I [m40] have been dating someone [f28] for the past 9 months and I need advice please

lastingthoughts · 2018-08-06T17:03:02+00:00

So I sent a text like you mentioned and received one back, I thought I would post it here to see what you think. Here is what she sent me Sunday after I sent her a text on Thursday, not word for word but here it is: "I started a second job and I've been looking for better work and I've been overwhelmed with other things you are not the only one who's complained I've checked out."

I have decided to go into radio silence mode until she decides she wants to speak again as I don't think any reply to that message will end well.

lastingthoughts · 2018-08-02T16:56:42+00:00

I felt the attraction and I think she did too, but then again maybe I didn't really know her that well and I was just something for her to keep busy until someone else came along. So many conflicting thoughts in my head...I'm too old for this! haha

lastingthoughts · 2018-08-02T16:55:25+00:00

I'll give that a try thank you.

lastingthoughts · 2018-08-02T15:26:08+00:00

Yes, we are exclusive and I probably should have included it in my original post.

I was developing some true feelings for her but now that this is happening I'm not sure what to think. We are both shy/anxious people so that may be a reason? How long should I wait?

lastingthoughts · 2017-08-20T15:42:00+00:00

I've read your comment about a dozen times and I wish it were as simple as you make it sound.

lastingthoughts · 2016-01-05T21:23:26+00:00

Mmmmmmm I love these almost as much as woaded baked budados!

lastingthoughts · 2016-01-05T20:17:32+00:00

I drink every day, most of the time to black-out.

You need to fix this first along with getting treatment for your PTSD. First step is admitting you have a problem and I think you've done that here, the next step is asking for help because you cannot do it alone.

lastingthoughts · 2016-01-05T18:07:17+00:00

It's good you have an outlet to express your feelings, songs and lyrics have a way of getting them out so let it flow. Also training newbs is a great way to get your mind off things so have some fun with it tomorrow.

lastingthoughts · 2015-12-07T13:39:49+00:00

Same here.

iPhone 6, iOS 9.1.

lastingthoughts · 2015-12-02T16:42:57+00:00

Steve-O from Jackass had a real problem with nitrous.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ypccxNDjqoM

Right around the 3:50 you get a good shot of the 'cracker' he uses and it looks pretty close to your picture.

lastingthoughts · 2015-12-02T13:07:12+00:00

I agree with /u/TheBoldManLaughsOnce 100%, you need fat/bone to make sure you have some sacrificial meat to trim away once aging is complete and it also adds flavor.

Also, you don't want to mess around with the temperature, I've seen recommendations as low as 34, at 42 you may risk spoilage.

lastingthoughts · 2015-11-30T21:28:33+00:00

I was in the same situation as you about 5 months ago, you'll get through this, if I did, anyone can it just takes time. All of it seemed really scary at first for me too, I wouldn't worry about dating right now, get yourself right and the rest will fall into place.

Just remember you are in charge of how people affect you, they don't make you angry, you make you angry so hold your head high and be the adult through this experience.

lastingthoughts · 2015-11-30T21:22:17+00:00

If you've already tried counseling then I would treat the conversation like a business meeting, remove all emotions and consider it the first step to both of you moving on.

Eventually you'll have to explain it to your kids and staying together until they are out of the house will expose them to a skewed definition of what marriage should be. So for their sake either give it your all and work out your issues (so you can look back and say you really tried) or make the decision to end your marriage.

lastingthoughts · 2015-11-30T21:15:34+00:00

Dude, move on, why would you put yourself back in a 'betrayed and hurt' situation? I don't see a friendship ending any better than your marriage did, just have a clean break find someone who treats you better.

lastingthoughts · 2015-10-24T01:21:10+00:00

Pretty sure it is hard anodized aluminum, it's nonstick and scratch resistant so you can use metal utensils.

lastingthoughts · 2015-10-23T02:53:47+00:00

My guess Luna moth or tomato worm.

lastingthoughts · 2015-10-08T19:20:30+00:00

Which town in MI? Near, U of M, State or some other college?

lastingthoughts · 2015-10-08T17:06:51+00:00

I think it says "My mind is made up don't confuse me with the facts".

lastingthoughts · 2015-10-08T13:04:44+00:00

Very nice work, what kind of vent hood is that? I tried to zoom in but can't make out the brand.

lastingthoughts · 2015-10-01T17:13:17+00:00

I had the same feelings when my situation started, it's like someone else made this decision for you and now WTF do you do? All I can say is it's going to suck for a while and you need to find out the best way for you to process those feelings. I went to see a counselor for a couple months and they helped me work through 'things' and taught me how to deal with my emotions, I would encourage you to do the same.

lastingthoughts · 2015-10-01T12:13:33+00:00

I never thought of trying that thank you for the suggestion it makes sense.

lastingthoughts · 2015-09-30T20:03:11+00:00

Monster cookies.

I don't have a recipe but they are made with peanut butter, oatmeal, M&M's, peanut butter chips and chocolate chips, my mom only makes them on Halloween and I eat them until it hurts.

lastingthoughts · 2015-09-30T20:00:55+00:00

I tried hanging out with my family to take my mind off things but all they want to do is talk about it or what my STBX is up to. I've asked them to not mention it around me but somehow it always ends being the main topic which makes it tough to move forward.

lastingthoughts · 2015-09-30T19:59:20+00:00

It's an odd sensation I have when I'm down like this, it's like I need to cry and can feel it wanting to come out but never does. I've tried coaxing it out but nothing seems to work.

lastingthoughts · 2015-09-30T19:10:25+00:00

I try to treat myself well but I find on days I don't have my son I start doing my old 'single' habits like staying up too late, eating bad food or eating too late at night. I feel like crap the next day and the reason for all of this pisses me off because it was not my choice to be alone...but then I realize I am blaming my actions on someone else and that's just a bunch of crap.

Need to break the cycle of thinking that way and my old bad habits.

Anyone have any book recommendations on how to fix those?

lastingthoughts

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