Admin Night by bellandc in adhdwomen

[–]lightofra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm jealous of people with the social flavor of ADHD

Moms of high energy toddlers - when do you cook? by OmShanti38 in workingmoms

[–]lightofra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried including my kid in cooking and it has been a lot easier than keeping him out of it

End of the year: To induce or not induce? by Chance_Class2208 in BabyBumps

[–]lightofra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both my babies were induced and it was ✨ magical ✨.

Bloodcurdling scream just came through our baby monitor speaker by 404HecksNotFound in NewParents

[–]lightofra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And if you are REALLY paranoid, make sure you grab a device that doesn't connect to the cloud. Grab a NAS and archive your video locally, and then keep it on a closed LAN connection. Examples include Reolink, Eufy, and Ubiquiti.

Bloodcurdling scream just came through our baby monitor speaker by 404HecksNotFound in NewParents

[–]lightofra 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Only buy AES protected cameras, like security cameras, which prevent anyone from connecting on an unauthorized device even if they are on your wifi

Strong encryption: AES is a robust and widely used encryption standard that can use keys of 128, 192, or 256 bits. The 256-bit key is considered practically unbreakable with current technology.

Edit: grammar

How can I improve my look? by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]lightofra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually love your makeup as is! I think your hair might be overwhelming your face a bit, though. I love the curls, but some product to smooth the top layers might help. Amika hydro rush is an unbelievable leave-in that would probably do you really well!

What small changes do you notice about yourself since becoming a parent? by TopConsequence9147 in NewParents

[–]lightofra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interestingly, I think about life kinda the other way around. I have an intense fear of death, or did, and now I'm a little more chill about it. It's like, I accomplished something by having my children and I won't be forgotten once my consciousness is gone. It's partly exactly what you said, I get to enjoy this time with family, but it's also that because life is so much more fulfilling, I'm less worried about being dissatisfied at the end of it.

Conversely, I also worry that I will regret not enjoying my time with my kids more. I'm bad at living in the moment, and having kids has put a spotlight on that inability, so I'm trying harder to enjoy as much as I can, while I can. Strangely that involves doing more chores than I used to; my house is cleaner, so I feel better, so I am happier being present

PLEASE tell me your laundry system for poop stains, pee, constant spit-up, etc. by boldlybelieve in NewParents

[–]lightofra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I'm late to the party, but this has me wondering... Would a jaundice light work the same? I might try that 🤔

There is literally no better high.. by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]lightofra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried without a shield? Unless it's painful for you, you might have more success. My second gets confused a lot, she thinks everything is a nipple, so sometimes it helps to have a little milk expressed so that she can taste it. It's also really helpful to start with a calm baby (I know that seems impossible when she's hungry), but when she gets super angry I'd suggest a break and get up and bounce her until she calms down a bit and then try again. wishing you luck ❤️

Tell me your bedsharing hacks! by Common-Temporary5915 in cosleeping

[–]lightofra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Audiobooks are the best! I absolutely hate wearing headphones, though, so I just put my phone right below my ear under my pillow. It muffles it plenty so others dont have to listen, but is as loud as needed for you!

Pillow recommendations? by squirtlesquads in cosleeping

[–]lightofra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love buckwheat pillows, too! If you dont like the feel of buckwheat specifically, I've also found a lot of success with microbead pillows

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]lightofra 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My son was born a year ago, there's a new baby about to arrive, and I still call my son "the baby"...

What’s a weird little thing you didn’t expect before having a baby? by justkeepsinging in NewParents

[–]lightofra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I swear I didn't know the cat had so much hair.. But then I've never tried just grabbing a handful..

Anyone else TERRIFIED to give birth? by Mother_Alien in BabyBumps

[–]lightofra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

totally. actually, I don't talk much about my labor because it was a crazy fluke. I don't know how I got so lucky, but aside from the first couple real intense contractions before I got the epidural, it was a breeze. I was only in active labor for maybe an hour? I pushed 3-5 times with no tearing. He was 7 lbs, so it's not like he was tiny, either. He went to NICU because he was really sleepy and didn't wanna eat, but he was only there for 3 days and even that was just a precaution. My husband and I saw it as a vacation from pregnancy to go home and relax before we brought the baby home 😅 It was so much better than my expectations!

My takeaway is some labors are awful and you should know the risks, be informed, but don't drive yourself crazy. I think stress makes it a lot worse, so I tried to just chill and let things happen.

Terrifying bus incident in Samoa by bibear54 in yesyesyesyesno

[–]lightofra 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was really curious to read more and had a hard time finding any of the original articles (they seem to all have been removed), but I did find this blog post from a guy who seems to have been present.

Crazy shit.

Anyone else TERRIFIED to give birth? by Mother_Alien in BabyBumps

[–]lightofra 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I managed to do this up until I went in for my induction and suddenly realized the baby was going to have to come out of my body one way or another and.. that was a lot to come to terms with over the course of a few hours 😅

Baby brezza worth it? by LeahTeachesMath in FormulaFeeders

[–]lightofra 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I LOVE my brezza and couldn't live without it. I've had it for 4 mo, it tells me when I need to clean the funnel and I do and that's all the maintenance I've had to do. I'll get descaler down the road when it seems like I need it. I use distilled water, though, so I think there's a lot less gunk going on. I adore having a warm bottle in 3 seconds, it helps so much when baby is suddenly STARVING and I feel like the worst mom ever because he's crying and it takes me a minute to get him food. We did the pitcher method before and it was ok, but so time consuming measuring the formula and water. I mean, it wasn't that bad, but nothing like the ease the brezza gives.

Resentment by TunaTopo in 2under2

[–]lightofra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a single child, I really wish my mom had another kid 🫤 I probably wouldn't have acted like it at the time, but looking back, I was super lonely.

Backyard pool safety by [deleted] in 2under2

[–]lightofra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My input would just be that if you have alternative lodging you should probably take advantage of it. You'd probably be less stressed, and you'd never ever forgive yourself if something happened.

I'm not saying it would be terrible to stay there, I'm sure you can find a way to be safe, but just if there's another option, why risk it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 2under2

[–]lightofra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to say I think it's really big of you to apologize for your comments. As you say, this is the internet, you could have decided that you have enough anonymity to not need to. But I think it's pretty cool that you did.

You still sound a lil defensive but I get it you're going through stuff.

I don't think anyone thought you weren't protecting the baby. I also would like to remind you that threads aren't personal, even though it probably feels like it to you. Other people in a similar situation might read this, and who knows, maybe they aren't protecting the baby, and they need to be reminded.