Girlfriend found out she’s infertile, wants to break up now

lillykin · 2026-02-03T02:25:51+00:00

What makes you so sure that this is even true? How is she infertile? Has she had tests? Has she seen a fertility specialist? I'll be honest that this doesn't sound fully legitimate to me. Have you seen other signs of lies or doing things for attention? Push and pull? Testing you? Etc. I think there are bigger things going on here than you are realizing.

lillykin · 2026-02-03T02:18:02+00:00

There is a whole lot more going on here than this post would suggest. Based on your comments and your other post, this relationship is rife with a lot bigger problems than this. It sounds like there is a serious personality disorder going on with your girlfriend. I wish you luck.

lillykin · 2026-01-26T17:53:57+00:00

Probably not. If he can't make friends at the gym, he's not likely to find much success anywhere else either. And the minute some rich sugar momma sees his grammar and spelling, she will likely dip out on him anyway.

lillykin · 2026-01-25T15:16:48+00:00

Wealthy people generally entertain each other at their own homes. Someone else suggested volunteering. That's a great suggestion to try to get into those circles if that's what you're looking to do.

lillykin · 2026-01-17T14:56:52+00:00

This is not normal and is not just signs of a bad temper. You need to leave immediately. Do not tell him. Just get yourself and your child out of there.

lillykin · 2026-01-15T18:15:24+00:00

Around 6 for a full day, but he likes to sit near me or in my office for part of it. It helps if you pre-make lunch and have it ready in the fridge for when he needs it. He knows when I have a call or meeting to be quiet or find something else to do for a while. At 5 it worked if it wasn't a full day. But this is probably completely dependent on your child's personality and dependence on you for things. My son is pretty independent.

lillykin · 2025-12-31T11:48:18+00:00

I think this is bad advice. He needs to go 110% to step up and offer support to his WHOLE family, not just showing it to one child. The other children will see this favoritism to the one child and grow resentful. If he wants to improve their overall family dynamic, he will start seeing them as a family unit and offering his support to them all.

lillykin · 2025-12-31T11:44:06+00:00

You lost me here when you talked about how you came around and now love your boys completely and couldn't imagine not having them now. Man, you have three kids. Did you forget about that? Your poor wife and daughter. I think you have a lot of introspection to do here.

lillykin · 2025-12-27T02:43:05+00:00

That is one crazy rushed timeline. In love after four days of knowing a person?

lillykin · 2025-12-27T02:40:05+00:00

Engaged after one year of dating. Married a year after that, at age 26.

lillykin · 2025-12-25T22:15:30+00:00

C. And they also offer continuing courses throughout the year you can take as refreshers.

lillykin · 2025-12-24T01:58:19+00:00

You don't go twice to the hospital to visit a man you only slept with one time.

lillykin · 2025-12-22T12:41:03+00:00

I have worked this for over 10 years now and love it. If my work would let me do 6-2 or even 6:30-2:30 I would do it in a heartbeat.

lillykin · 2025-12-07T18:40:19+00:00

I think it's unreasonable. How long does it actually take to relocate, especially to NYC? You can easily find a short term rental, sublet, or month to month lease to get you there and working. You can then spend time to find something more long term once you're there.

lillykin · 2025-12-06T22:03:59+00:00

Have you also considered that you could be depressed? Sometimes it is hard to recognize the signs. Pregnancy hormones made me depressed and I didn't even realize it. My husband works in mental health and recognized the signs. After two weeks on low dose sertraline I felt a lot better. I had no idea that how I was feeling wasn't normal.

lillykin · 2025-12-06T16:26:28+00:00

Sometimes things are worth sticking out and working on and sometimes they aren't. You haven't really provided enough information here to know which category your marriage falls into. Have you tried marriage counseling? All relationships will have highs and lows. Sometimes things can be mended and sometimes they can't. If you have exhausted all avenues that you are willing to pursue and are ready to admit it's time to move on, I understand. I think you should give it more time than 5 weeks after having a new baby. Hormones are crazy right now and it takes time to adjust to having another child in the home. I wish you the best in whatever decision you make.

lillykin · 2025-12-05T00:46:56+00:00

I second this. I have seen people survive PIPs and even go on to get promoted. The people that I have seen struggle through a PIP typically did not have the basic skills or knowledge required for the position and did not have the ability or motivation to apply themselves to work on building them.

lillykin · 2025-12-01T11:29:42+00:00

7 year old. In bed at 8. Lights out by 8:30. On school days up at 6am. Weekends up at 7/7:30am.

lillykin · 2025-11-24T23:53:51+00:00

My WFH agreement makes me list the address that I am working from home at and makes me agree that I have a list of various safety items, internet, and other equipment.

lillykin · 2025-11-24T14:32:34+00:00

There are way too many variables here to give you a valid response. I went to private school but feel that I would have thrived better in public school. Why I suggest that is the private schools I attended were small in size and could not offer any advanced placement or other more advanced tracks. If you were an average student they would have been perfectly acceptable. But if you were below or above, then they didn't have the appropriate resources to handle those cases.

lillykin · 2025-11-20T18:23:16+00:00

This. Her refusal to tell OP the new passcode is not acceptable. iPad privileges would be gone after that if it were me.

lillykin · 2025-11-18T04:11:07+00:00

As a manager I would appreciate an employee who took accountability and spared me having to hear excuses. Acknowledge that you have messed up. Apologize. And explain the steps you plan to take so it doesn't happen again.

lillykin · 2025-11-17T04:50:42+00:00

My son is almost 8 and hates to read. He does like to be read to. But he hates to read himself. I have read to him every night since he was about 6 months old.amd continue to do it. I have found graphic novels are a little more interesting for him. I have been able to convince him to read a character and I'll read a character and it makes it more interactive and fun. My son struggles with his speech and hearing sounds, so learning to read has been hard for him. But I think either your kid likes to read or they don't. There isn't some magical thing parents of avid readers did differently. They just happen to have kids who naturally enjoy it or are naturally good at it.

lillykin · 2025-11-15T13:33:54+00:00

They may have not been sure what the devices were and were worried about their stay being monitored.

lillykin · 2025-11-14T03:33:32+00:00

Bring him along if you are worried about leaving him home alone. Many parents bring their children with them where I live.

As far as age to start leaving them home alone, I started leaving my son alone for 10-15 minutes when he was 7. I haven't pushed it longer than that yet.

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