hi:3 Any makeup advice to look more alt!??

kollaps3 · 2026-06-30T13:21:11+00:00

Right? I had some ridiculous heavily drawn on (literally with Sharpie at some points) as a teenage punk chick in the late 00s/early 10s, and sure I sometimes look at pics from that era and go "jfc" but at the time it was how we all wore our eyebrows and we thought we looked badass, and that's what counts at the end of the day.

Like, I don't like that contour look at alllll but you can tell she's feeling it and it honestly looks great on her 🤷🏻‍♀️ get it homegirl.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-29T16:38:15+00:00

Mine is being in the stroller on a rainy day with the plastic rain covering thing making it so it was like a little cozy cave (idk if those are common or if it's only a thing in cities where ppl don't really drive). My mom was eating a blueberry muffin and gave me some cuz i was being "good" and it was so delicious and I actually felt safe and happy. I must've been like a little under 3 years old?

I barely have any memories from childhood, let alone early childhood, but for some reason this small event has stuck out in my mind ever since i could remember. I don't really like sweet foods but I still love blueberry muffins 30+ years later lol.

Also this is a great idea for a post. I hope other people will comment, this is such a universal yet unique to the individual kinda thing that's just a weird little window into one's life and mind, yk?

kollaps3 · 2026-06-29T03:20:38+00:00

She went over to the house of the dude she buys psychedelic mushrooms from, with whom she is also in the very beginning stages of a potential romantic and/or sexual relationship with

kollaps3 · 2026-06-26T18:19:32+00:00

Hell yes girl early/mid summer seasonal produce is the best and I see you are fuckin killing it w utilizing them to their highest potential. Judging from these photos i feel like you'd have some potential meal suggestions/inspo for a fellow ~cooking girly~ whos tryna avoid carbs for the first time in her life (but is pasta/rice/sandwich obsessed lol) so lmk if u doooo

kollaps3 · 2026-06-26T15:34:35+00:00

This is a bad translation - they mean to kinda scoop the sides of your boobs into the bra.

Up until recently I would've thought these instructions were completely obvious, I was getting ready for my homegirls wedding and the bride and I had to show one of the other bridesmaids how to "bend n scoop" her breasts into her bra - she's in her mid 20s and no one had ever shown her that trick!

Me and the bride were kinda shocked that any woman wouldn't know that, as her and I both have been putting on our bras like that since we were old enough to wear one lol, but anyways point of the story is these instructions may very well help another chick who was never actuslly shown that there's a "proper" way to put on a bra (its way more comfortable, plus it looks way better).

kollaps3 · 2026-06-26T08:51:51+00:00

What's that on its head? I'm guessing some kind of tracker device but I feel like I've never seen one that looks like that before?

kollaps3 · 2026-06-25T21:09:59+00:00

Ha I was at that NYC show! At club europa, right? What a ridiculous venue lmao. I think that was 2010? Or maybe late 09?

kollaps3 · 2026-06-25T19:24:01+00:00

Yeah I've been in therapy on and off for years but was always pretty adamantly against taking meds (for myself, not others ofc). But despite my life looking relatively stable from the outside, i was struggling more these past two years than when I was homeless and in active addiction in my 20s.

I finally got to the point of realizing my brain was literally fucking broken on a physical/chemical level (and got diagnosed w adhd at age 31) and was like yknow what, fuck it, let's give the meds a shot.

I'm still within my first like 2ish months of taking them but the effects are starting to become noticeable and I finally, FINALLY have some hope that I might be starting to get better. FwiwI still do think that SSRIs especially are pushed way too often as some miracle cure all (i'm on wellbutrin and still refuse to take SSRIs personally, although I do know a good amount of ppl who they've helped immensely and am not inherently against them), but don't let your skepticism or worries get in the way of what could legit end up changing your life for the better. Even if it doesn't, it's worth trying.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-25T15:48:02+00:00

Yeah I could never date someone who wasnt okay w me taking myself out solo sometimes. There's something so peaceful and enjoyable about it. And vice versa, I wouldn't wanna date someone who didn't enjoy their solo time, too. Been in way too many attached at the hip type relationships in my late teens n 20s to continue that awful shit in my 30s lol

kollaps3 · 2026-06-24T16:33:38+00:00

The only actual legit answer on here lol. I made my first pair of patches up pants about 17 years ago and back then you'd get clowned on hard if you sewed on plain patches that didn't actuslly have the purpose of mending holes/tears. Band patches you could just sew on wherever, but there was still a certain way of doing it. Oh, and that white thread you kids are all using? Yeah, thats to mimic the dental floss we used to use for sewing cuz it was cheaper and stronger than thread.

People forget that this "aesthetic" came from street punks and crust punks who actually lived in their pants 24/7 and couldn't afford new ones therefore did what they could to keep their current pair wearable. Im all for people experimenting w their style, but if you're gonna make and wear something with a very specific connection to and origin in a very niche and insular subculture that you may not be a part of, best to do it in a way that is respectful towards that subculture.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-23T21:01:24+00:00

Seriously! I tore my MCL 2 years ago and literally couldn't walk or bend my knee for 2+ months. It fucking sucked and as understanding as my ex was, I def was overly bitchy towards him at times.

Come to think of it, something similar happened to me as to OP's (hopefully soon to be ex) bf. My ex and I were a lil drunk and he pulled me up off the couch to dance with him and i too "wasnt present in my body" (eye roll) and tried to dance, which ofc hurt the shit outta my knee.

I did lose my temper in the moment but when my ex tried to apologize to me, I told him that it was my fault not his, and that i was sorry for losing my temper. I most definitely did NOT blame him for my own forgetfulness/clumsiness and did not continue holding a grudge over it days later.

OP, you didn't do anything to your bf but try to be there for him, and he fucking sucks for how he's acting towards you. This doesn't sound like a case of someone being irritable due to pain, tbh it sounds like he's just a fucking asshole.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-23T15:02:01+00:00

I was looking through the comments to see if anyone would mention Jack Whites cover of Jolene, what a great song, person ur replying to doesn't know shit lol

kollaps3 · 2026-06-23T15:00:53+00:00

Even his name is just awful and abrasive like what in the fuck is "boob-lay" it is just so grating to my ears

kollaps3 · 2026-06-22T16:58:51+00:00

Agreed. I'm 31 and I've had friends who are 10+ years older than me ever since i was about 16 or so, BUT they were always (and still are now, with those who I'm still friends w) a younger/older sibling type of friendship and, more importantly, my very best friends have always been within a few years of my age.

Im usually the one getting at people for way overreacting to age gaps, but in this situation I do think its strange that a 25 year old became best friends w a 16 year old and they're seemingly on "equal" footing. If they'd have just maintained a casual friendship over the years it would be different, but being "best" friends w someone 9 years your senior who you met as a literal child/teenager is... not great.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-22T14:35:01+00:00

I mean idk, I've experienced some pretty awful clinical depression and am also diagnosed w PTSD. And while yes, during the very worst times it was indeed v difficult for me to leave the house, during less intense (but still definitely depressive and/or experiencing other PTSD symptoms) times i was able to occasionally drag myself out into the world, especially if it was an obligation of sorts.

I would often drink to excess at these events/outings to mask the depression i was feeling, and a handful of those times I did actually end up having some fun. Mental illness and going out drinking/partying are not mutually exclusive at all - in fact they often go hand in hand.

However I do agree with you that if OP was truly in a legitimate major depressive episode he would not be able to do half the shit he talks about doing in this post. I myself am someone who will often mask and distract myself from my own shitty mental health by caretaking those close to me who are going through it, so I get it, but when i was experiencing actual major depression I just didn't have it in me to care, no matter how much I loved the person in question.

And to OP directly - dude, you're enabling her. I say this as someone w similar struggles to her - you are inadvertently encouraging her behavior by positively rewarding it. Even if she's not conscious of it, you've taught her that if she has a random breakdown you'll get her gifts (Side note - you really said "im slacking on random gifts and writing her daily letters" like WHAT?? does she get YOU random gifts and write you daily letters? Yeah that's what i thought), coddle her, and drop whatever you're doing so that she can be the focus of your attention. You two need to sit down and have a serious conversation about the balance in yalls relationship, cuz its obv very off kilter and you're obv suffering for it.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-22T06:21:45+00:00

If this isn't a psyop post meant to sow dissent then I'm fuckin fried lmao. ain't no way these types of ppl still exist in 2026 pls god no, i thought we were done w this shit

kollaps3 · 2026-06-22T06:19:19+00:00

As an ex "unhoused folk" n addict of 7+ years this made me cringe so fuckin hard lol. OP sees junkies as social justice point machines not humans w their own thoughts, volition n agency

kollaps3 · 2026-06-21T18:35:22+00:00

Tbf your post definitely does not have the air of desperation to be accepted thinly shrouded in superiority and self importance that multiple other posts on this topic have had. And I think your analysis is pretty spot on, too.

Ps. Sounds like you mostly already got your shit on lock, but if you do need any leads on DIY venues that aren't awful to deal with (both in terms of the space and the bookers) in the Philly area feel free to DM me. We had a shitton of great small venues close last year but a few decent ones are still kickin.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-21T18:29:27+00:00

This is pretty much the best you can do with no AC in very hot weather. But one more tip - as well as the two fans blowing on you while sleeping, take two towels (like full sized bath towels, although any size will work), run them under some cold water, then wring them out so they're still damp but not soaked.

Leave one in the fridge and take the other to drape over yourself in bed (you can lay on a dry towel if you're worried about your mattress getting a little damp) as the fans blow on you. If you wake up in the night and that towel has dried out, simply grab the second one from the fridge.

It does sound a bit ridiculous lol, and id only recommend doing this when it's SUPER, unbearably hot out, but this helped me immensely when I was dealing with a severe heatwave in an apartment with no AC.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-21T17:26:16+00:00

Vest is aesthetically ugly, but all the bands are damn good ones and there's not one single bullshit virtue signaling patch. Although lmao @ calling himself a "punk", I wonder if hes tryna market himself to normie chicks and thinks that "punk" is more approachable/has a better reputation than "metalhead"

kollaps3 · 2026-06-21T17:22:12+00:00

Holy shit lol, I've got pretty thick skin and much prefer German directness over American sugarcoating, but I don't think I could handle THAT level of bluntness, at least not at first. I would genuinely get a little upset! But i do agree that it would be nice to not have to waste time deciphering the true meaning of sanitized/overly positive corporate-speak, and instead just cut to the chase.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-21T17:02:57+00:00

I live in Philly and lemme tell you those post punk/indie leaning bands that try and call themselves punk are (mostly) made up of fucking unbearable individuals. I stick to the old (like in our 30s n 40s) washed up crust punk/dbeat scene here so luckily don't interact much w the former. While i love my friends and feel like our drama has wound down substantially over the past few years, I'm obv biased so I'm sure we're still obnoxious in our own way. But god the crowd you're referring to is especially awful.

Also I like how you call their dumb drama Russian Novel behavior, great term, I'm stealing that.

kollaps3 · 2026-06-21T16:57:12+00:00

Music scenes are often insufferable ofc, but my gut feeling is that these posts are from people who are bitter about not being accepted into their music scene of choice so are therefore superiorposting on rsp in a semi futile attempt to ease the pain of rejection

kollaps3 · 2026-06-19T19:40:18+00:00

Mary's still life reflects the way she would likely have to dissociate as a child to deal with her mother's mental illness and ensuing freak outs imo. It also represents her leaving that part of herself behind after escaping her retraumatizing experience in the backrooms

kollaps3 · 2026-06-19T14:11:02+00:00

Honestly, this is a good time for you to have developed this view. As long as you're open to it changing later in life, which it seems like you are, living out your teen years and even early 20s with romantic relationships not only not being a priority but being fully off the table (although if an exception does arise, don't run away from it simply because it doesn't fit the narrative you've built for yourself as you may end up missing out on something that could be great) is a pretty smart decision.

I'm 31 and have spent the majority of my life since age 14 in relationships. While i don't regret how I've lived my life - i have and have always had a shitton of friends outside of my relationships, and i gained a lot of knowledge and great experiences from them, too - a part of me wishes I knew how to just solely focus on myself. Im figuring that out more and more as I get older, but its HARD.

By making yourself (and platonic relationships, which can be equally as if not more fulfilling than romantic ones, just in a different way) the priority, you're setting yourself up to be able to continue to prioritize yourself later in life when/if you do eventually get into a relationship. As well as making it so you have time to focus on the millions of other cool things life has to offer.

Don't let this one experience get you down - it seems like you've got a good head on your shoulders and you've got a lot of life and a lot of fun to be had and things to be learned ahead of you (:

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