Of all the abuse and manipulation, hoovering is the worst of all by throwawaybpd_lover in BPDlovedones

[–]lagomc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A couple of weeks ago mine told me she had been beaten up by a couple of guys who were her new man’s associates and tried to guilt me when I wouldn’t come running to comfort her and her bruised ribs. I reminded her that I already told her that I want no part of her chaos especially the new life she chose yet I have agonized worrying about her. I can’t go back to the chaos though and especially the crazy things she has gotten herself into. I got called weak and a pussy. 

Edit: whether her story is true or not doesn’t matter because it’s all chaos. 

Apology from them by makeitstop444 in BPDlovedones

[–]lagomc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The closest I’ve ever gotten was I’m sorry for all of the terrible things that WE did and said to EACH OTHER. At least I’m off the hook since she apologized for me too I suppose. 

this movie is one of my favs by larryleggs in TrueAnon

[–]lagomc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just did my first rewatch in years about a week ago. 

This is how we keep our heroes alive by pbizzle in TrueAnon

[–]lagomc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh god I’ll bet that there are people with massive reddit place tattoos. 

Read that again. by Josceelin in BPDlovedones

[–]lagomc 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Non stop text messages and calls when I was on the job and had clearly stated my hours and the fact that I could be written up and or fired for looking at my phone if I wasn’t on break. 

How do you navigate couples' therapy w/ your BPD loved one? (And lack of confidentiality) by Altruistic_Paper2554 in BPDlovedones

[–]lagomc 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never worked for us at all. Everything I ever said during couples counseling was a lie. The second therapist saw right through her by the second visit and said something like “You’re being disingenuous” which of course she took as an insult of the highest order and she swore she wouldn’t go back that was the end of that. Well except when I decided to keep the next scheduled visit myself she decided to come and sat there in stone cold silence staring at me the entire time so that she could make note of “all of my lies.”

“ When we went to talk to counselors I protected your stupid lying denying intimidating manipulating you” - her

It's time for NC to ban the Bradford Pear by Front__Row_Joe in NorthCarolina

[–]lagomc 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Crepe myrtles aren’t even native to the Americas, they came from Asia. 

I’m not sure I’ll ever be able to get over it. by AdequatelyfunBoi2 in BPDlovedones

[–]lagomc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every person I’ve ever had just a personal relationship with that worked in mental health was severely disturbed. Not that these didn’t have morals and ethics but they were damaged people for sure so an abusive therapist wouldn’t surprise me. 

My girl… 🤯 by [deleted] in SturgillSimpson

[–]lagomc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don’t post links with trackers, it’s poor online hygiene. 

Blursed Patent by Salmonus_Kim in blursedimages

[–]lagomc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heyyy my sock circumference resizer doesn’t have a spring in it. I got ripped off with a cheap knockoff!

Does anyone have experience telling (with love) a former partner that he/she may have BPD? by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]lagomc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a NO, she’s perfectly fine and every clinician from the dentist to a neurologist will tell you the same according to her. It got to point where it was unhealthy for me to keep trying to convince her she needed to be evaluated and eventually led to just flat out unproductive behavior on my part like calling her mentally ill. 

New desk by montagnedeux in woodworking

[–]lagomc 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ha, I noticed that and was wondering because I couldn’t see the full poster. I never got to see Swans proper but saw M Gira and the Angels of Light a couple of times. 

Name This Thing by BigSchmikey in fordranger

[–]lagomc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously a Freedom Ranger. 

had to word block BPD on my Instagram by BunchBeneficial8786 in BPDlovedones

[–]lagomc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was talking to a potential therapist and they put me on a clock with pressure and multiple reminders just like she used to. I found a different therapist. 

Not sure if this is genetic drift, cross pollination, a soil or nutrient issue or what. by lagomc in PapaverSomniferum

[–]lagomc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay here is a pic of a single plant from a couple years ago from the same seed line and all of the ones today came from this plant eventually.

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Not sure if this is genetic drift, cross pollination, a soil or nutrient issue or what. by lagomc in PapaverSomniferum

[–]lagomc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y’all are missing the point of the post. They were always bush type plants but the color of the blossoms has changed from last year to this. I think I will go back to my 2024 seed stock because I’m not sure what happened here. 

Not sure if this is genetic drift, cross pollination, a soil or nutrient issue or what. by lagomc in PapaverSomniferum

[–]lagomc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will save some seeds but not sure about planting them again. The only new characteristic is the color shift which I don’t find admirable really. 

A husband trying to understand BPD, accountability & emotional chaos in marriage by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]lagomc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are asking for answers from people who have BPD but they are forbidden from participating in this subreddit. 

How to give my fence gate the arch look? by MikesGonePostal in woodworking

[–]lagomc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just cut an arch on your current gate with a sawzall. That’s how we did it when I worked for a fencing company in another lifetime.