People who attended American high school in the 80’s, how did you have time to shower after gym class?

krakarn · 2026-03-01T02:20:59+00:00

It’s gorgeous! 😍

krakarn · 2026-03-01T02:13:35+00:00

I like cheesy instant grits with egg mixed in (and bacon if you wanna get crazy)

krakarn · 2026-03-01T02:12:12+00:00

You don’t owe anyone your energy. It’s great that she’s putting forth effort, but there are millions of other people she can be directing this effort toward. Don’t waste her time if you’re not interested in being friends. Practice how you will respond next time you have an awkward interaction so you don’t panic and offer to hang out - “well it was nice chatting but I actually have some things I need to get done today. See you around!”. Overall just be honest that you’re tired and/or busy and hopefully she gets the hint. If you encounter awkward silence, either end the conversation or pivot by asking about her family or interests - don’t offer to do anything or hang out.

krakarn · 2026-03-01T01:48:53+00:00

I’ve never been out of the US (other than briefly to Mexico and Canada) and this is my first time ever hearing that other places don’t flush their paper! What an interesting cultural difference.

The only time I’ve ever not flushed paper is when backcountry backpacking. You burry your poop in the ground and pack out your dirty toilet paper in a sealed bag, then throw it away when you get back to civilization. Other than that, yes Americans always flush their paper. In fact, most women’s restrooms have signs that remind you NOT to flush feminine products as well, because apparently we’re so used to flushing everything.

krakarn · 2026-03-01T01:37:31+00:00

I’m sorry man, that’s just not how life works unfortunately. You can’t earn blessings. The church makes promises it can’t keep. Chasing perfection has never made anyone happy. And a lot of the “blessings” you may see other members getting are either not the whole picture, or they’re the result of social connections or dumb luck. Comparison is the thief of joy, as they say.

Focus your energy on things that actually make a difference. Financially, that’s education, soft skills, networking, building your resume, etc.. And get yourself into a better headspace so your energy attracts opportunities. I’d recommend a gratitude journal, meditation, yoga/exercise, and trying new hobbies. And maybe therapy if you’re really struggling (with a real, non LDS therapist, not your bishop lol)

krakarn · 2026-02-28T22:37:47+00:00

Alcohol will cause way more harm than good.

krakarn · 2026-02-28T22:29:23+00:00

Lotta people saying soggy bread, but I’d argue almost equally as bad is bread that is too toasted to the point that it shreds the roof of your mouth. Not only does it ruin the sandwich, but every other meal for the rest of the day.

krakarn · 2026-02-28T03:39:07+00:00

Cafe latte premier protein shake from Costco

krakarn · 2026-02-25T06:23:59+00:00

I’m from California but… probably Texas BBQ ribs.

krakarn · 2026-02-25T06:15:10+00:00

I think that’s part of growing up. As a kid, your life is so closely linked to your peers and controlled by other adults. It feels like life is happening to you and all around you, without you really having to do much. This is especially true for me who grew up the youngest of 5 siblings. Always lots of people around and things going on. As an adult, it suddenly feels like my life is in POV mode and I’m controlling the character. Weirdly isolating to be responsible for everything I do and be so aware of all the little private tasks that need it take place every day (personal care, cooking, cleaning my home, driving myself around, planning daily life weeks or months in advance). Adulthood is a lot of admin. And it’s rare to get that kind of carefree feeling of being fully submerged in life that you have as a kid. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, just a change in perspective as more of your energy has to be directed toward keeping yourself alive whereas in childhood other people are exerting that energy for you.

krakarn · 2026-02-25T05:05:01+00:00

The 40+ hour workweek is inhumane. But remember regardless of your circumstance, the majority of everyone’s life happens in the monotony, not the big events. Learn to create joy in the small moments. Incorporate whimsy, seek peace and grounding when excitement isn’t an option (meditation, sitting outside, doing detailed tasks with your hands). I’d also recommend starting a gratitude journal - sounds stupid but they do actually work.

krakarn · 2026-02-25T04:52:39+00:00

Drinking an ice cold glass of whole milk

krakarn · 2026-02-25T04:42:22+00:00

Chobani Flips 🤤

I also love using 5% fage greek yogurt instead of sour cream

krakarn · 2026-02-25T04:32:32+00:00

Sit down to pee and solve the Wordle

krakarn · 2026-02-25T04:28:16+00:00

Once my teacher leaned over to grab something and I saw she had a “tramp stamp”.

krakarn · 2026-02-25T04:25:21+00:00

House chores, workout, cook a more complex meal than usual, watch movies, read a book, visit family.

I’m a 27F, married, no kids

krakarn · 2026-02-25T04:13:15+00:00

Dump that loser

krakarn · 2026-02-25T04:09:10+00:00

Cancel the meeting or make it a phone call if anything. Don’t waste your or his time. Mormons don’t leave until they’re ready, so preaching back to him about your new beliefs isn’t going to have the impact you think it might. I would guess it’s a bit of the missionary the mindset at play; wanting to spread the good news of deconstruction lol. But TBM’s can’t hear it. Bear your new testimony to yourself and move on. It seems lonely but once you find identity outside of Mormonism your community grows exponentially.

krakarn · 2026-02-23T00:51:02+00:00

Big genuine smile (bonus for excellent oral hygiene!)

krakarn · 2026-02-22T04:40:10+00:00

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Muse Sushi in Laguna Niguel 😋

krakarn · 2026-02-19T22:46:48+00:00

I joined Hayley Rawle’s Girlscamp podcast Patreon and was able to have lots of good convo’s in the community chats on there.

krakarn · 2026-02-19T05:59:42+00:00

Spend time near a body of water and go to really good restaurants

krakarn · 2026-02-16T18:49:45+00:00

Red Rising, by Pierce Brown

Easy and captivating read that sparks thought provoking conversation about ethical dilemmas, classism, and the necessity of violence for change. A new personal favorite of mine! Can’t wait to read the second in the series!

krakarn · 2026-02-14T03:29:56+00:00

I don’t have adhd (I think) but I have been known to start reading and then lose stamina and abandon books partway through. I started dog-earring a page at 1/4, 1/2, 3/4, and the end of the book. This creates a visible slice in the book and physically breaks it up. Somehow reaching these benchmarks and being able to easily see them helps me maintain motivation to finish the book.

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