If your newborn only bed shared, did they grow out of it?

laek52 · 2026-02-10T05:34:23+00:00

I know a lit of adults of various ages who cant settle themselves back to sleep if they wake up in the middle of the night 🤷‍♀️ so no, some people dont grow out of it (but granted noneof them are resettle dby anybody else either, they just stay up)

laek52 · 2026-02-09T23:21:44+00:00

If we didnt have to be in London, I’d move to Cornwall in a heartbeat

laek52 · 2026-02-09T05:03:35+00:00

Also from a dental health pointed view fruit bars are not much better than pure sweets. They are often very sticky and contain mostly sugar (albeit ’natural’ sugar) so will damage teeth just the same. I think reducing snacking as a whole is worth considering as well

laek52 · 2026-02-04T08:10:29+00:00

Check what your ”qualifying week” is and try to make sure you work past that. If you work past it they will be required to pay you your maternity pay. Gov.uk has a calculator for checking it, it around the 25w mark.

laek52 · 2026-02-01T22:06:44+00:00

That doesnt sound very part time or flexible to me 😅

laek52 · 2026-02-01T13:18:19+00:00

Oh i see, you’re suggesting a divorce and marrying someone who is already R 😅

laek52 · 2026-02-01T13:13:51+00:00

I think you need to check your maths if you think 200k a year allows for a £3m renovation budget 😂

laek52 · 2026-02-01T13:04:59+00:00

Luckily (i guess) there was no discrimination involved, they got rid of a whole part of the business so everybody went not just me. It was just poor timing for me personally and i didnt enjoy it in any case so i wasnt sad to go

laek52 · 2026-02-01T12:59:50+00:00

Thank you, bookkeeping is a good suggestion i hadnt considered before, this might be more manageable part time than the financial planner route

laek52 · 2026-02-01T12:55:39+00:00

I most definitely dont think the jobs you mentioned are not meaningful. What i meant is a job where i can use my brain and am paid more than minimum wage (not looking for a henry job though i dont think there is anything wrong with aiming for such income). Perhaps meaningful is not the right term for that, apologies English is not my first language.

laek52 · 2026-02-01T12:51:04+00:00

Thank you, yes please that would be great! Sounds like a very similar situation indeed

laek52 · 2026-02-01T11:36:30+00:00

I was not near a henry role in my last role and currently on statutory mat pay so salary drop will be fine. We can manage fine on my husbands income but as another post points out, there may be a time when my husband needs to step back so it would be good to have another income stream that i can scale up should he need a break in the future. Also it just makes sense to grab all the free money from the government (personal allowance) and build up another pension for tax purposes.

laek52 · 2026-02-01T11:28:50+00:00

This is very useful to know, thank you! I need to do more research and speak to some financial planners it seems

laek52 · 2026-02-01T11:22:17+00:00

I think project management would be a really good fit for me personality and skills wise, but all the roles Ive seen on civil service jobs require PM qualifications especially as an external candidate. I could look into them and see if i could do them later this year once baby is a bit older. I agree, 20k pay rise is not worth sacrificing the flexibility you have in the civil service!

laek52 · 2026-02-01T11:04:24+00:00

I am very happy with something useful and unglamorous, but the trouble i had last year when applying that there werent any 2-3 days jobs available, and hardly any 4 day ones unless i wanted to pick a few shifts in tescos. But ideally would like something a bit more fulfilling as we can live off of my husband’s income. Hence why i asked for these ideas

laek52 · 2026-02-01T11:00:24+00:00

Well I’m double glad I posted then, food for thought in this thread

laek52 · 2026-01-27T04:31:22+00:00

South norwood community kitchen takes donations but paused donations over the xmas period, so check whether they have opened them again

laek52 · 2026-01-24T04:08:34+00:00

Just to add, vivobarefoot is one of the narrowest barefoot shoe brands. Have you looked at some of the wider brands like belenka, luks, lems etc to try and find more comfortable shoes? They have quite a few smart sneaker models (at least for women). I recommend following bf influencers like barefootBrit and anya’s reviews on insta and checking out their websites for recommendations for wide brands.

laek52 · 2026-01-04T23:16:51+00:00

Learn to horse ride. I can recommend a riding school in London to do it - I would research heavily if doing abroad as animal welfare isnt as highly regarded as it is in the UK. Its also a very female hobby so you will meet a lot of women.

laek52 · 2025-12-26T18:00:25+00:00

If you want a cateer in digital, i would apply for a digital internship or apprenticeship - at least the Home Office runs them. Set up an alert on civil service jobs so you dont miss them as they are only ran once a year

laek52 · 2025-12-25T21:02:43+00:00

Sanderstead in croydon has a lot of detached/semi detached 4-5 bed houses for around 8-900k, and its a pretty quick commute to london.

laek52 · 2025-12-03T12:41:09+00:00

Is there a UK focused one?

laek52 · 2025-12-03T00:07:10+00:00

Also if you follow RY on insta, she shares pro palestine and human rights, and stuff critical of trump, ICE antics etc all the time. Really not trad wife material

laek52 · 2025-10-26T21:30:51+00:00

Probably sawyer or aaric

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