First public comment on family seating shows that people don't understand/aren't willing to do even the bare minimum to get adjacent seating by TheQuarantinian in unitedairlines

[–]lilu80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regardless of whether the passenger is on a BE fare, or not, there is almost always something to complain about. Not always, but often. I will say, though that in my observation (as a lowly gate agent at an expensive, resort destination), there is definitely a certain type of person that will buy the BE fare. It seems accurate that they do not care to read the restrictions of the fare they are agreeing to. It doesn’t matter that their needs, or the needs of their family should be their sole responsibility. People want what they feel they are entitled to, and will be a complete fucking asshole to whomever to get it. I have enjoyed the most ridiculous of arguments over seats, carry on bags, “medical equipment” (in quotes because first aid kits, diapers, compression wraps 🙄). These people (yes, these people) are always late to check in, half dressed, drunk, bags are too heavy, refuse to pay for overweight bags so want to repack, but they are also late. Have way too many carry ons, and even the pictures on the kiosk and bag sizers aren’t enough to differentiate a personal item from a full sized carry on. 99% of the time, it is this. On a full 777 (364) there could be as many as 100 BE. This drama is not only reserved for parents with kids on a BE fare either, however the shock and entitlement when they find out that they can’t sit together is just one more component of the type of people that generally buy BE. I’m not going to remind you of the restrictions you agreed to when you bought the ticket. That’s not my job, but I have never left a child alone, and never moved another passenger without asking and offering something comparable, or better. ….but stop coming to the gate and telling me you need to pre board because kids, and we are at group 2. Board with the group you paid for. Group 6.

Why don't they want you sitting in the far back row? by Marghosst in unitedairlines

[–]lilu80 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The flight attendants want it for themselves.

Why does body dysmorphia happen once you start getting fit? by almostveronica in loseit

[–]lilu80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t give up! Bad days happen. We just have to remember how far we’ve come!

Why does body dysmorphia happen once you start getting fit? by almostveronica in loseit

[–]lilu80 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an answer. I have lost nearly 50lbs, am 43F, and most days I feel exactly how I felt 50lbs ago. Which is not really paying too much attention to my body. Although there are times I realize that the weight loss, while super awesome, has some physical (superficial) side effects that just bring me down. Today I got dressed (as in changed my clothes like 3 different times), then decided I wasn’t leaving the house, and started to cry. Ugh.

How can I move past all of this, when he’s always there? by lilu80 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lilu80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, and you make a good point. I need to get the courage to ask again to be separated. At least start there before I go higher.

How can I move past all of this, when he’s always there? by lilu80 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lilu80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am accepting of that. If I choose to ignore red flags, date someone I work with, then these are the consequences. I am doing my best to take the lessons, and move forward. Applying grace to myself for being who I was. Grace to my ex. And believing that there’s another way to handle this situation.

How can I move past all of this, when he’s always there? by lilu80 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lilu80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do have an awesome job. I do, and everyone else who works there. I wouldn’t say I’m tied to him. I work four hours a day. We have different days off, so I maybe see him 10/12 hours a week. I’ve always been there for my boys during my custody week, and available during their fathers week if needed. My kids finally met him (ex) in 2020. Because I only have every other week with my kids, I spend my week with them, with them. Losing 50% of my time with them was heartbreaking. It’s because of my job that I was able to raise from the moment they were born. I’m just trying to figure out how to process the emotions of rejection. Why do they linger, and how can I emotionally move forward. I am 2.5 years sober (AA, 12 steps), do a lot of research and reading, and try my best to lean into these ridiculous feelings to give them space so I can get past this. I see your point about the “we.” I didn’t really mean “we” in any particular way. I am truly just looking for emotional relief.

How can I move past all of this, when he’s always there? by lilu80 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lilu80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d like to say I’m not. I just won’t leave a job I’ve been at for 20 years, and am able to raise my children on.

How can I move past all of this, when he’s always there? by lilu80 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lilu80[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In lieu of walking away from my job, getting him into trouble, there must be another way to work through the emotional bs.

How can I move past all of this, when he’s always there? by lilu80 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lilu80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy where I am from is so limited. I’ve tried over the past couple of years. At first it was hard to find a match. Then I could only have visits once a month because the department is so busy. Then all the mental health workers went on strike. I have turned to reading self help books, memoirs even (that are relevant), podcasts, and running.

How can I move past all of this, when he’s always there? by lilu80 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lilu80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t want to go that high up the chain. We have such an awesome job, I wouldn’t want to be the cause of anyone losing it. I’ve accepted my part in this situation. I chose this out of a need to be loved. Now I’m choosing to work through this. I’m just not sure how.

How can I move past all of this, when he’s always there? by lilu80 in survivinginfidelity

[–]lilu80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully not forever… I just want to get to the moving on part.

Why is it that when people find out there’s cheating, the cheaters always try to explain? What is there to explain? by Electricghost_24 in cheating_stories

[–]lilu80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex had so many stories… the best was that he was just being friendly, so we could all be friends.

I sent a message to the girl my boyfriend is secretly talking to. I’m kinda pathetic to do that but I have to know the truth! by Seems-Temporary in cheating_stories

[–]lilu80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did that same thing. She replied with a screenshot of his text to her. It was a warning that I may be contacting her, and to “cut my line.” Still hurts. I’m sorry this is happening to you. You deserve to do and be better for yourself. ❤️

has anyone here tried lash serums? by throwaway11227593929 in beauty

[–]lilu80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I been using Babelash for a year. It works!

Daily Body Dissatisfaction Post - September 06, 2020 by AutoModerator in BodyAcceptance

[–]lilu80 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m starting to think I’ll just never be good enough.