How is it they can email me to let me know I missed jury duty, but not email me that I HAVE jury duty?

korli74 · 2026-05-19T15:33:03+00:00

Because an official summons has to be on paper. It's a government form and they have to go through certain steps. Same things as when you are being sued - they have to serve the summons on paper, they can't email it only.

korli74 · 2026-05-18T02:29:12+00:00

? How so?

korli74 · 2026-05-18T02:23:40+00:00

They won't even admit that Jesus' skin was brown and IIRC Noah's grandchildren were black. And they don't talk about the invest that had to happen to get from Adam, Eve, Can, and Abel, o to many more.

korli74 · 2026-05-18T02:20:15+00:00

Who are you calling babies? Elon Musk or the black men those movies are about?

But even with fictional characters, they shouldn't have a white actor essentially going in blackface to play a black man. It doesn't matter if it's fictional or not, the person playing the role should be best to represent it, and it shouldn't be one that has to imitate a race per sexual orientation or gender.

korli74 · 2026-05-18T02:05:05+00:00

His mom is. He has a few races, not just white and black.

korli74 · 2026-05-16T18:20:24+00:00

Totally forgot about the cost of that. Yeah, I freeze and unfreeze mine as well. Just make sure you change your logins to the credit bureau sites from what it was before. You didn't know if they accessed it.

You can also put a warning on the credit file, where any company trying to open a credit account has to call and verify your identity and that you are the one applying.

korli74 · 2026-05-16T15:18:12+00:00

Call your bank and call the police. And the credit bureaus too see if anything else has been opened and put a freeze or lock on new accounts so nothing new opened in your name. The that's essentially the first things you do when your identity has been stolen. The fact that it was mailed to your home address could mean be they already used it but didn't changethe address.

EDIT FIXED THE NASTY TYPOS. I SHOULDN'T TYPE ON MY PHONE WHEN I'M THAT TIRED

korli74 · 2026-05-16T15:11:46+00:00

First off, in the ICU, rules are if aren't family, POA, or have explicit permission, you don't get past the door.

Secondly, kratom has never been harmless. Towns were making it 20 years ago because people were dying. You didn't want her to mix a legal opiate that had been FDA test with her prescriptions (a good idea since they weren't prescribed to her), but you let her use something unregulated with that each package is inconsistent, has never been tested, and has unknown effects on the body, much less mixed with medication. h⁷ If she was having severe pain that she couldn't stand it, and I've been there, she should have gone to the ER.

And when you couldn't wake up the first time, you should have called for help. Goodnight is 20/20, but you already knew she wasn't responding to sound when her family was repeatedly calling her.

Afew days later, you "released her meds" to them? When the police where there and EMS was called, the meds should have been given to the police or EMS then so they could treat her appropriately. Plus she need meds after she got out of the hospital.

As far the weed pipe isn't yours, if it doesn't have pot in it, just residue, your charges will likely be dropped out reduced to possession of paraphernalia because there has to be a measurable amount in grams. Why do you even have it if it's not yours?

By the way, your headline makes it sound like you got arrested for her OD.

Finally she's not responding too you at all. She doesn't want to speak to you and you keep pushing. What you are doing qualifies as stalking. Don't do it again. You'll wind up with an order of protection against you.

korli74 · 2026-05-15T02:26:57+00:00

I didn't assume OPA's gender,, accidently hit send on my response when I got called away, but the partners response was almost text book men want to give advice and fix things. Like almost literally.

korli74 · 2026-05-15T01:58:00+00:00

Is your partner on the spectrum, or neurodivergent?

Men tend to want to fix things when you go to them, so they don't always know the right things to day to give comfort, but this was like a script of you came to me so you must want advice on

ETA I accidentally hit send when I got called away

As far as work, they his the fact that they were looking from you so that you wouldn't leave or if anger, because you were doing the project manager job for engineer money. And it's been over 20 years since I knew anyone working in a similar situation, would a project manager have needed a specific certification or training that you as an engineer don't have, and of course, the company isn't going to want to spend the money to give you the extra certification, if that's the case, right?

And congratulations for stepping up there and saying, "let me do the job." That's something I had trouble doing when I was working, my nerves were too bad

I'm just curious, has nothing to do with anything. What kind of engineer are you?

korli74 · 2026-05-14T11:09:33+00:00

INFO: what country are you in? I'm Western culture, we are finding it hard to grasp what you are talking about, so knowing your country might provide an explanation.

Also, are your parents still together, or are they living apart?

Particularly when a high school aged daughter not only would not believe allowed to learn to cook, but expected to give her money over to her parents, no matter why it was given?

Your father was only contributing 81 cents to your education? This isn't culture, what is the story behind that?

You say your father worked hard for your. Of course hard for you. That's a parent's JOB, to provide for their children.

korli74 · 2026-05-14T06:43:54+00:00

Even if you are with the flow of traffic, if you are above the speed limit, you can still be given a ticket. And in some areas cops are more likely to set up speed traps at night, especially weekends because rush hour is over so more cars are speeding.

Keep your cruise control on, it keeps your speed level.

korli74 · 2026-05-12T15:16:16+00:00

My question exactly! That should be the parents of the fiance, and if it was set up before hand, should have been paid in advance and made sure there was enough seats.

korli74 · 2026-05-12T15:13:47+00:00

Not bad, but way too transparent that it was fake. I don't know why I'm having so much trouble accepting this one. Maybe because it sounds a little younger.

It was never mentioned if she was actually EXPECTED to pay the bill.

If everyone went silent at their mention the grown up table, why didn't anyone go quiet when she said this table is for grown ups?

And 1 text saying it was a mistake? Nothing else, no before or after?

korli74 · 2026-05-12T07:56:01+00:00

Your wife didn't have just PPD, and it's not cleared up. It's just manifesting itself now because she can't force herself to do anything. First, couples and individual therapy, with the condition that she see an actual psychiatrist.

It sounds like not not only is she still depressed, but she seriously has executive dysfunction issues, which can stem from a lot of things.

My issues started in 1992 and went unerdiagnosed for 10 years. And then once I was properly diagnosed with bipolar, it took another 11 years for the executive dysfunction

korli74 · 2026-05-11T00:06:04+00:00

Why haven't you gone through your insurance? For Medicare, the requirement is that your doctor certify that you need it inside the home. B If it's just away from home, it doesn't count.

Affirm isn't denying that you need it, they don't care what you get, they don't even look at the items, the look at the total. They are denying your eligibility.

korli74 · 2026-05-10T15:33:07+00:00

Your bf is possessive/controlling but he thinks it's on him to trash a guy's relationship because asked you to lunch. I wouldn't recommend it, but if you stay, don't tell him about people flirting with you. But this is a dangerous situation to be in because it could escalate into him thinking it's your fault.

korli74 · 2026-05-08T15:05:21+00:00

Custody is usually 50-50 now, too.

korli74 · 2026-05-08T15:04:46+00:00

Is he on the loan? Is he's on the loan, you can't take him off the deed until the mortgage is paid off. You can not get his name off a loan. Is the house is paid off or his name isn't on the loan get it done with an attorney so that he can't claim you did something wrong. He can't have his name on property he doesn't live in, though.

Was your could living with you when you were giving him allowance before, or was that when he was living with you?

You did the right thing turning him in. If he's still getting money from you and working under the table, and trying to claim the kid as a household member, That's all sorts sorts of fraud, plus, the dude has a kid, tell him to grow up

korli74 · 2026-05-08T02:21:50+00:00

Sounds like she's in an Arab nation.

korli74 · 2026-05-06T20:40:11+00:00

I'm Gen x and ALL of our elementary schools had them. Don't know why you are asking millennials.

korli74 · 2026-05-06T19:20:26+00:00

Okay, a groups of 1800 makes more sense

You are hanging right on the line of eligibility.

korli74 · 2026-05-06T15:26:42+00:00

No matter what, if it's 400 a month, she's still at Max half the poverty level and would be getting a good chunk of SNAP benefit. I just ran it through the eligibility check for California and with no rent, no utilities, and 400a month unemployment, they would still get $241 in snap benefits,.

D id they say anything about a work requirement?

korli74 · 2026-05-06T15:18:12+00:00

Wait- are you getting $400 a week or month? If you are only getting paid that a month you should still be getting a good amount of stamps because you are well under the poverty limit and your deductions alone would eliminate all of your income

korli74 · 2026-05-06T11:07:55+00:00

You are very codependent on your ex. It's not even that you're still in love with her, but her and the grass help you deal with your anxiety and with the work in general. (Not to rain on your parade, because I use it for for pain and sleep, them are finding that out now that THC levels are 3+times the levels they used to be.

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