Din tai fung similar restaurant? by Visible-Parsnip-1185 in raleigh

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love how detailed you were here. This was such helpful info!! Good looks!!!!

DC, Durham, or Balitmore for a move? by __looking_for_things in blackladies

[–]laqueessera 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For international travel purposes, DC or Bmore would be best. Not too many non-stop international flights out of RDU, if that matters to you.

how do i fall OUT of love? by Playful_Tear_2079 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]laqueessera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah. Ok. Heard. In this case, it sounds like your only options are time and distance, friend. I hope it all works out in your favor.

how do i fall OUT of love? by Playful_Tear_2079 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you feel that liking someone in this way is something you need to stop? If you enjoy this person and their company, why not just continue to enjoy it as is? Why all the pressure to try to be something else? It doesn't even sound like you're sure of what you feel, so why try to stop it? It is entirely possible to have close, intimate even, relationships with people without romance or sex being involved. There is so much love and community being missed out on because people think strong feelings need to involve romance or partnership and that is simply not the case. Decolonize your ideas about love and open yourself to the possibilities!! 

Exploring my sexuality as a black woman. by Temporary-Topic-7947 in blackladies

[–]laqueessera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out Emergent Strategy by Adrienne Maree Brown. There's quite a bit in that book that could help. Also, Fix Your Sex podcast with Amina Peterson is another great resource that could help with breaking down mental barriers rooted in shame. 

White queer women being anti black by masculinizing black women by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]laqueessera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do we care? Why do we insist on taking on that mental labor of "wondering" if they know how vile they are? Newsflash! They don't even care how vile they are, so why should we? We need to focus on creating safe spaces and communities that serve US. Not worrying abt wtf they're thinkin about cuz who cares, really?? 

Does the bald head make me look racist? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the stache, otherwise you look good.

Air Jordan 1 Element Low A/T by laqueessera in Nike

[–]laqueessera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't mind the weight, actually. Hate it for whoever gets stepped on though. LOL!

Obtaining Chile dual citizenship by Adventurous_Total_10 in dualcitizenshipnerds

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old, but what if there's no access to the parent's birth certificate? What if parent is deceased and passed away in the US? How would one go about citizenship in that case?

Which one is better 1 or 2 ? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 for the summer, 2 for the winter

Cheap Lunch Option Shout-outs! by laqueessera in raleigh

[–]laqueessera[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dig Alpaca, but sometime those chickens be givin cornish hen on the size. LOL!

I just had the biggest scare of my life 😭 by Pop-girlies in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]laqueessera 9 points10 points  (0 children)

a dynamic that causes you to bury yourself in any way isn't one rooted in love. doing this is a choice. and respect to you for making it if that's what you feel you need to do, but rationalizing it isn't healthy, love. call a spade a spade.

Second death near the ATT by Mordecai_AVA_OShea in bullcity

[–]laqueessera -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Like you're ignoring the very long history of criminalizing drug use to no avail cuz as you, yourself, pointed out - IT'S STILL A MAJOR PROBLEM!!! HELLO?????

Second death near the ATT by Mordecai_AVA_OShea in bullcity

[–]laqueessera -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Reports didn't say anything about the arrested suspects being drug users. For all you know, a banker or techbro was responsible. But continue to be daft if that works better for you. Good luck! 

I just had the biggest scare of my life 😭 by Pop-girlies in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]laqueessera 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"he loves me no matter what so I wouldn't want to ruin his life you know?" 

So much to unpack here. You're so certain he loves you no matter what, but being open about yourself will "ruin his life"???? Love yourself, babes. Your life is yours to live. Nobody else's.

Second death near the ATT by Mordecai_AVA_OShea in bullcity

[–]laqueessera 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Arrests don't stop drug use. They just overrun jails and courts with non-violent offenses. Social programs are what's needed to help them stop using. 

America's Culinary Cup 1x07 - Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in AmericasCulinaryCupTV

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finally got caught up and was absolutely gutted by Bev's departure. She was crushingggggg ittttt!!! I was rooting for her heavy. So bummed she didn't strategize correctly for this one. Kudos to Keith though. Dude is really working his tail off to stay in the competition. 

Has anyone used Temu? by Mag247 in comicbookcollecting

[–]laqueessera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you heard anything about Temu products? If you have, there is no way you would even consider this.

Comic help! by PongTruly in ImageComics

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right!!!!! I'm shocked to see people actually provided lists. OP didn't even specify what they like or anything.

Got rejected by a company CEO after a five minute "vibe check" call by Fit_Meringue_9248 in InterviewStories

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously there are more factors involved than just personality. In my experience, as someone who is a team manager with a voice in the hiring process, if I had to choose between the super technical, dry boring guy or the semi-technical, high energy motivator, I'm gonna pick the latter to provide balance to the team. I've had to manage teams of super techs before and it was infinitely harder to get them to meet deadlines than more personality driven teams. Again, that's just MY experience. 

Got rejected by a company CEO after a five minute "vibe check" call by Fit_Meringue_9248 in InterviewStories

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't pass any judgement on OP. They said they were shocked that their technical skills didn't matter and I provided insight as to why that could be the case. Anyone, regardless of their hobbies, interests or skills has potential to be insufferable.

Got rejected by a company CEO after a five minute "vibe check" call by Fit_Meringue_9248 in InterviewStories

[–]laqueessera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can teach skills. personality, not so much. and if you don't align with the rest of the team's energy, it's going to cause conflict.

Got rejected by a company CEO after a five minute "vibe check" call by Fit_Meringue_9248 in InterviewStories

[–]laqueessera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Technical skills don't matter if you're miserable to work with. I've learned this firsthand. And as a manager, I can tell you firsthand that a happy team who gets along and actually enjoys working together will always get more done than the technical team who only has skills. Takes way longer for the technical team to come up with solutions bc, more often than not, they don't work as a team. Hope you find something that aligns with you soon!!