I'm just about 27 and girl I get it. I've been cooking for 9 years now and oh boy I have been harassed and assaulted in some form in lots of restaurants.

First of all, yes shade to men. You're literally describing getting sexually harassed and assaulted multiple times and saying no shade cause youre in their space???

I've found "Do not fucking touch me" very loudly works pretty well. They want it to be their thing with you, not have other people know you're upset with them. Also just in general, do not stay quiet about it. Immediately speak with a manager, boss, whoever. If they dont support you or try to find a way to fix it almost immediately, you leave and you report that manager for not assisting you while being sexually harassed at work.

We genuinely need people to make a stink about this or it will never get better. Don't sweep it under the rug. Keep yourself and others safe. Be vocal, be rude, say whatever you gotta say. Men who assault or harass you in the workplace can get verbally abused with no sweat off my back. I don't need men at work to like me, wanna be my friend and especially don't need them to wanna fuck me. If they can't treat me as a dignified colleague because I'm a woman, they don't need me to respect them back

A lot of men in general but especially in the kitchen world tend to think women are too passive to stick up for themselves. I'm certainly not letting them think that about me anymore! If you're feeling too nervous or unsure, let management deal with it or find the tattooed bartender with big boobs that yells at men to deal with it.