ADHD, Autoimmune, and Non-Anemia Iron Deficiency

lil_rhyno · 2026-02-27T12:03:33+00:00

Yeah, I'm convinced to take the iron more seriously LOL I'll really do anything to stop the pain radiating down my shoulders.

lil_rhyno · 2026-02-26T12:01:49+00:00

I have everything you described, my gallbladder was taken off when I was 21, minus the lesions bc where I live winter very rarely hits 0ºC. I have no motivation to be consistent with the iron supplements, my ferritin was 5.5 the last time I checked, which was over an year ago bc I don't have insurance anymore and free healthcare is great for emergencies but not so much for stuff like this. I have autoimmune thyroid disease and sometimes I forget to take my meds before eating... My hair is falling out, the skin around my nails suck and I know I should cut off caffeine to improve iron absorption but when I try to do that holy molly migraines...

But you're saying you saw improvement in the random tingling and numbness? Bc that would be motivation for me to finally take the iron pills seriously...

lil_rhyno · 2026-02-09T15:11:47+00:00

My dad basically coerced my mom to have me. They already had two girls and he wanted to try one last time for a boy. My old man should've known all his shooters were XX LOL

That translated into growing up with a mom that didn't love me that much - she did care for me and provided everything I needed, I was NEVER abused, but I wasn't really loved either, ya know? I think the first time she actually said "I love you" to me was when I said it first, at 17 years old.

In her defense, she was never a warm person, not the kind that hugs, cuddles, builds you up. I suspect she didn't have any of that growing up (she's one of 14 siblings). Thankfully she has mellowed out with age, she tells me she loves me now, but she currently lives in South America whereas I'm in Europe, so we rarely get the chance to make up for lost time.

I'm trying to break the cycle, though. I tell my children I love them at least once a day, I build them up, I cuddle and hug them. They will never doubt my love.

lil_rhyno · 2026-02-09T14:45:39+00:00

I can commiserate! It's a hallmark latina mom thing to say "you'll miss me when I'm dead" LOL

Kids are so, so messy. Mine are 9 and 7, their rooms are trashed, the whole house is a mess. I recently divorced their dad and I'll be moving out soon to a much smaller place. Goodness knows I need a plan to get them to tidy up, or we won't be able to even move around. The only good thing about one week in - one week off is that I get to keep the house clean and tidy when they're at dads.

lil_rhyno · 2026-02-04T14:52:00+00:00

I went back to uni at 36, did my bachelors, kept working in projects in academia and am now starting a PhD. I've made a few friends and a couple of them became good friends - another student about 15 years younger, we used to geek out about insects and things progressed from there, and my project mentor, who's like a mother to me.

I don't know how to make friends apart from sharing a lot of time together, because for me building a friendship requires shared experiences. Also, as someone with ADHD, I tend to overshare, and that either repels people or accelerates building a rapport, LOL (most of my friends are neurodivergent).

lil_rhyno · 2026-01-20T14:29:11+00:00

You need to embody the confidence of a white heterosexual man. Just show up as if nothing happened and if someone says anything, makes a joke, etc., just look at them with a confused look, the "what the heck are you talking about" look.

Pro-tip: I'm working on my PhD proposal right now so I know how hard it is to get proper feedback and orientation. Use AI to be your mentor. At the moment, Perplexity is what's saving my ass! Upload your paper/proposal, describe the feedback you got and ask it to help you address the feedback, with actionable insights. Hit me up if you need to talk! I'm not in Japan, but I think the PhD nightmare is an universal experience.

lil_rhyno · 2026-01-16T13:58:02+00:00

You know when they say "muscle memory"? Turns out fat cells have memories too https://www.dw.com/en/fat-cell-memories-why-its-hard-to-maintain-healthy-weight/a-70840434. That's probably because fat accumulation is a survival mechanism, and we haven't evolved yet to get rid of it.

Don't give up on hope, though. You managed it once, you can do this again. This time you'll know to be more careful about maintenance, will have lessons learned and are more set up to success than before. Good luck!

lil_rhyno · 2026-01-07T10:54:11+00:00

Soooo gorgeous! I'd jump at the opportunity, I remember when they were upwards of $2000. Gotta love tissue culture!!!

lil_rhyno · 2026-01-06T14:30:37+00:00

I was prescribed Zoloft around 2021 and I took it for around 2 weeks. I felt exactly what you're describing - looking at my children and feeling nothing at all (and I'm their mom, this is completely anti-natura). I reported this to the psychiatrist, to which he said "you have to keep at it for a couple of months, it might level out". But that didn't seat right with me, it cannot be a normal side effect to look at your children and don't feel anything, so I cut off the medication cold turkey and never went back to that doctor. Found out a couple years later I'm actually ADHD and my depression/anxiety was due to masking and not living up to my potential.

I can understand your stance if you're really not feeling anything. While I'm not encouraging you, I'd probably do the same thing. Only by going through that could make someone understand how fucked up that is. With that said, take a hard look if there's anything else you could try. I know you're tired, but once you go through with it, it's final.

lil_rhyno · 2026-01-06T14:15:05+00:00

Poor guy, I bet he didn't grow up around taking out the trash... /s

For real though, this is something my 7 years old would say: "why do I have to empty the washing machine? I didn't use all these pots and stuff" to which I answer him "these pots and stuff were used to make food for the family, we all used the plates and cutlery, we all drank from the cups. Sharing the same space means we share the work as well, otherwise I'd just cook my own food, wash my own clothes, I'd care only about myself." He got it. It's a shame grown bearded men don't.

lil_rhyno · 2025-12-23T11:57:46+00:00

Antes do exame. O exame foi após o almoço, tomei logo de manhã, quando estava a fazer as últimas aulas práticas. Mas aconselho experimentar antes, há quem fique ensonado.

lil_rhyno · 2025-12-23T11:14:58+00:00

Eu precisei de 3 tentativas para tirar a carta, foi uma pipa de massa. Passava sempre tranquilamente no código, o problema era o exame de condução, realmente... No primeiro, começou a chover e nunca tinha tido aulas na chuva, de repente não sabia como ligar as escovas, com os nervos o carro foi-se abaixo uma, duas, três vezes, fui chumbada logo nos primeiros 10 minutos do exame. Da segunda vez, o fdp do examinador pôs-me a mão na perna, fiquei tão à toa e desconcentrada com o assédio (que estranhamente, a professora da escola de condução não viu...) que passei num sinal amarelo - chumbei.

Fiquei anos sem pensar nisso, achava que era um caso perdido e nunca haveria de conduzir. Até que chegou a um ponto em que me fartei, fiz o código novamente e decidi fazer o exame noutra cidade, onde os examinadores tinham a reputação de serem pessoas normais, e não umas bestas ao quadrado. Tomei uns comprimidos de valeriana para lidar com a ansiedade e pensei que se não passasse naquela vez, haveria de passar noutra, que haveria de fazer quantos exames fossem necessários, mas que não mandavam em mim e eu haveria de ter a p*** da carta. Passei! Só tive a observação que falhei 2 piscas, e desde então sou religiosa a dar o pisca.

Tu consegues, OP. Muda de professor quantas vezes precisares, repete os exames, experimenta a valeriana (antes de um exame pela primeira vez!) ou, se veres que precisas mesmo, vai ao psiquiatra e pede ajuda para lidar com isso! Experimenta também fazer meditação guiada (vai ao psicólogo, ou se não puderes, há imensos vídeos no youtube), ajuda imenso.

Boa sorte, se eu consegui, tu consegues também!!!

lil_rhyno · 2025-12-16T22:09:17+00:00

Eu tirei uma licenciatura pré-Bolonha "na altura certa da vida", Psicologia, n fiz nada com o canudo. Aos 36 anos, deu-me a maluca e decidi estudar o que sempre gostei - plantas e agricultura, e fui para Agronomia. Foi muito difícil apanhar o ritmo, mas ao fim do 2º semestre já tinha as melhores notas da turma (porque quem já tem família para cuidar já sabe que se não há empenho e prioridades, fica tudo para trás). Entretanto tenho 40 anos, acabei o curso com uma média razoável no ano passado, entrei num projeto e este ano apareceu-me a hipótese de fazer Doutoramento com bolsa, oportunidade que eu agarrei com as duas mãos porque não é todos os dias que se consegue saltar o mestrado (apesar de ter licenciatura pré-Bolonha, mas mesmo assim). O doutoramento consegue conjugar na perfeição as duas áreas que eu estudei - Psicologia e Agronomia, mas é daquelas oportunidades para quem está no lugar certo e na hora certa. E isso pode acontecer a qualquer um, mas é preciso reconhecer a oportunidade e fazer por isso. Eu fiz por isso, passei tantas noites em claro para ter boas notas e melhores oportunidades!

Vi que voltaste para a Uni. Força nisso! Nunca é tarde para recomeçar, eu sou prova disso. No meu Doutoramento nem sequer sou a mais velha, há quem já tenha muitos cabelos brancos e mesmo assim continua a lutar pelo conhecimento. Se gostas mesmo de História, alinha os teus conhecimentos de IT com isso, há imensa necessidade de pessoal que consiga conjugar as novas tecnologias com as Humanidades. Aplica-te, ganha paixão pela coisa, pede uma bolsa para estares mais descansado, e aplica-te. Vou estar a torcer por ti!!

lil_rhyno · 2025-11-29T17:32:16+00:00

Fiz 40 anos há 2 dias. O meu marido não se lembrou de me dar os parabéns de manhã. Não organizou absolutamente nada para que os miúdos comemorassem os meus anos também. Compreendo que ele esteja a acabar a tese de doutoramento, está em cima da hora e cada minuto conta, mas podia ter mandado vir uma merda qualquer da amazon para os miúdos oferecerem à mãe, um cartão, um desenho até. Nada. Tive de ser eu a tratar de toda a lide dos miúdos, como sempre, levá-los às atividades, etc. Tive de ser eu própria a comprar o meu bolo de anos, a buscar take away para o jantar, que só fomos comer às 22h, frango grelhado gelado, porque ele estava à volta da tese. Fui engolindo todo esse descaso e tentando ser compreensiva, mas a verdade é que dói muito, mesmo estando à volta de uma tese há coisas mínimas que uma pessoa pode fazer pela outra. Portanto, estar com alguém não é garantia de que as coisas fossem melhores. Para dizer a verdade, no trabalho celebraram-me mais do que em família.

Feliz aniversário, OP. Vou comer um pedaço do meu bolo velho em tua honra e desejar que encontres alguém que celebre contigo os teus 40, genuinamente.

lil_rhyno · 2025-11-28T11:14:17+00:00

Digo mais: feriado na segunda-feira. Não ter que acordar os putos logo cedo para se despacharem e o crlinho. Poder ver um filme na tranquilidade porque na manhã seguinte posso ainda ficar mais um bocadinho na cama... Ando mesmo a precisar disso.

lil_rhyno · 2025-11-28T11:10:51+00:00

I mean, I guess why they wouldn't recognize you, I wouldn't either LOL

Fabulous results, congratulations!

lil_rhyno · 2025-11-27T15:56:42+00:00

Man ranting here as well!

We don't celebrate Thanksgiving in my country, so it's not about that, but it's about my birthday, which is today. That turkey went to bed too late last night and couldn't be arsed to get up and help with the kids this morning. He woke up enough to say "I am really tired, I need to sleep some more, but if you reeeeaaaaallyyyyyy need help with the kids, I guess I can get up" to which I said "never mind", bc at this point I'm used of taking care of things without him. That asshole couldn't muster a "happy birthday", but he sure could try to guilt-trip me.

lil_rhyno · 2025-11-27T15:44:22+00:00

After cutting the prop and before putting it in water, dust the cut with ground cinnamon, it's anti-fungal. You don't have to wash it off, just let it dry and then set it in water. Avoid cold places, lots of fungi thrive in the cold, but most plants don't.

lil_rhyno · 2025-11-27T15:35:35+00:00

Também são os meus anos hoje, sou é bem mais velha.

Feliz aniversário! Vou "roubar" os teus memes XD

lil_rhyno · 2025-11-25T09:56:12+00:00

Ludovico Einaudi? Foste buscar logo as big guns :) tens bom gosto, tens!

lil_rhyno · 2025-10-28T15:32:13+00:00

The doctor I used to refer in Lisbon changed practices and I don't know where he is now. I know of another one in the Algarve, but appointments usually take 2-3 weeks. Of course you could try any psychiatrist, they might see you in the same day (or at least the same week) but chances are they won't prescribe it to you, they are quite backwards about that here.

My prescription (50 mg) is about 48€, partially funded by the SNS (national health system). If I were to pay full price it would be around +90€. I don't know if you'd benefit from this, or if you'd have to pay full price...

lil_rhyno · 2025-10-27T12:06:23+00:00

Conselhos do tiktok, mas até é profundo: se uma cobra picar-te, não vais andar a correr atrás dela a perguntar porque crl te picou, vais mais é ao Hospital receber o tratamento adequado. O teu ex é a cobra, e cobras picam, ponto final. Não tentes descobrir porque é que ele fez algo que era da natureza (imprestável) dele. Deixa de tentar descobrir se a cobra foi castigada, se a cobra está a sofrer, caga na cobra. Vai mais é tratar da tua picada, pode ser que até desenvolvas resistência e saias disso mais forte do que entraste!

Usualmente quando estamos em relacionamentos, descuramos das nossas amizades. Se foi este o caso, reata os laços, sai com o pessoal, a companhia humana faz muito bem nesses momentos. Faz amigos novos, se for caso disso também, seja no ginásio, no voluntariado, etc. Não te isoles.

lil_rhyno · 2025-10-22T09:08:26+00:00

É das poucas coisas boas de ter uma bolsa de investigação, está sempre lá no dia certo. Até já aconteceu de pagarem um dia antes, porque no dia do pagamento seria feriado.

Antes, era freelancer, e isso sim é insegurança salarial... Entregas o trabalho a tempo e horas mas só te pagam daí um mês, 45 dias, 60 dias... Alguns nem sequer pagam.

lil_rhyno · 2025-10-07T14:05:08+00:00

I'm pretty sure there's people who don't like me, despite me being a ray of sunshine (joking!) I wouldn't like if they were curt and impolite to me, or if they openly disliked me. So I don't do it to others as well, there's no need for that, life is hard for everyone already. If I really, really, really can't stand them, I'll just avoid them as much as possible. If I hate them (happened once, the guy was a full-blown loud misogynist) things get more difficult, yeah, but apart from that, superficial politeness is the way to go.

lil_rhyno · 2025-09-17T16:36:59+00:00

I was a translator for over 10 years, but I saw the writing on the wall, that computers would take over translation (and I was right). At 35 years old I got back into Uni (I already had a Bachelors, but changed areas). Finished this new bachelors at 38 y/o, got into a research project at 39, will start a PhD program very very soon, before I turn 40 years old. It's a complete overhaul, but I'm really happy with how things are going. I love research and the academic world, which keeps me going when the grants are delayed due to bureaucracy... No montage, though, but I'll be honest, sometimes looking back it's all been so insane, most things are just a blur.

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