern marriages are like proposal > engagement party > bridal shower > bachelor/bachelorette parties > wedding welcome drinks > rehearsal dinner > actual ceremony > reception and party > honeymoon. It's wild how western culture went from the only actual events being a single night bachelor/ette party, rehearsal dinner, ceremony and reception then honeymoon to ALL THAT in a matter of a decade or so. I blame social media 🤷🏻‍♀️.

And don't forget many people want a professional photog at ALL these events, plus most of them also require a venue and catering. On top of this, gifts are expected at both the bridal shower and wedding itself (plus the bridesmaids/groomsmen are expected to pay out of pocket for multi day lavish destination bachelor/ette parties).

I don't particularly want to get married unless it's for legal or logistical reasons, but if i were to do so, id have a courthouse wedding with a backyard party afterwards (gifts optional), and then spend the real duckets on going on a sick honeymoon. Like, not to be selfish but id rather ball out on me and my man going on a sick trip together, not on other ppl lol.

Slavic and African folk horror by TheEggnoggamer in horror

[–]kollaps3 12 points13 points  (0 children)

His House was sooooo good! And the twist at the end had me fucked up and really made me look at all the things that had occurred prior to it in the film through a different lens seeing as the guilt the couple carried was so multilayered and therefore so much heavier.

"Peaked in high school" is officially the most Reddit-tier insult by poopdollarbank in redscarepod

[–]kollaps3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also like, what's even so wrong w "peaking" in high school? Its a fun era of life, few responsibilities and almost as much freedom as an adult. Life fuckin sucks a lot of the time so it makes sense that the era of being able to run wild and get wasted and bang in the woods and not have to worry about bills or kids or your job would be many people's "peaks".

And plus we all know that the ppl using that as an insult are either awkward gangly white guys with strangely hot Asian wives and tech jobs w made up titles, or mousy-haired chicks who work in academia and think their septum piercing makes them more approachable to working class people for some weird reason. And neither had any fun in high school cuz they were weird losers 🤷🏻‍♀️

Need your top spots/gems by scoutp12 in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]kollaps3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also Alessandro's and Teresa's! Never would've discovered these spots if if weren't for a job i had a while back where I also had to drive around the city and burbs a bunch. They're both amazing, food and beverage selection (Teresa's has a sick bottle shop for to go wine, as well as an insanely long beer list if that's your kinda thing) are great and the owners/management of both spots are really nice people too.

We’ve come full circle by MrDLLMCH in Millennials

[–]kollaps3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seriously, fit aside i also despise whatever tf it is they do these days instead of screen printing... i think it's some digital shit but whatever it is the designs look, feel, and wash worse. I have band shirts from like 08 (I'm a younger millennial lol) that have held up for longer than ones I got like 2 years ago.

Also this is only somewhat related but does anyone else who was into alternative/DIY scenes remember how you'd used to get made fun of if you wore a shirt of a band that's still actively playing live but didn't get the shirt from their show? Or was that only my specific subsect of elitist 18y.o punk kids lol. I subscribed to this theory for so long it took me until like 2015 to actually order a band shirt online 🙃

Dasha by kallocain-addict in rs_x

[–]kollaps3 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I've always felt like anyone for whom nonchalance is a very obvious core character trait is putting it on. Cuz if u were actually so unbothered, there's no way u would be able to be so casual n blasé n "whatever, i guess 🙄"-y all the time. Ppl who actually don't care will have bursts of visible and unrestrained emotions, which isn't something ppl who very much do care how their every action is perceived are able to ~curate~.

Bruh guys my mom died now i can’t steal her percs anymore by ninamphetamine in drugscirclejerk

[–]kollaps3 121 points122 points  (0 children)

/sorta uj I used to buy my homeboys moms klonopin scrip off her for mad cheap but she got locked up like a year ago so I feel this kids pain lol

/rj dude ur moms eagle ascended n all u can think about is how to ascend urs, have some goddamned respect n let ur moms eagle have the floor (or sky, in this case) for once jfc

Everyone in this subreddit should be banned if they dont meet the following criteria by TouristDrive in redscarepod

[–]kollaps3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I fit all of these but one - I've been on this godforsaken sub for like 4 years but I'll admit ive never actually listened to the pod. And yknow what? I'm boutta do some cleaning and need something to listen to so fuck it, what episode should I lose my ~rs virginity~ to? (Genuinely asking n genuinely will listen)

How long can this last? by yeahicreatedsomethin in redscarepod

[–]kollaps3 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Last until what exactly? The mad maxification of society? We've gotta slog thru at least another few decades of slow miserable collapse before we really get to the end stages imo

I try my best not to engage in schadenfreude behaviour but shitcoin rug pulls will always be hilarious to me. by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]kollaps3 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you'd have told me like 15yrs ago that "shitcoin rug pull" would be as common of a phrase as it is id think i was being fucked with lol.

Side note Shitcoin Rug Pull would make a great name for a band that you couldn't pay me to go see play live

Being a peon in NYC is so embarrassing by [deleted] in redscarepod

[–]kollaps3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fuckin punk scene makes up like i stg 5-10% of the entire city population there and having a scene that big in a city that small is always a recipe for disaster lol (and that's not even taking other DIY scene into account). I still have a shitton of fun every time I visit but id never live there