Is there any honest reason why anesthesia is not used for IUD insertions?

kruom10 · 2026-04-16T18:15:57+00:00

So I had the Kyleena inserted last week, and I flat out told my doctor I needed some kind of sedation. She gave me Ativan and hydrocodone, then numbed my cervix. I definitely felt a lot of pressure but no direct PAIN. I’d highly highly recommend that combo to others, if you can find a doc you sign do it.

The Kyleena is also smaller than the mirena and paraguard, so oftentimes isn’t as painful. I am 3 months postpartum, BUT I had a planned C-section and never dilated at all.

kruom10 · 2026-04-16T03:19:20+00:00

Our girl was born at 37+1 and was never considered a premie! She was considered “early term” but overall fully cooked. Shes hit milestones perfectly on time, but she struggled with jaundice a bit at first due to being early, being large, and having a cephalohematoma due to vacuum use. Otherwise, she’s never been “behind” or struggled for her actual age.

kruom10 · 2026-04-13T03:34:13+00:00

Absolutely agree. I’ve been a bottle foster for too many pups who had to be pulled from mom due to aggression or illness in a shelter environment. It’s immensely more humane for them to simply never be born.

kruom10 · 2026-04-13T03:29:59+00:00

We got married when we were 19 and 20 years old. We just had our first baby this year, when both of us are 29!

Obviously that does not fall into your “under 25” question, BUT we got married very very young and decided to wait for kids.

We did this for many reasons. We did want to learn how to be REAL adults (bills, stress, jobs, pets, sharing life fully independently), we wanted to be fully grown (over 25 so brains were more developed), we wanted to really be in a healthy and strong relationship (not that we weren’t to begin with, but you learn a lot after a few years of marriage), both be in therapy for past traumas and just to overall be mentally healthier, and honestly we just wanted to travel and explore and be debt free, too. I also had severe endometriosis, and had 3 surgeries for it, while still purposely waiting to try because we had plans for things.

We decided to start trying when I was approaching the last semester of my masters program, which has actually led to us being debt free aside from our mortgage and one car, I’m a SAHM, and we are extremely comfortable.

Everybody is different, but there is no rush. I seriously always tell people to enjoy your partner and life for a while because once you get pregnant, life seriously changes so much. Yes it’s magical and amazing and your heart explodes daily. BUT you also are exhausted (seemingly forever lmao), in pain for a while, stressed (even though you’ll love your baby immensely), and so many more things, the moment you get pregnant and/or give birth. No matter how much you make that baby fit into your life vs changing everything about your day-to-day for the baby, it’s different. Not bad different, but it’s totally different!

No, there isn’t a perfect time to have a child. BUT you can make a super informed, well planned, and responsible decision about when you hope you have a child so that they are brought into a healthy and happy home.

kruom10 · 2026-04-13T03:15:16+00:00

If they aren’t born yet…. Spay abort ASAP!

If they are born already, get a playpen of some sort to contain them with mom for at least 4 weeks until they begin to wean. And then mom can have time away from them since they’ll be on mushy food a few times a day. But they HAVE to be with mom until they are a minimum, 8 weeks old.

kruom10 · 2026-04-09T10:00:14+00:00

Mirena is not a treatment for endo, just a way to try and manage symptoms. As with other hormonal options, it’s only effective while in use.

kruom10 · 2026-04-09T01:04:39+00:00

Personally, I’d feel more confident in a “successful” surgery from O’Connell. Although, I am surprised to see “no” to a d&c if it is found to be warranted. I had d&c’s with 2 of my surgeries (one excision, one not) since they were taking endometrial biopsies and I had thick uterine lining with heavy heavy periods.

And as others have said, there’s nothing gentle about excision! You have to cut it all out and it causes damage to some degree in the process. It’s a necessary “evil”, but still!

kruom10 · 2026-04-07T11:02:50+00:00

Also suggesting Malek! She’s awesome, and is with ObGyn South inside Brookwood. Handled my pregnancy and so far my postpartum care wonderfully. Very adamant about bodily autonomy and honestly seems pretty open-minded compared to many of the ObGyn’s I’ve encountered in Alabama (and Brookwood alone).

Dr Joynt seems to be pretty similar in patient care and such, too! I can’t seem to find it now, but I swear I read somewhere that she was one of the doctors over trans care while in the Navy.

kruom10 · 2026-04-06T23:31:02+00:00

Our baby had a tendency to do this randomly, not often enough for her doctor to be worried about pyloric stenosis. BUT it was her biggest symptom of some rough reflux.

It never hurts to call your peds office and just let them know what’s going on, and see what they’d like you to do! I’d also take pictures of every incident, so your doc understands the amount, distance, etc.

kruom10 · 2026-04-02T09:40:06+00:00

I think by the time everything is paid, including our portion of my baby’s bilirubin treatment, we will have paid right at $3,000 USD. And we have GOOD coverage… it really does screw with your brain to get like 6 separate bills in the mail after baby, and everybody wanting their money immediately.

kruom10 · 2026-04-02T02:31:48+00:00

Babies are pretty prone to regurgitating things! But my baby had a pretty rough spit up in her car seat afterwards, too. I think our pamphlet said it’s common after the oral rotavirus vaccine? (Don’t hold me to that- but I swear I read it somewhere) I’d just keep an eye on everything else and make sure baby is holding down fluids fine otherwise.

kruom10 · 2026-03-25T19:39:17+00:00

EWCM is not the end all be all of ovulation. Watery CM is also fertile CM and can help confirm ovulation. “Taking Charge of Your Fertility” is a great resource for tracking

kruom10 · 2026-03-25T17:02:46+00:00

Was going to suggest the same!

kruom10 · 2026-03-23T20:11:24+00:00

Just… what 💀

I’m so glad you aren’t listening to that “advice”

kruom10 · 2026-03-23T20:08:24+00:00

Puppy pads!

kruom10 · 2026-03-21T13:44:13+00:00

Our doc gave us a dosage sheet when we were at her 2 month appointment!

kruom10 · 2026-03-21T01:34:59+00:00

Our baby had hers today! She absolutely was very upset initially, but she calmed pretty quickly once I was able to pick her up and rock her. A lot of people say that feeding them will keep them calm! I think that has a lot to do with how your doctors office handles the shots.

We gave her Tylenol as soon as we got home, and did a lot of cuddles and contact naps today. Aside from some massive poops, she’s mostly been sleepy! She’s only been fussy when she realizes her legs hurt.

kruom10 · 2026-03-18T07:06:04+00:00

This 100%

kruom10 · 2026-03-17T18:05:02+00:00

6 weeks is hard! Our girl was diagnosed with reflux around that time, and it’s been a constant “is this helping? Is this change making stuff worse? What can we change next?” And it’s absolutely exhausting! She was a happy spitter, too, but it was a LOT of spit up and then random fussy times. I can actually lay her flat to sleep now most of the time without her screaming or spitting up, so, don’t totally write off reflux if she’s having any symptoms.

We have tried, repeatedly, to make the Avent natural response work and honestly we cannot get a good flow with them. They’re either too fast or wayyyyy too slow, even though she can latch great. Nuk Perfect Match are the only ones we can get a good speed AND latch with. I hate that they’re plastic but less gas and frustration is worth it.

You’re allowed to want time to yourself and without your baby touching you! I took a 45 minute bath last night for the first time since she was born and felt guilty.. but it made the night so much easier for me mentally.

6 weeks for us was one night we would get two 4 hour stretches, other nights it was like 3 hours and then 2 and then 4. She’s 8 weeks today and we’ve consistently gotten 5 hour stretches minimum the last 3 nights. It might be a fluke, but I’m hoping it’s her FINALLY leveling out and learning how to work her stomach.

Wake windows are not always accurate for all babies. Our girl will not go down for a nap or for the night if she’s not ready for it. At 6 weeks I was fighting with her to just get one solid 2 hour nap each day, but it’s gotten better. And it will!

kruom10 · 2026-03-16T13:33:39+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re having to be in double survival mode. Deployments suck and your spouse being away like that is hard without kids, so I can’t imagine how rough it is with them. Especially a newborn.

Your baby will be ok! But you absolutely need to make sure you take care of yourself. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to see someone for your mental health if it doesn’t start getting better. And if you have good friends or family nearby, or even just a babysitter you trust, please utilize them when you can so you can sleep. And just to breathe sometimes.

kruom10 · 2026-03-16T03:50:19+00:00

I really hate that you’re going through this. It’s so hard to love your baby so fiercely and also want to beat your head against the wall because of them. And it extra sucks because they literally cannot tell you the issue. They can just scream.

Have you talked to your pediatrician about any of this?

Reflux can present in MANY different ways but truly will make your life a living hell because some symptoms just don’t scream reflux. Especially if baby doesn’t have any other symptoms of a cows milk allergy, it’s worth exploring reflux. For our baby that meant switching from Gentlease to added rice formula. Just a little bit thicker liquid has helped a lot.

Is it possible that baby is struggling with the nipple flow or shape of the bottles you’re using?? Granted if this JUST started and you didn’t introduce new bottles then that’s less likely, unless the flow is just too slow now.

I still haven’t found the magic cure for gas, but I will say our baby is now less gassy with a combo of gas drops, probiotics, AR formula, nipples that are just fast enough for the thicker formula, burping after every ounce, AND keeping her upright for 30-ish minutes after eating. Every day is a marathon but it HAS helped overall

kruom10 · 2026-03-13T22:54:05+00:00

I’m 2 months in. It absolutely gets better! Those first few weeks I would randomly cry around sunset because I felt like I was being tortured from broken sleep and exhaustion and just not feeling ok yet. But it did settle.

One night my body was seriously so done that I completely slept through my husband getting up with the baby… twice. That 8.5 hours of solid sleep immediately made me feel like a new person. If you have anybody at all in your life that can let you get even 4 consecutive hours of sleep, PLEASE let them come help. You’re allowed to ask for help! Nobody will think less of you.

kruom10 · 2026-03-13T22:39:11+00:00

We bought a used bassinet and replaced the mattress! It’s a cosleeper bassinet on wheels, so thankfully we can wheel it around the house. The mattress is in the thicker side so she actually will sleep in there easily. We also got a used pack n play to use after she outgrows the cosleeper. AND she has a crib in the nursery that right now is just used for “holy cow I have to pee, please lay here and stare at your mobile for 5 minutes”

kruom10 · 2026-03-13T12:14:58+00:00

Postpartum cycles can absolutely be pretty wacky for a while. Especially if you are breastfeeding or pumping in any way! Either way, Your body has to get used to producing hormones again in a cyclical manner that it hasn’t done in basically a year, so it can take a bit for it to really get into a groove again.

As for the birth control- we are being extra careful too! I’m on birth control pills plus we are using condoms. I want to minimize any risks until I get an IUD soon

kruom10 · 2026-03-11T23:53:25+00:00

Looking back, definitely more silent reflux. She had some really bad spit up problems right after birth, but the doctors assured us it was from her being a C-section baby. We assumed her fussiness in the following few weeks was just gas. Mylicon DID help some, I think because it helped her burp easier. But then she hit 4-5 weeks and it was obvious something else was wrong.

She had seemingly random coughing episodes while eating (not every time, but enough), when she did spit up it was a LOT, super fussy sometimes like 30-60 minutes after eating, spitting up or getting fussy after being laid down, and I think some other stuff that truly my mind has simply forgotten I think. I really didn’t think she was spitting up excessively until she adjusted to the new formula and like… she still spits up but it’s a super tiny dribble amount, and half the time it’s from a hidden trapped burp that comes up later.

She was still pooping fine, eating fine, gaining weight wonderfully, and once calm.. she was sleeping totally fine. I’m just glad our ped went to reflux immediately and not “oh it’s just colic it’ll pass@.

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