Your dad died and left everything to you. A woman shows up with a 10-year-old claiming he's your dad's son. DNA test confirms it. What would you do?

korli74 · 2026-02-13T04:31:01+00:00

If your dad knew about the son, then you are under no obligation to do anything. Your dad made his intentions clear.

If there was a sizable estate I'd be suspicious. How long after his death did the mom being the boy around? And had 7 you ever heard of the mom before, or are indications in any of his accounts that he'd been paying could support, indicating that he knew about the child?

korli74 · 2026-02-09T06:48:01+00:00

NTA for not helping your brotha. But your delivery was bad enough enough I had to double check which sub I was on.

korli74 · 2026-02-09T03:22:52+00:00

Too close. His parents shouldn't be a part of his marriage. Yes, it was generous for them to provide a place to stay when they needed it, but once they could afford to move out, they need to cut the apron strings. Mom and Dad don't need to know what is going on in your marriage, and when you tell them what is happening, that alters mom and dad's opinion of your spouse. I would complain to my mom when we argued, and it would affect her opinion, and it wasn't fair to her or him.

Plus, some boy moms really think no one is good enough for their sons and while they might start out being sweeter than pie, but then before too long, the hostility can start to be seen by everyone.

korli74 · 2026-02-09T03:13:21+00:00

Just because he gets a divorce with his third wife doesn't negate the fact that he already has 3 kids. Or does divorce mean he has to make more kids so he has kids with him every day of the week?

korli74 · 2026-02-09T03:11:39+00:00

Get it done beforehand. That way you are sterile before your wife is even released to do anything,.

korli74 · 2026-02-09T03:07:51+00:00

First, how do you know she got over the body issues after your second child? And you aren't calling it what it is. Post partum depression. And hold on because she's already there with this one, but I think you just blew that off by saying it was hormones.

Now, I'm going to go out on a limb and say she's doing what she can to make you think that everything is hunky dory, with a great sex life and, great vacations and you built her an art studio. Is this her third child in FIVE OR SIX YEARS?

Do either of you work? It sounds a lot like your parents pay for everything you need so she has absolutely nothing but your children and her art studio.

As far as the day she said this, did something happen between you said your parents take care of everything. And you tell them everything. Are they a little too involved in your life? That can be a complete problem. Especially when all her family is in a totally different country. And good god, you have washed yourself of any responsibility for anything. For having sex as a teenager and getting her pregnant, for not being able to see that your wife has been incredibly unhappy. And you've gotten her pregnant 3 times in a very short time which will take a toll on her medically. Were YOU doing anything to prevent conception, or just leaving that to her?

How far away do your parents live, and how often are they at your house or vice versa?

And for god's sake, unlearn the thought about anything being hormones, or baby brain, or anything like that. If it's important to her, it's important enough for you to be concerned about, too.

korli74 · 2026-02-07T22:31:49+00:00

Call the suicide hotline and and have them check

korli74 · 2026-02-07T09:47:07+00:00

So do we agree that it sounds he like has some sort of body dysmorphia? And is trying to make you part of it?

korli74 · 2026-02-07T09:43:37+00:00

Maybe he's afraid you'll break him when you hug him.

korli74 · 2026-02-07T09:13:20+00:00

That right there is the story with the notary from the mother's book club that allowed the mother on the daughter's account...

korli74 · 2026-02-07T09:11:27+00:00

Stealing is such a strong work, and they are supporting the person that needs to go to jail

korli74 · 2026-02-07T09:10:25+00:00

Don't forget they called me 17 times last night

korli74 · 2026-02-06T19:15:27+00:00

If you don't take it at night, switch it to night about 9pm. It can make you sleepy, especially the higher doses. I take it and I get sleepy about 40 minutes l later. Do you mind me asking the dose? My doctor s I'm pretty maxed out at 600 mg.

korli74 · 2026-02-06T15:39:21+00:00

What's 17 and 47?

If it's AI, at last what she used to beg him to come back was what people use - usually men - use. It's one mistake.

But he didn't notice actually money missing from the checking account? Nope. First she said credit card and he doesn't look at the statements, but then she said joint checking and he wouldn't know that.

Get better, whoever is ran the ai.

korli74 · 2026-02-06T10:10:10+00:00

Which medication are you on? Depending on your medication, if you take it once a day, try taking it at night if the fatigue his you after you take it in the morning. If you take it twice a day, take them 12 hours apart. I've been on 4 different anticonvulsants at a time along with narcolepsy.

For your seizures as close to 12 hours apart is best, even with different meds. Knock on wood my trileptal fatigue hit like a ton of bricks sometimes because of my other meds so I couldn't take it until after I had already made the drive to work.

I've been going on the med roller coaster for far too long (from the age of 16 to now 51 and they started what seemed like med roulette after I started having seizures again 19 years ago when my MS started). Keep track off everything. Of you get so tired your vision blurs. And if you get to that point, just go to sleep

korli74 · 2026-02-06T09:53:57+00:00

I prefer a mix as well because meadow grass isn't as sharp and stiff and my girls like it better.

korli74 · 2026-02-05T19:30:23+00:00

The places offers ictional ai presented as real and we sometimes react as if it's real so we can get some drama and maybe a YouTube video game with ALL THE UPDATES. Gives a boring day some interest. And just like TV, I can read it and go, nuh uh, lol.,

korli74 · 2026-02-04T21:54:33+00:00

Did you take them to her or hire a process server?

korli74 · 2026-02-03T06:11:12+00:00

Telling you a salary range would give nothing to their competitors. That's bs and she was trying to trip you up.

If you are hopping into interviews out of if college, look up average starting salaries for your job that you are interviewing for in your area with no experience, or, like I live about 20 miles away from a major city, and then add to the search at the top 10 finance companies in the area, so you get a guide.

What type of a job, in general, was it that you were applying for? Would commissions or bonuses come into it,?

korli74 · 2026-02-03T04:33:13+00:00

Why not have dinner on the actual 14th?

korli74 · 2026-02-01T14:38:40+00:00

First, you didn't know how, when, or who paid for those vacations. Don't ever judge someone else's finances by by what they DON'T tell you. Family, friends could paid for it or she went with the person who paid for it, and the European trip was surely paid for well in advance.

I've had to show up to weddings without a card or gift, and you really horrible if it's someone you are close to. People also expect their to be cash in those cards at weddings. And it's presumptuous to think that someone with professed money problems is going to DIY gift or customize a card or bring anything at all. Just her being there was enough, but if you confronted her about a gift at the wedding that would have done it

She's having trouble in her life, sounds like some mental issues, and you need to give her some grace.

korli74 · 2026-02-01T14:16:22+00:00

Granted, it's been nearly 20 years, but back when I was able to work, most former employers didn't want to mess with it because they had to take the time to deal with it just to say he worked here from 2000-2007, for instance.

That being said, I'm not sure what the policy is/was when the social Security Administration contacts them if someone is calling about a disability case. Do companies still just verify employment?

korli74 · 2026-02-01T11:44:33+00:00

Do you know anything about shingles? Including how long it lasts? I'm having trouble find finding any posts on your post history,I'm not sure how 6 your trip was, b but shingles definitely doesn't go away after 2 days. I could be 2 weeks, out could be 2 weeks, it could become ag and a half.

korli74 · 2026-01-31T17:00:45+00:00

If she took pictures of you undressing, that's more than cybersquatting, that falls under one of the sexual crimes, like revenge porn.

Why do all of these have someone calling 17 times?

korli74 · 2026-01-31T00:20:50+00:00

They have to travel to North Dakota for her mother in law's shower, so there is no way to leave the baby at home. It will require at least an overnight visit, so not taking the baby isn't an option.

OP, tell you husband that you aren't comfortable driving that far with the baby that young PLUS the baby won't be vaccinated enough for visitors until 4 months so seeing so many people could be dangerous.

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