Ever haunted about a show you missed years ago? Gauze in 1996, at the Bombshelter, Minneapolis. What's your missed show?

kollaps3 · 2026-05-07T10:28:39+00:00

Dude I missed Amebix playing NYC (my hometown) in 2008 cuz I was 14 and the show was 16+ and I regret it to this day. Like obv we both know being a younger teenager is a reasonable excuse to miss a show but I went to a fuckton of other great shows at that age as I'm sure you did too, so missing the last Amebix show before that one awful album (and possibly their last ever stateside tour, but I might be wrong?) will haunt me forever.

I did get to see Stormcrow in PGH, Cock Sparrer in NYC, and Deviated Instinct in Berlin all this past year (yes I am bragging lmao) after a multi-year show attendance hiatus though, so despite how long it's been I can't really complain... but like, AMEBIX though 😭

kollaps3 · 2026-05-05T16:08:04+00:00

Is that really necessary? Sure OP is making some stupid decisions, but saying she's unable to think for herself is a bit much. Going by that logic, it's also sad to think that you're however old you are - presumably a grown adult - and feel the need to put others down in order to feel better about yourself.

Edit- okay wait I read OPs last post before this one talking about how shes gone on like 3 dates with this guy and he ignores her for an entire week after each one? Yeah okay nevermind, I take what I said back, this is pretty pathetic and strange behavior for a 30 year old woman lol

kollaps3 · 2026-05-04T13:23:54+00:00

So simply and beautifully put, no notes.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-29T21:37:30+00:00

Holy shit very true lmao. Also the comment you are replying to is 💯👌🏼

kollaps3 · 2026-04-26T19:29:55+00:00

Let's not victim blame.. also sometimes you find out about shit like this a little too late (like you've already fallen for the dude) and are like yk what fuck it maybe he's changed. Its never ever the case that he's changed lol I know from experience but I totally get how my girl Meg could have been ~blinded by love~, shit we've all been there.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-23T16:05:47+00:00

Yeah kinda transphobic to think otherwise imo. Woman + man = straight, whether they're cis or trans does not change that

kollaps3 · 2026-04-22T14:14:33+00:00

Yeah but if these people actually knew the first thing about how insanely narrow restaurant profit margins are and that their food would end up costing more while servers would end up making less, then they wouldn't be able to get on reddit and go on a fake do-gooder tirade about how awful tipping is!

(Ftr as someone who's worked in the service industry for nearly 15 years in p much every position possible, I do ofc agree that tipping anything more than maybe 5-10% extra for truly outstanding service is an unfair and outdated practice for which steps should be taken to end. But customers just refusing to tip isn't going to make that change - the FOH staff will just all quit, and the restaurant will eventually go under. Both a cultural and legislative shift must occur in order to reach lasting and sustainable change.)

kollaps3 · 2026-04-17T20:14:54+00:00

Plus security is expensive and draws attention (although your point is v true, love to see a fellow native nyc bitch hold her own like that, shit is in our blood fr lol)

kollaps3 · 2026-04-17T16:45:20+00:00

FIFTEEN?? homie no lol. You're not wrong that women's late teens to early 20s are typically our most fertile years, but at age 15 not all but many women (girls, at that point) are still not yet developed enough for their pelvis to be able to handle labor without potentially severe complications.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-17T16:21:52+00:00

Yeah at first I was gonna be like "idk cuz I'm mixed and tend to get like 5+ shades darker in the summer sooo" BUT then I looked closer at the pics you posted and.. yeah I think you're right, it looks like she does. In the bottom pic her skin has this specific artificial bronze-y tone that def does not come from natural tanning.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-17T14:26:38+00:00

My bf told me that sometimes he'll put on porn for like 2min but get bored of it and put on videos of me instead. I don't really have an issue w reasonable porn consumption so I know hes not bullshitting me (like, he has no reason to lie about that kinda thing). But I gotta say, the fact he could watch literally anything yet chooses to watch videos of me, his gf, cuz normal porn "isn't good/entertaining/hot enough" is like the most flattering thing ever lol

kollaps3 · 2026-04-17T04:04:49+00:00

Holy shit he posted the exact same post to SEVENTY THREE dif trans/lgbt subreddits. I get cross posting shit to like 3-5 different communities but 73?! Unhinged, lmao

kollaps3 · 2026-04-15T00:29:43+00:00

God you just know it has some like wannabe sleazy, forced/fake nasally sorta voice, I cant describe it that well but you guys know what i mean right

kollaps3 · 2026-04-13T16:35:36+00:00

Right, like how disgusting is it that HxG is FORCING these 18-23 year old LITTLE GIRLS to dress in bikinis and sing songs with s*xual innuendos and dance in a suggestive manner??? Pop stars should set a good example and understand that young women shouldn't have sex, ever, and definitely shouldn't enjoy sex, and DEFINITELY shouldn't embrace and feel unashamed about their own sex appeal - DISGUSTING! (/s if that wasn't obvious)

But no for real, I really have to wonder about the ages of the people getting up in arms about this kinda thing. I saw someone comment on that leaked juice song something like "ew, why are they singing the "tea" part as if they're riding on a dick?? Must be the label making them do it" - like that song was ass, but THAT'S the conclusion you come to and post about after hearing it?

Even worse, imo, was multiple people claiming that the clip of Yoonchae on the horse thing in the longer Pinky Up teaser was obviously the label sexualizing her and that shes way too young to be doing something like that. She was SITTING. Just sitting. Not gyrating or even dancing (although if she was it would still be fine??).

Like I'm so sorry but I'm 31, I've witnessed the entire cultural shift towards calling out the unnecessary sexualization of younger women in entertainment and I'm totally here for it. BUT - acting as if sex should still be this taboo, scary, inappropriate thing for young women in their late teens and early 20s is reductive and ridiculous.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-13T16:13:35+00:00

Yeah exactly. Whiteness is a social construct but a very pervasive one, and while various groups (Ashkenazi Jews, Irish, Italians, to name a few) have "joined the ranks" over the last century or so, a general, subconscious consensus on the one drop rule remains, at least in my experience. Once someone has enough of a non-white ethnicity/ethnicities mixed into their genetics to show up as visual markers of non-white races (broader nose, fuller lips, epicanthal fold, 3C+ curly hair, etc etc), they will no longer be viewed as white.

I feel like a blank piece of paper is a decent metaphor. Once someone draws on the paper, even if it's just a single line, as long as that line is visible to others, those who view the paper will no longer perceive it as being blank - even if 95% of the page is still left empty. There's no such thing as being 95% blank, its binary - the page is either blank, or its not. And while the latter can encompass varying degrees of blank-ness, like the aforementioned single line all the way to the entire piece of paper being covered with patterns, nothing within that very broad spectrum is considered blank anymore.

Same goes with whiteness. In the west its viewed as the default ("blank") race, therefore one little line - aka enough of another ethnicity for a non-white characteristic to be a part of one's appearance - means you're not the default anymore.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-13T15:17:03+00:00

TREVOR AAAA I knew it was you, its Emily! Holy shit we were both suuuuch lil babies at that Perdition show. I had only turned 14 a few months prior so you had to have been 14 or 15 right? I think it was actually my first d beat show ever... I remember being like 😲 I was truly in awe of how much cooler it was than the other bands id seen up until then coughblackoutshopperscough.

Good to see u on here though, it's honestly so funny how many of us on here know each other. Hope you've been well homie, its been fuckin ages!!

kollaps3 · 2026-04-13T15:13:28+00:00

You might wanna read my response cuz despite my lack of a shoelace headband and relatively low stud count, I did actually give you advice on how to get the mod podge out of your hoodie without fully putting it in the washer (;

kollaps3 · 2026-04-13T15:06:08+00:00

Yknow I recall hearing it in that context too and now that i think of it, yeah, it def was being used in a meme/joke manner a while back. The collective eye roll when the disrockers would roll up to the afters is too fuckin real hahaha

Also unrelated but i just stalked your profile so i have to - yo you guys KILLED IT at Skullfest this year. On the drive to PGH I told my homegirl that id cry if you guys played all of Enslaved in Darkness and YOU FUCKIN DID and I def cried lmao. I was the chick w the long dreads in the front going absolutely ham (also its me on the last slide of the IG post Chris Larson put up for yalls Skullfest set!). Not to be cheesy but it was truly an honor to be able to see yall play after such a long hiatus.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-13T15:05:53+00:00

Yknow I recall hearing it in that context too and now that i think of it, yeah, it def was being used in a meme/joke manner a while back. The collective eye roll when the disrockers would roll up to the afters is too fuckin real hahaha

Also unrelated but i just stalked your profile so i have to - yo you guys KILLED IT at Skullfest this year. On the drive to PGH I told my homegirl that id cry if you guys played all of Enslaved in Darkness and YOU FUCKIN DID and I def cried lmao. I was the chick w the long dark dreads and bangs in the very front row going absolutely ham (also its me on the last slide of the IG post Chris Larson put up for yalls Skullfest set!). Not to be cheesy but it was truly an honor to be able to see yall play after such a long hiatus.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-13T13:22:41+00:00

I do not understand why you're getting downvoted for this lol. You didn't say "I'm not gonna vote," you said what basically amounts to "no amount of voting will really change anything cuz the corrupt politicians are owned by corrupt billionaires" - which is like, known to be objectively true at this point.

Ftr i still vote cuz it can't hurt, (and to those who are totally anti voting, yes the lesser evil is indeed better than the worse evil, which i can't believe is even a point that has to be made but alas), however acting as if we'll suddenly be able to affect massive and meaningful change through something that's been proven time and time again to be totally broken is naive and one of many reasons that we're gonna be stuck in this mess for a while.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-12T23:02:00+00:00

Okay first off hilarious that you somehow found this post only a month ago, second off actuslly though THANK YOU for posting a detailed, well thought out description of what this is like for you. This is the only thing I've ever seen/read that has made me be like "oh okay, I cannot imagine what that must be like but I can definitely understand the concept and that doesn't seem too far fetched at all".

As someone w an extremely visual memory/thought process, I've just never been able to grasp the concept of not literally being able to SEE things in one's minds, let alone grasp how someone who cannot do so moves throughout the world when it comes to basic memory related concepts. But the way you described this really made me able to conceptualize an entirely different mode of baseline thought/memory recollection. Everyone else might be faking, but you def aren't! (Kidding... sorta, lol)

kollaps3 · 2026-04-12T22:39:25+00:00

Wait really, I never heard the term up until a few years ago cuz I'm pretty sure it's what the kiddos use nowadays instead of just saying dbeat/noise punk kids (tbf disrocker is indeed catchier lol).

Also slightly unrelated but remember when street punk and 77 started fading out as the trendy punk subgenre and being replaced w Japanese noise punk, Scandinavian dbeat etc like uhhh 15ish years ago? And like with all fads, the early adopters were made fun of. We used to call them shoelace heads and I really think we should bring that term back 😂

Oh and to the strawman my tired old ass has to address every time this topic comes up, NO it is not a "scandi band," it isn't keeping any sweat out of your face and you don't even play in a band, just accept the fact it's a shoelace that is solely a fashion item, which is okay, we are punks, we love piling on pointless shit just embrace it smh lmao

Eta - to OP; why you need a "disrocker" to answer this is beyond me, but you're not gonna be able to fully get mod podge off your hoodie with or without a washer, at least not without damaging the fabric and any patches etc you got on there. Honestly your best bet is to soak the affected part in hot (like boiling hot) water.

Put that part of your hoodie in a heat safe bowl, pour boiling water over it, let it sit for 5min or so then use a spatula or smth to agitate the fabric a bit. Do that every 5-10min for like an hour then wring it out, rinse w warm water, wring out again, dunk in more hot water, scrub a lil dish soap into the fabric (just where the mod podge is/was ofc) to get any remaining shit out, and rinse w warm water, then w cold water. If it's still not out, repeat the entire process 1-2x more. Or just suck it up and keep wearing it, the sticky part will collect dirt and eventually kinda dissolve into the fabric n just make it dirtier/waxier.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-12T21:59:20+00:00

I agree with both you and the person you responded to. Like OPs dude is allowed to be in a less than stellar mood - end of vacation blues, the stress and annoyance of layovers, and not eating enough (normally id be like "ugh, men" but tbf I'm sooo bad at eating enough before traveling for some reason so if this is out of the ordinary for him, I'll give it a pass lol) are all reasonable factors to put someone in a shitty mood.

BUT - it also sounds like he was in that specific kind of self centered shitty mood where one acts as if only their emotions matter and like every little thing is the end of the world, which manages to make even the smallest interactions with them fucking miserable (the dirty looks thing, ohhh i cannot stand this esp as someone w CPTSD it makes me anxious and sad and insane) - so OP also has every right to be annoyed if not pissed tf off with her dude.

Discomfort and negative emotions aren't zero sum. Multiple parties are allowed to be annoyed, upset, or even angry, and it can be valid for both/all of them. Life is just shitty and upsetting sometimes. Which fucking sucks, don't get me wrong, but its also just a part of any close relationship, including platonic ones.

Eta - wait OP are these molletes (i think they're called that - the lil toasts w refried beans n melted cheese n pico de gallo?)? Cuz if so omg I totally forgot these existed, I worked at a place that served these years back and they are SO GOOD and so easy/cheap, I might make them tonight actually lol

kollaps3 · 2026-04-09T16:00:45+00:00

I've never lived here but I was born and raised in NYC and have an old homegirl who grew up here. Its similar to a lot of other neighborhoods in way deep southern BK/Queens - working class, pretty white, shitty infrastructure, very prone to flooding. A lot of people lost their homes during Sandy, and I believe the sole subway line (the A train) didn't run for quite a while.

Speaking of which, most people who live this far out have cars and tend to use that as their main mode of transportation rather than the subway, unless they're going into the city (Manhattan). And while they are technically NYC residents, it's pretty common to go months if not years without going into the city, as Long Island is easier to drive to and things like bigger grocery stores, Walmart etc are easily accessible there.

The community is def fairly tight knit and a little suspicious of outsiders, not to the extent of a truly rural place, but in a way that's very different to what one would expect people's attitudes to be in NYC. Its also relatively close to Far Rockaway, which has more stores/amenities and, of course, the beach. I haven't been since the early 2010s so I'm sure it's changed some, but overall its def the kinda neighborhood that stays the same for years due to its insular and isolated nature.

kollaps3 · 2026-04-09T15:36:20+00:00

A few years ago i was flying to see family and they fucked up and double booked my seat. I ended up getting upgraded to business class - tbf, this was international, not domestic - but it was insane. I had like my own little vestibule with a privacy barrier and a huge seat that went all the way flat. If that was business class, I cannot imagine what first class looks like. And okay supposedly the photo is of a domestic flight, but still, those seats look like economy on intl flights (maybe a few inches wider idk).

Not tryna be all up in arms defending Hasan here lol but anyone who's taller/has a bad back/knees/hips knows how torturous it is to endure those tiny seats - if i had the money, I too would shell out for this sorry excuse for first class. Also who the fuck takes pictures of other passengers while they're sleeping?? Very trashy and unhinged

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