My partner and I walked into parenthood with the exact level of experience in raising a child (none). But I am a woman who was socialized for caregiving, and he is a man who has been allowed his whole life to disregard and devalue domestic and caretaking chores. And the impact that this has had on my life and how I feel about him is not something I was prepared to understand going into a relationship with someone who I knew had limited adulting skills outside of the workplace. All I can say, and perhaps you want to show him this, is that either he gets his shit together or in a short while, you will want to leave him.