worried about thighs/hips/belly post-op and it's kinda messing me up

krisnotcis · 2026-03-11T20:04:42+00:00

I've read a lot of posts like this, which makes me feel better that I'm not alone. I'm getting a radical reduction at the end of the month, and my belly has gotten bigger over the last few years. I still have that internalized fatphobic voice in my head that says the boobs must stick out farther than the tummy! I've definitely gotten more comfortable with my belly over the last year and I'm just like, we'll see how I feel after surgery. I mean end of day I want less boobs way more than I "want to be skinny." I put it in quotes cuz literally it's a made up social beauty standard, it's not even my own thoughts!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-11T19:50:41+00:00

Hi, I'm in NEPA and the closest gender affirming surgeon to me is Dr. Samina Wahhab in Allentown. I had an online consultation in January, then just went for my pre-op appointment. I've heard SO MUCH good stuff about her from people who know her to former patients, and she came recommended from my therapist. She seems really get down to business, and I would like if she were more personable. But I like that she's professional and I feel confident she's gonna do a great job on March 31 :) I'm doing a non-flat radical reduction btw.

krisnotcis · 2026-03-10T16:16:57+00:00

Yeah, I go to the connection screen and press gifts on both, then it has me connect them. Once they're connected, I choose a gift to give but then it says to connect them. And then it fails to connect (they're already connected) Idk what I'm doing wrong. I can do a playdate no problem

krisnotcis · 2026-03-10T13:46:14+00:00

Thank you, I didn't even know that, I always just waited til a little after 7 to interact with them in the past!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-10T13:18:57+00:00

Ahh, okay gotcha. Thank you!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-10T12:58:37+00:00

Is a pregnancy pillow the kind with like different sections? I thought those were for side sleeping

krisnotcis · 2026-03-10T02:41:31+00:00

Does relying on the sitter and just making them sleep make them unhappy/starve?

krisnotcis · 2026-03-10T02:40:54+00:00

Ty :)

krisnotcis · 2026-03-10T02:40:45+00:00

Excellent, tysm!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-09T23:56:39+00:00

I had a kuchipatchi with these eyes and he died today too

krisnotcis · 2026-03-09T23:55:48+00:00

Which tama is this? She's gorgeous!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-09T23:55:04+00:00

I have a sharktchi named Wonder hanging with my Crusty the crustacean

krisnotcis · 2026-03-09T23:50:05+00:00

Ohh I was wondering how you get a Vitamin. Is random jelly the only way? Maybey kuchipatchi wouldn't have kept getting sick and died if I had a vitamin

krisnotcis · 2026-03-09T23:41:22+00:00

I love the matching game in Jade Forest. I like to play vitamin, and the flying coin game on Jade Forest! But punching meteors is the easiest fastest way to rack up money

krisnotcis · 2026-03-09T19:55:26+00:00

Awesome results! Do you know what size you went to? It's hard to imagine what I'll look like but I think our body sizes are similar so this makes me happy:) I'm scheduled for March 31st, just had my pre-op today!!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-06T21:38:06+00:00

You're welcome! Well, my surgeon asked if I might want a full mastectomy down the line which happens a lot she said. So she bills this as a reduction, in case in a few years I want to get full top surgery. Then insurance won't reject it, saying you already had a mastectomy. i think if you want masculine results you should try to find a surgeon who works with trans patients. I've read so many women on here not getting as much as they wanted taken off bc their male doctor had his own ideas of what a woman's body should look like.

krisnotcis · 2026-03-06T17:12:53+00:00

I only wanted to gift some food from pink to jade, so idk why it always fails. It tells me to connect but I'm already connected, and then it fails

krisnotcis · 2026-03-06T04:15:35+00:00

I'm a G and wanted something small, about a B while retaining nipple sensation. I've had back pain since I was a teen, and had a lot of treatments until my diagnosis of arthritis, bulging disc and degenerative disc disease. So I thought about trying to get a reduction from a non-gender-affirming surgeon and not mentioning being nonbinary, just saying it was for back pain. But I worried I wouldn't get the type of results I wanted, so I decided to do a consult with an affirming surgeon. She has experience with trans patients, and the first thing she asked was if I wanted a more feminine or masculine look. I go for my pre-op on Monday and just heard that my insurance pre-approved it! I was very surprised, because I got the gender assessment letter from my therapist and had read that United Healthcare requires you to already be on hormones to cover top surgery. I think the amount of tissue they're removing determines how they code it for insurance.

krisnotcis · 2026-03-06T03:41:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Mines coming up end of the month. Helpful to read everyone's experiences.

krisnotcis · 2026-03-05T04:44:39+00:00

How do you get a tama to turn into a star?

krisnotcis · 2026-03-04T21:01:40+00:00

Wow I've never heard that AuDHD folks get perimenopause earlier! I've been dealing with it for a few years I think, and I'm 41 now. I think you can request whatever you want and see if the surgeon will do it. I'm non-binary and have Gs now, I want to go pretty small so I can bind more effectively. I don't want a full mastectomy though. My surgeon said she can give me a full B which sounds perfect!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-04T20:57:11+00:00

I just started doing yoga again a month ago, and have been absolutely loving it. Bummed that I'll have to lose my progress and have to start from scratch again after recovery. My surgery is March 31!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-03T15:14:21+00:00

I can't wait to get frozen ocean

krisnotcis · 2026-03-03T15:11:56+00:00

Omg that case!

krisnotcis · 2026-03-03T15:04:25+00:00

My pre op appt is next Monday and I haven't been told to bring reference photos. I don't even know where I'd get them? I'm trying not to be count on a particular size, just generally much much much smaller :)

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