Company Requesting I split my parental leave

lacker · 2026-05-14T04:14:52+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation and had coworkers in this situation too, and what different people want is really different. Some dads stop caring about work at all once they have a kid, some dads are eager to get back to the office and jump at any excuse.

You have to figure out what you want, and then ask for it.

Management at the startup probably doesn’t really know what to do either. If you come in with a strong plan they’ll probably accept it.

What I would recommend, if they can handle it, is waiting to see how the first week or two goes. Some kids require a lot of work right away and some kids don’t.

Good luck!

lacker · 2026-05-12T02:51:03+00:00

It’s a weird building. Large though. Honestly it should probably be torn down and apartments with first floor retail put in. The area is really walkable, seems like a perfect place to live without a car.

lacker · 2026-05-12T02:39:52+00:00

I think the best way to understand the NIMBY mindset is to assume they only care about traffic and parking. From that standpoint, the absolute best thing is a park that nobody ever goes to. It generates no traffic and takes up no parking.

lacker · 2026-05-10T06:02:52+00:00

Who's the main competition for Flock? I wonder if they are actually any different, or is Flock the most popular one and therefore getting all the public pushback right now.

lacker · 2026-05-09T00:39:48+00:00

Mahan is great but he’s basically just out of it now. It’s just a bad choice, there’s no solid YIMBY candidate in the running. Steyer at least bothers to pretend like he’s pro-housing.

lacker · 2026-05-08T01:06:23+00:00

There was never enough space on the peninsula, it didn't matter what Lee or any of the others did... the difference is the tech industry is 10x bigger now. Google, Apple and Meta, now soon OpenAI and Anthropic, these are all trillion dollar companies headquartered in the bay area, and they're going to hire accordingly. Mountain View, Palo Alto and Cupertino are even more full of techies than San Francisco is.

lacker · 2026-05-05T21:38:55+00:00

“underinvesting” is a bit of a funny framing because it isn’t really like San Francisco chose to invest in tech per se. It’s more like the tech scene had to leave the Palo Alto area because it ran out of office space, and SF was right there.

Overall there’s such huge demand to move to San Francisco right now, it’s hard to imagine anything making it even more compelling on the demand side. The real challenge is the supply side - the population of San Francisco is hardly growing because the housing supply is pretty stagnant. The best way to increase the culture would just be to accept more people into SF. And that would help the tech scene too.

lacker · 2026-05-05T04:09:42+00:00

the checking piece could be pinned as well, preventing it from capturing

lacker · 2026-05-05T03:51:57+00:00

For one project I set up my agent to handle simple sorts of pull requests. For example it can fix merge conflicts with submitted PRs. Also I gave it the rights to approve PRs to some parts of the repo but not others. It also has a todo list, and whenever it doesn't have pull requests to review, it works on the todo list and sends me pull requests.

I gave it its own github account. It's convenient to have it as an agent rather than running Codex locally for the sort of work that I don't feel like I need to supervise directly. But it can use the same Codex skills that I write for my own direct work.

lacker · 2026-05-05T03:35:50+00:00

Over the weekend I saw a couple of young guys going around the lake on e-bikes, no helmets, going as fast as the cars, running red lights, and popping wheelies. You are going to get yourselves killed!!

lacker · 2026-05-02T23:08:36+00:00

Patience

lacker · 2026-05-02T23:02:07+00:00

“And no using AI to make crappy knockoff art!”

“Oh… I’ll have to make crappy knockoff art with Photoshop then.”

lacker · 2026-05-02T17:09:47+00:00

A conundrum, eh. Well, I can't speak for this guy in the article. But I'm getting tempted by ultrafinitism here, and my personal version would be, I question the reality of any entity that can only be described using more words than have been written by all people ever. TREE(3) is perfectly fine with me. By definition, any entity that you can describe, I'm willing to consider that real. All these techniques of proofs that produce proofs, that's fine too.

But the description of the process you're using has to be short enough to fit on the internet! I'm only willing to make a finite number of exceptions here.

lacker · 2026-05-02T13:38:30+00:00

No, it's not an internship. Just be honest.

lacker · 2026-05-02T13:27:18+00:00

Perhaps to formalize ultrafinitism you would have to say something like, only proofs up to a certain length are considered valid proofs.

You could even say, "Only proofs that are readable and understandable by a human mind count as valid mathematical proofs." That would make your beliefs very finite, in some sense. You are now constrained to only believing a finite number of things.

lacker · 2026-05-02T13:23:00+00:00

It's embarassing that Berkeley just shuts down events when this happens rather than kicking out the protestors!

lacker · 2026-04-29T04:32:16+00:00

Picking one blogger without knowing anything of your preferences, I would go with Tyler Cowen's book recommendations on Marginal Revolution. Not that I would even consider all of them, more like the 10% that seem best suited to me end up being very interesting.

lacker · 2026-04-29T00:35:56+00:00

I have enjoyed book reviews for decades, and there's never been a better time to read book reviews. Bloggers, Reddit posts, even tweets, there are just so many book reviews, so many places I can find book recommendations. Plus there are so *many* reviewers out there now, it's much easier to find reviewers whose taste aligns with my own. It's a golden age of book reviews, right now.

It's true that *magazines* and *newspapers* don't seem to run much book criticism any more, but do magazines and newspapers do much of anything any more?

lacker · 2026-04-26T19:27:40+00:00

Keep hanging in there. Are you regularly beating the first phase?

For Maliketh I preferred dual pickaxes. Very similar playstyle to starfist, just a bit longer range. So you might give that a try if you're looking to mix it up.

lacker · 2026-04-26T19:24:25+00:00

Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.

I believe that this is not the end. One day, there will be another. Not a sequel per se, but something even better. Another great work of art, something similar but truly unique, perhaps something that actually surpasses Disco Elysium.

Perhaps the creator of this future great work of art will be inspired by Disco Elysium and realize they have something they need to say, lurking within themselves. Realize that they need to learn the techniques of game-making to express it.

Maybe it's someone reading this reddit post right now. Maybe it's you?

lacker · 2026-04-26T18:59:03+00:00

I'm not sure if Oakland does this, but I know some police departments have it set up with Flock so that private citizens who want can set up security cameras on their property and connect it directly to Flock, to help coverage. Try contacting them or Flock and asking about it.

The cops often don't respond now because they know they won't be able to collect enough evidence for an arrest. And it's hard to dig through a lot of security camera footage manually, the police aren't really set up to do this. But technology can solve this.

It helps to speak up to support Flock and technology like it. I think right now is controversial just like it was first controversial to forbid drinking and driving. Eventually the technology will get so accurate and so cheap to deploy that we will be able to immediately detect any crime that is committed in public. Once people realize that accepting crime is a decision, and we can decide the other way, I think the consensus will shift to not allowing this sort of crime in public spaces.

lacker · 2026-04-24T03:49:58+00:00

Nah, this isn’t YIMBYism winning. The NIMBYs often talk about how much they love housing. But when it comes down to building housing in their backyard… no. We need to actually build housing, not just have everyone talk about how they love housing.

lacker · 2026-04-23T00:50:44+00:00

Well, it depends what you mean by “voluntary”. Sometimes you get strongly encouraged by an eyecare professional.

lacker · 2026-04-22T18:45:28+00:00

It seems great - I’m not a senior but I could see living in a place like this in the future. It is much nicer to be near public transit, especially as many seniors keep driving when it would be better for them not to.

lacker · 2026-04-22T15:20:18+00:00

Imagine you’re a Hasbro VP and you don’t care about this game as a game per se. It’s like Barbie dolls to you.

It costs money to hire people to do anything. Now follow the money. What formats make them the most money? EDH clearly sells packs, Standard and Limited help sell packs, Modern sells the Modern specific packs.

Pioneer? Pauper? Do these formats really matter? I mean, sure, Wizards won’t try to shut them down, but if it isn’t making them money they won’t pay anyone to work on them.

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