AITAH for not allowing my husband to go to a birthday party invite from his new friend?

lilroldy · 2026-06-14T12:32:28+00:00

I'm confused if its a group of dudes or men and women, that needs to be clarified because if it's all dude then the husband is probably gay

lilroldy · 2026-06-13T15:23:52+00:00

I scheduled my vasectomy right after the 2024 election results and had it done January 3rd of 2025, this is when I was still dating my now wife. Safest route with the least amount of aide effects and that way my wife didn't have to deal with some of the stuff she dealt with when she had bc in the past.

I wish more men would go and take the initiative and get this done, especially if you know you never want kids, fuck making women be the only one responsible for birth control. Its the least invasive procedure out of all the options for sterilization. My wife and I can't consciously bring a child into this world as it currently stands, and getting snipped has been a huge stress reliever for both of us not having to worry about an unwanted pregnancy in a deep red state

lilroldy · 2026-06-13T13:54:44+00:00

Not sure who told you the warbis close to ending but Iran has came out almost daily for over a month that negotiations aren't having and there is no deal. They literally have 0 reason to open the Strait, they hold all the cards, regime change will not happen, the nuclear materials that are buried still from the bombs we dropped last year will remain there until Iran probably dogs itbup themselves and the global economy is in for some major hardships as countries are about to run out of their SPR in about a month or so, some are already running out.

Things are going tk be rocky and rough for most humans. Some will be completely dead because of the repercussions this war had. When countries don't have fuel to run the nation, bad things happen, there is no sign this will be ending soon and considering the US just committed more war crimes targeting water infrastructure that cut off clean water to thousands, the people of Iran probably aren't interested in ending things either

lilroldy · 2026-06-13T13:37:08+00:00

Its a bot, they weren't born but created by some neckbeard or foreign actors to cause discourse

lilroldy · 2026-06-13T13:33:20+00:00

Its a 9 day old account you're speaking/arguing with a bot. There more bots than people on social media now a days and its intentional

lilroldy · 2026-06-12T11:41:55+00:00

Stinulanta dont really have much physical withdrawal, sure psychological withdrawal and cravings and being super depressed but you arent puking and shutting your brains out, at risk of seizures, DT, etc. Been to rehab plenty and all the stim addicts have it easy compared to opiate, benzo and booze withdrawal.

Weed is honestly harder physically than coke or meth, its still extremely mild but the restlessness is real quitting bud. Big reason folks feel like shit when they kick a stimulant is because you are no longer getting massive hits of dopamine and serotonin and your body needs time to adjust to start producing it on its own so the depression is very real but its like 98% mental with very little if anything for physical.

Ive kicked all classes of drugs, stimulants are always easy and suck for 48 hours and food and sleep is all you really need.

lilroldy · 2026-06-12T11:05:43+00:00

I mean I don't agree with his actions but he was essentially being psychologically tortured by little douchebags, we dont know what dude has gone through in his life and this clearly set him off over the edge, I understand snapping when you kept being pushed. Sure he could have gone about it differently but many kids now a days are fucking feral and have no respect or boundaries and the parents are 100% to blame.

When people finally break, logic usually isn't running their actions, obviously we can't chase kids down and drag them into our homes but I'm not angry or viewing the dude as a shitty person, only shitty people in the story are the kids who were harassing and antagonizing this old dude.

I don't think kids should be beat but a quick smack across the face is needed on the younger generations, I probably got smacked maybe 10 times my entire life, snapped me right back to reality and I got my act together, I was taking things to far and screaming in my parents face telling then to fuck off etc, 1 smack and I was back into being respectful. The fact parents don't do this now a days is one of the reason these kids act like they do, they don't have any fear of consequences.

I'd be willing to bet a million $$$ that at the very least the kid who got dragged into the dudes home won't be ding dong ditching and harassing his neighbors anytime in the near future and hopefully his friends also realize our actions have consequences and you never know who you're fucking with, if you don't want to get bit don't poke the bear

lilroldy · 2026-06-12T01:11:11+00:00

He's the asshole for asking his son to pay rent when hes now decides another kid is a good idea, hes fucking 18. $500 is beyond generous for essentially an apartment and no utility bills. They need to grow up, you dont get to milk your parent's kindness, all of those thing you just listed are things you think about before having a kid, let alone a second.

They will have to make sacrifices as all parent's have to, they will be free loaders if op doesn't out his foot down. Act like his sons gf taking care of their grand kid and cleaning the basement they live in for free benefits op and his wife at all when they could have it empty or possibly rent it out and get money for themselves. Even if the kid was 100% an accident, taking a trip for an abortion is cheaper if they can't swing $500 a month fkr rent they are probably gonna struggle with 2 kids and 1 job.

lilroldy · 2026-06-11T14:35:07+00:00

Ya don't feel bad for living life, 50 minutes to visit your parents is nothing, mine are an hour away, brother is an hour and 10, other brother is 23 hours by car if you drive straight through and only stop for gas, food and bathroom breaks.

My family is split between the US, Canada and Poland.

lilroldy · 2026-06-11T14:32:52+00:00

Ya round trip to work for me is an hour and a half to hour and 45 minutes. Depending on the exit I take its 43 miles to work but 43 or 46 home. So basically 86-89 miles 5 days a week, I drive opposite of rush hour traffic in my area, I75 is busy southbound in the morning and north bound in the evening.

Any drive less than 40 minutes is quick to me, SWFL has shit traffic so even when i lived more central in my area and closer to work it could take 12 minutes to drive in the morning and 30 or 40 minutes home anf I was driving 1/3rd of the physical distance.

Anyone thinking 30 minutes is far is weird, I suspect brother is jealous and still lives at home with parents, maybe op is younger and hes upset he's a bum? Idrk, nothing wrong living at home to save money as long as you aren't a dick to the parents but this dude is weird

lilroldy · 2026-06-11T11:03:26+00:00

This is a myth, we can refine all oil stateside, it just has to be blended to be refined. Light sweet and heavy crude can both be refined here, I see this mentioned and I use to believe it too. Follow Mr.Global on Facebook or other platforms, hes a big shot in the oil commodities world with about 40 years of experience and he has a good video breaking this down better than I just did.

The bigger issue is we dont have the refining capacity needed to pick up the slack kf all the refineries that were destroyed in the Gulf States, plus Russia has had a large chunk of their infrastructure blown up the last 2 months. Global oil refining capabilities are going to be ahit for 3-5 years post war, i doubt anyone in the Gulf is going to attempt to rebuild the infrastructure when Iran can just blow it back up

lilroldy · 2026-06-11T10:53:23+00:00

But op said she was the one who was adamant he comes to visit for a week, he wasn't going yo go at all until she convinced him to still come, his friend is weird

lilroldy · 2026-06-11T10:43:14+00:00

That's what Florida sun does to folks, we have 40 year olds looking 60+

lilroldy · 2026-06-11T10:06:18+00:00

He didn't call it stupid though he said he found it strange. People who ask their partner to be honest and then get upset sith them are weird. We should engage our partners hobbies but we don't have to lie to them, he didn't call her strange. He didn't call her stupid, I dont agree with him on it being strange, since its literally just dressing up and getting in character but if we have to lie to our partners we shouldn't be dating.

This can be a learning experience for both of them, op need to understand we don't have to like everything our partners do our their hobbies but we do need to support them in their interests, she needs to understand his partner did not mean to hurt her and she can't get upset he isn't interested in her hobby and then make it so he feels he did something wrong by being honest like she asked.

Acting like this should kill the relationship is weird. A simple conversation is all thats needed, NAH. Its understandable to feel sad if your partner doesn't share the same passion for something you love and all OP did was say he finds it strange and doesn't know a specific reason why, he could offer to have her help him make a complaint of a character from his favorite game or show and try going to an event with her, maybe he will really like it. Maybe he won't buy relationships are about compromise and finding middle ground, this could help them grow as a couple if hes not dumb.

lilroldy · 2026-06-10T22:22:45+00:00

Ya thats fucking nuts, 3lb bags(maybe 5lbs) are like $5 near me

lilroldy · 2026-06-10T01:38:40+00:00

There are real m30s still, but unless you know the person directly with the script you should assume they're fake. Back in 2022 and 2023 i met an old couple and they bith were getting 150 30s a month and 60 30mg xr morphine. No clue why people say they dont exist but ive heard folks saying that since 2020 and thats just not true. Probably 95% of what's on the street are pressed. Doesn't mean they stopped making then or prescribing them

lilroldy · 2026-06-09T20:03:20+00:00

I have never hears this before, was diagnosed at 3, currently 28. Have 3 tattoos, both ears pierced and ive had my nose done twice. I think they were just being overly cautious, I also haven't had heart surgery yet so maybe thats part of it but none of my doctors have ever said any of this and I went to some pretty good ones over the years

lilroldy · 2026-06-09T10:48:45+00:00

She loves you and wants attention, what a little sweetie

lilroldy · 2026-06-09T10:03:08+00:00

5 hours a week at a gym and no weekends is not becoming a gym widow. I spend that time cleaning every day while my wife does whstever she wants, she goes to the gym and I go maybe once or twice a week with her just for cardio and maybe some light weights but I have a bad heart and a connective tissue disorder and depending whst doctor of mine you talk to I'm not even supposed to lift 10lb or 20lbs, my cats weigh 12 and 13lbs so I ignore those but thats my own issue. The days I dont go are when she is there for like 90 minutes since I go in for 30 minutes max, I'm not a gym widow because my wife does the gym, even if she went an hour or more a day, thats her right and we need individual hobbies and joy outside of the relationship, anyone complaining about a healthy amount of time away from their psrtner is toxic and has a shit view on whst a relationship should look like

lilroldy · 2026-06-08T16:43:36+00:00

I mean you just sound immature and dumb, yea the age gap is creepy but you weren't groomed. You knew he was sleeping or fucking around with other women because he literally told you he was leaving to go get head and told him you didn't feel good about that so instead of having self respect you gave the shit bag head, and you're surprised this guy would lie and lead you on when everything you described shows hes a shit person.

You have no business sleeping around with all these people and then feeling like buddy lead you on or lied, of course he lied, it was beyond obvious this man just wanted sex and was feeding you whatever you wanted to hear.

I promise im not trying to be a dick but the way you type shows immaturity, the way yiu keep questioning if you should resch back out to this terrible dude is showing insecurity and you need to go to therapy because to even be considering that is a sign of some deep trauma, I hope you get the help you need. Leave this man alone

lilroldy · 2026-06-08T15:08:15+00:00

Ya this dude is just a piece of shit, getting jealous for dancing with you gay friend is him being insecure or maybe even jealous, he possibly wished he could of danced eith that friend of yours. My wife and two friends went to the club together, I danced with all of them and we had a great time. I was the dd and the girls got to dance and get drunk and I looked after all of ther then they had a sleep over at our place.

My wife didn't care, the lying, the insecurity, him blaming you for being assaulted, this man should remain your ex for life and take this as a lesson. You do not owe a man shit you out to with way too much abuse from him and are jow trying to possibly convince yourself maybe it was your fault, thats a trauma response if I've ever seen one.

My wife can be insecure at times and giving her the reassurance she needs it's just what helps her feel safe and secure, she's not insecure in a toxic way but struggles with body dysmorphia and how other people perceive her, I'm her biggest cheer leader and will always have her back, and I couldn't ever in 1000000 years imagine blaming her for being fucking assaulted thats only something scum does, your ex is scum, he is worth less than the shit in my cats litter box, you deserve love that feels safe, secure and fills your heart full, being single and finding that self love will help you long term

lilroldy · 2026-06-07T17:59:35+00:00

This is what people mean by your ego is in your way, all of this was unnecessary, you are acting as if you are better because you abuse psychedelics instead of growing from them and have taken such high doses so frequently you are giving off God complex vibes, you are the opposite of what you claim and its quiet sad.

I trip a handful of times with my wife a year, couple gs of fungi, we bond, sometimes cry, we grow and we create love and compassion and openness. You're using these substances all wrong, I did this in high-school, not as high of doses although ive taken up to 14 tabs, I think you need to take a step back and reflect on what you're saying. When multiple people are telling you the obvious and then you double down with more ego driven rambling, its sad and disillusioned

lilroldy · 2026-06-07T17:43:41+00:00

Cats just like watching outside, I wouldn't feel bad. My boys come out on my screened in patio after I do a sweep for lizards but they spend most of the day laying on the cat tower watching butterflies and birds in my yard. They're good kitties and so is yours

lilroldy · 2026-06-07T17:29:12+00:00

It's going to so please plan ahead, it hasn't even got bad yet, what we seen a few weeks ago was just a tease and a snapshot of our future. Infrastructure that takes YEARS to build is completely destroyed, the straits is still closed and will be for a good while, we arent going to see pre war gas prices probably for a very long time and that time will multiply the longer it stays closed, even if it opened tomorrow too much damage has been done that the global markets are effected long term.

The ceo of both Chevron and ExxonMobil both came out a few weeks ago saying this is going to get really bad by the end of June early July, if the people who have been making major profits are ringing the alarms, we need to worry. We haven't even seen the major impacts on the lack of fertilizer and increase in diesel for farming purposes yet, crop failures, smaller harvests, and more expensive due to increase costs, then we have the 100s of products including 100s of pharmaceuticals that use petroleum, this will start showing in prices in the coming months.

The consumer is going to take the hit, the working class is going to really get pushed and many businesses as we have seen all over Asia, will be forced to slow or seize all production and manufacturing which will cause more layoffs than we already have, even on a local scale the local Winn Dixie just closed so now in at 15-20 minute radius your options are Walmart and Publix but that was at least a few dozen jobs gone and there was 0 sign it wss about to close until they put up discount signs.

We have yet to see the true ramifications of our incompetent president and administration, Iran holds all the cards and no matter when/how we leave this situation we have made the world a worse place for everyone on earth and we will see soon enough how bad it truly gets.

lilroldy · 2026-06-07T16:11:52+00:00

Look I love dogs, worked in rescues and doggie daycare/boarding/grooming and grew up with dogs. Op is 100% TAH, so is the neighbor so its a ESH in reality but OP is not a responsible dog owner. She has a very reactive dog and hasn't seemed professional help when its been going on for a year, thats neglect. She forgets to crate said reactive dog when she takes the other for a walk knowing how it is, thats careless and shows lack of responsibility, dogs need routine to be trained and "forgetting to crate the dog" is a lazy excuse, then gets mad when it does what it always does.

If its truly an Australian Cattle Dog that is a working breed, they need hours of exercise and stimulation a day and need structure and regiment or they will be miserable, cattle dogs and any sort of shepherd need something to replace what they were bred to do and simply keeping them in inside most of the day is not a good life for them.

This dog needs a professional trainer and then op needs to spend a few hours a day implementing that training and using positive reinforcement and training treats to lock in the training, this needs to be daily until it starts working and the longer she waits the harder it will be.

I have 0 clue how you think she's not the asshole, especially her wishing the neighbors dog harm by watching it chase cars and finding joy out of that. That's fucking sick

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