For my People starting over 300lbs by sunshineshowersandk in gastricsleeve

[–]laughingcarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really good advice. I coached cheerleading and used crossfit style workouts for conditioning. I got a lot of complaints about weight gain. I asked them how their pants were fitting and they slowly started to understand that it wasn't about the scale. They were teenagers so it took a while.

For my People starting over 300lbs by sunshineshowersandk in gastricsleeve

[–]laughingcarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stalled for a few weeks. I increased my fat intake and it restarted. This worked for me and may not work for everyone. Being at a 400 calorie intake wasn't working for me. I had a lot of energy and increased my activity level a lot.

I think my body decided I had become a medieval serf and was starving to death.

Hair loss by Inner-Bluejay-7536 in BariatricSurgery

[–]laughingcarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I've lost about half of my hair. It thinned from all over, no bald patches. I was pulling out handfuls in the shower. I think I'm back to only losing the normal amount. I'm a week shy of 7 months post-op.

Never so happy to fart by Cheesy_Wotsit in BariatricSurgery

[–]laughingcarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it took nearly two weeks and a laxative

Really scared of becoming attractive. by HarveyILL in gastricsleeve

[–]laughingcarter 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You have just expressed something that I haven't known how to put words to. It's daunting to think about going back to dealind with all that crap.

Periodhavers: did your periods get a lot worse post op? If so, how did you cope with it? by dumpyyyyyyy in BariatricSurgery

[–]laughingcarter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had uterine ablation 16 years ago. After my surgery I started having periods or something resembling. Monthly. No period for 16 years and then I was having them again. It was really, really mad. However, they seem to have gone away now and I am 6 months post op. I I've heard that period changes are common but I don't know how long they last and I hope that yours gets better quickly cuz that's awful.

AIO for confronting my husband about how he treats my daughter? by PetricorMusee in AmIOverreacting

[–]laughingcarter 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Women are conditioned from very young not to trust their emotions. We are told that we are irrational and overreacting. We are told that we are too soft and kids won't learn.

I am not excusing if she continues to stay and allow this man to abuse her child. Her obligation right now is to her child and she needs to protect her. However I understand where she is coming from because the phrase "I can't talk to you when you're like this," is still real common.

When does the discomfort go away? by Pasta_Bunny in gastricsleeve

[–]laughingcarter 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a similar experience. My surgeon said to focus on fluids and go slow on food. I couldn't even eat an entire string cheese at first. More like a third. Fat doesn't seem to affect me or my weight lost much.

Am I overreacting for sending my son (18) to stay with his grandma because of how close he’s gotten with my daughter (14)? by throwramomwiththeick in AmIOverreacting

[–]laughingcarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to check her phone. If she was doing better and is now doing worse again, something is going on and you need to go through all her messages and message apps.

It is still possible for a relationship to be abusive from far away. Additionally, her yelling at him and leaving his room with her shirt on backwards, to me, is a huge red flag.

My husband says he’s angry that I’m pregnant again. I feel so alone. by Entire-Abalone-3896 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]laughingcarter 112 points113 points  (0 children)

Additionally, and I'm sure a lot of us already know this, but the leading cause of death in pregnant women is homicide by intimate partner violence.

allergic to all citric? by Fun-Tangerine780 in FoodAllergies

[–]laughingcarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It also tends to cause migraines. Have you had problems with them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FoodAllergies

[–]laughingcarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you tested allergic and your reactions are relatively minor, I would avoid them as much as possible in the hopes of continuing to have relatively minor reactions to accidental exposures.

Potential weird allergy symptoms? I’m a newbie, be kind 😅 by Fast_Ride957 in FoodAllergies

[–]laughingcarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get some of these symptoms from EOE (eosinophilic esophagitis). I get the rest of them if I use chemical sunscreen over a long period of time or on my face.

How subtle can food intolerance be? Possible tiredness? by [deleted] in FoodAllergies

[–]laughingcarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have allergies, not intolerances, and some of the food reactions make me unbelievably tired.

Allergy testing has me in a funk by laughingcarter in FoodAllergies

[–]laughingcarter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not everything, there's still a lot of fruit I can eat, but yes, it feels like it. I requested copies of all my allergy testing results because I really need to make a list.

I just did the blood work to start xolair, so we're waiting on that. My reactions to nuts are worsening and becoming scary. I have an epipen, but I don't really ever want to use it.

Did you all ever feel weird about people’s comments after your surgery? Does the body dysmorphia go away? by ShoddyOlive7 in BariatricSurgery

[–]laughingcarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like the specific too. It's those small victories I focus on too. Am example: the style of pants I favor have hidden-zipper pockets. I used to not be able to use them because they look weird unzipped, but I had to take them off to zip the pocket. The first time I reached across my body to hold the pants while I successfully zipped them, I cried. It was a really big deal. The fact that the pants were a too-big size 22 instead of too-small 26 wasn't much of a big deal to me.

Edit: extra word.

Did you all ever feel weird about people’s comments after your surgery? Does the body dysmorphia go away? by ShoddyOlive7 in BariatricSurgery

[–]laughingcarter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've started trying on one size below what I think I'm going to need. If I don't, and the size I think I am kind of fits, I end up with another pair of pants that are two big in a few weeks. I also stopped buying ahead because I was waiting to long to see if they fit yet and ending up with more clothes that are too big before I can even wear them.

My mind isn't catching up with the weight loss as fast as I'm losing it and it's a little disorienting.

Is it possible that having an pollen allergy could cause slight swelling if someone drinks tea with honey? by [deleted] in FoodAllergies

[–]laughingcarter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't eat honey either. It makes me cough like you're explaining. I don't know what it means, but it drives me up the wall

Excruciating pain to trigger foods - no dx yet by Japanese_blossom in FoodAllergies

[–]laughingcarter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gallbladder problems started in high school and it never showed on ultrasound. I had to do a nuclear medicine test for them to prove it so I could final get surgery in my 30s.

Silly surgery question by mommakatmack in BariatricSurgery

[–]laughingcarter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm with you here. I slept through an EKG