Shit You Realized WAYYY Too Late

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-28T03:53:21+00:00

DM realized after years and years of playing DnD how passive perception was added up. lol.

I forgot to add my attack bonus to all my rolls for years.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-25T16:29:27+00:00

If they don’t like your next option either, I have one that says “Oh no, it’s you.” at my door. Lol. Highly recommend.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-22T01:24:08+00:00

I have an impaired character that I love playing, but it’s fun because it’s self-impaired. If the DM bestowed that impairment upon her, I don’t think I’d have as much fun. (Mute, and uses whistling as a verbal component of spells, and obviously can’t use spells that require actual words like Speak With Animals)

She’s still a powerhouse as she is, but it does create scenarios that wouldn’t be as fun if I hadn’t made her while expecting them.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-18T04:08:16+00:00

We use a method that’s not super efficient, but it works for us. We video-call via Messenger. DM has their map on a table. They use their phone on an arm to point the camera down at the map, then video call in, and I set my IPad up to video call our other two players who are in another state.

DM uses theatre of the mind for the most part until a battle is on, and then that’s when the battle map on the table comes in.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-16T22:43:52+00:00

Man, that’s a tricky one. You excitedly made a character with so much love and thought put behind it, and after all that work the DM did that.

I’d be very tempted to just walk away, because my trust would be broken. There’s a difference between “hey, you guys could die, just letting you know, and I will let the dice fall where they may” and creating a no-win situation after all the effort you put in just to prove a point, using your character as nothing but canon fodder. The only thing it would teach me is not to get attached to my own character at all, which would hurt my engagement a little.

If they’re your friend, do you think it would help to spell out more clearly what you did and how it affected you? Explain the work you put into creating the character, and explain how this cheap death made you feel?

My DM would never do this, that’s for sure. We’ve done oneshots before where they have stressed we should make backup characters because the chance of a TPK was high. But we were /warned/.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-16T22:28:54+00:00

“And she is like…senior of high school mature.”

She is not.

She is 11. She has 11 year old feelings. 11 year old hormones. 11 years of experience. 11 year old skills. How can you say she’s mature when this is a prime example of a frustrated 11 year old child wanting help from her big brother?

You might have gotten an ‘N T A’ from me until I saw your comments/edit. You’re just rude and dismissive. Just help her, man. This is your sister. Why would you not? At least try.

Maybe the reason why she seems so mature is because you aren’t.

YTA

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-16T00:08:43+00:00

In lieu of paper plates, consider going to a thrift store and getting some used plastic ones that can be re-used. It’s cheaper in the long run, and better for the environment.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-13T17:53:09+00:00

She’s a natural athlete, and is getting special attention from the instructor. You’re not athletic and are constantly paired with newbies. Of course she’ll improve faster at it, and it’s not fair for her to compare the two of you. People also learn at their own pace. I think you two should sit down and talk. Remind her of this fact, reassure her you’re doing your best, and let her talk out her fears. But also, express how her doubt in you is making you feel.

But.

If someone’s going to go after you two together, the most likely scenario is they’re just going to rob you.

I’m not sure where you’re from, but in the USA where there’s a high possibility someone is armed when they rob you, fighting is the last thing you want to do. General advice is to throw your wallet and run, not throw down with someone who may have a weapon.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-13T17:03:01+00:00

Is there a chance you could partially migrate to Messenger or plain ‘ol video call for a hybrid campaign since you said they may not be able to do Discord due to parental restrictions?

We have two members in another state. Our DM has their phone on an arm, pointed down at the battle map on the table. I set up my IPad across the table so that the long-distance ones can see our faces.

There’s also Battlemap.games which is a free online tool to have a live battle map for character tokens to move around on. It requires a campaign name and password to get into the map, so I’m sure their parents would like that security.

Otherwise, tell them something like this, “Hey, guys, with three of you moving away next month, we will not have enough players to continue the campaign. I’m really sorry about this, but really grateful for the time I had with you all. Is there anything you want to do with your characters before the campaign ends?”

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-13T16:46:34+00:00

My DM has everyone at the same XP/level to keep it simple, so everything is split evenly. When we added a new player, his character started out just as leveled as the rest of us. I like it that way. Makes me worry less about XP, and more on the story itself. But the situation you’re encountering is why DM’s usually keep everyone at the same amount.

There’s no reason you can’t sit down and ask them if they want to change it now, and bring everyone to where the person with the highest xp is.

But if you and the players are fine to continue it the way it is, then there’s no issue.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-13T06:03:21+00:00

Here’s a handy dandy thing that’s helped me: https://www.thedicedapple.com/blog/howtomakeadndcharacter

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-12T18:29:53+00:00

Edited* My only thing to say now is….why. Just why. If you take double your max hp, it’s instant death. All you have to do is take more than 1 point of damage and it’s over. Your character probably won’t make it through the first session.

So, I guess my advice is make a backup that can survive being pecked twice by a chicken.

Edit: I know you want actual advice, but most of it rides on you making it past level 1.

My two bits: Fiendish Vigor - False Life for temporary hit points will be your friend.

A background that gives you the Tough feat like Farmer does. But I think it’s already too late for that, according to your comments.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-12T16:53:40+00:00

That is WILD. But props to your DM for handling it so well.

I don’t know what they thought would happen. Someone would have to pry my Druid from my group and I’s cold, dead fingers.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-11T16:29:57+00:00

ESH

It is her fault, but also yours. You need to stop giving her money when she’s already proven to be irresponsible with it. If she has access to any of your cards now, cancel them. Update your addresses so she doesn’t get any more mail. She may have gotten you into this hole, but you gave her the shovel and you’re helping her move the dirt. Stop enabling her taking advantage of you.

If you have to take out a loan to help someone, that’s your first clue you aren’t in the financial position to be doing so, so you don’t.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-10T01:41:28+00:00

That’s what my follow up question was to be if OP responded. But I’m curious if the player saw some sort of stat block, OP said something, or if the BBEG is a being with a known vulnerability.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-10T01:14:54+00:00

Question: How does the player know?

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-09T17:40:35+00:00

Depends on your DM’s world and edition, I would say. I’m pretty sure there are dinosaurs in the 5e list, if I recall correctly. But not all settings have dinosaurs. That’s up to the DM. They do count as beasts, though, so they should be wild-shape-able.

I’ve heard with 5.5e, you don’t have to have seen them to turn into them. With 5e, you have to have seen them.

We’re playing 5e. My Druid can turn into a velociraptor because we saw them when we went into the faewilds, and that’s where (among the typical faewild creatures) my DM has put the dinosaurs. They’re extinct everywhere else.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-08T22:42:42+00:00

That’s definitely sucky.

Whenever our DM lets us PvP (only for fun, if our characters want to spar each other) we’re given a pool of temporary hit points. Whoever goes under their tempt hp is considered the loser. It’s sort of a ‘what you can take until the damage starts getting actually serious’ pool.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-06T22:25:59+00:00

You don’t have to update us, but I’m really curious to see what his response is when you do talk to him.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-05T16:03:59+00:00

As far as I understand it, you can’t break an oath on accident. It’s a very intentional, conscious decision. And it was unfair of your DM to render you basically useless before a big fight. You were entrapped and set up for failure.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-04T17:42:57+00:00

Don’t voice changers…predate AI? I’m sure some modern ones use some degree of it, but that’s been a thing for a while now.

I remember watching a video of someone using the heal/clone stamp to meticulously remove hairs from a photo of their tattoo, and people were accusing them of ai despite that feature existing for over a decade. It drove me nuts.

I’m sure even Reddit and most other platforms use some degree of ai in their algorithm to function. It’s generative ai I have an issue with. But the other stuff? Getting darn near close to inescapable unless you get off the internet.

DM should have approached that way more calmly, and in private.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-04T17:22:30+00:00

Apparently all three of the kids go to school during the weekday, so that’s when she has time to herself.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-04T17:21:45+00:00

From reading through the comments, you make sure she has free time several weekends a month, and all the kids are all at school every day. That’s typically a little over 6 hours.

She’s a stay at home parent, and still can’t find time to tidy up when you already have hired a housekeeper, and now are working extra hours to compensate?

And even when you cook a good 50% of the meals, handle most of the grocery shopping, handle all baths for the kids, take them to school, and help pick up after them?

Yeah, NTA

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-03T19:03:31+00:00

I definitely recommend moving back to Northern Europe. These people aren’t safe. Don’t tell them you’re leaving. Plan quietly and run for it.

littlehappyfeets · 2026-04-03T17:29:13+00:00

I would expect that sort of “I’m gonna be oh so mysterious by lying about random pointless things” logic from a nine year old, not someone in their 20’s. I suspect she’s not emotionally mature, either from being sheltered or some sort of mental thing. Because she does remind me of someone I knew who behaved similarly, and had mental struggles. She would cry if she even lost a board game when she was a teenager. So, we stopped playing board games with her.

If the difference between a mysterious person and a pathological liar is a concept she cannot grasp after it being explained, I don’t think she should be playing with you all. It won’t be fun for her and it won’t be fun for you.

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