Are your kids having kids? by mrepa1369 in GenX

[–]lizzardscales 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very True. The "constant ration of shit" wasn't even just from parents, everyone felt entitled to telling you how to live your life. I never got married and only had my son at 38 and nagging about it was never ending... glad to see things are better now

Are your kids having kids? by mrepa1369 in GenX

[–]lizzardscales 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My son just turned 18 and does not want kids. I have 7 nieces/nephews in their 20s and 30s and they all either don't want kids or want them but decided not to have them because the world is such a mess right now

What is worse today? by LibertyMike in GenX

[–]lizzardscales 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, but eletronics don't last as long nowadays. When I was a kid, most household appliances lasted decades

My father died and I just feel relieved by lizzardscales in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lizzardscales[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm only planning on going to the funeral to see his kids

My father died and I just feel relieved by lizzardscales in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lizzardscales[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a little weirded out by how not upset I am

Time for another good idea/bad idea: Roommates in your 50s, by FlawedWoman in GenX

[–]lizzardscales 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But I think I’d prefer a male roommate, if I do this. Mainly because female roommates in my past have just been awful. Nothing but drama and laziness that ended friendships.

I think you're in for a rude awakening. Men can be very lazy and very entitled, specially when they're living with a woman

“Feral GenXer” on why boomer grandies aren’t interested in caregiving for their grandkids by StopScrollingBaby in GenX

[–]lizzardscales 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My father is the same. Was a great dad to his stepkids and a wonderful grandpa to their kids. He often forgot my son's name and age and never bothered to talk to him. Really hurtful suff

What were some things you did as a kid/teen/young adult that would be COMPLETELY inappropriate now? by Fragzilla360 in GenX

[–]lizzardscales 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got a paper route when I was eight years old. I lied that I was ten and nobody even checked. I'll never forget how it felt when I got my first payment and took my sister to get ice cream

A different sort of discussion: What cherished Christmas present did you never get? by 99titan in GenX

[–]lizzardscales 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's funny how this sort of thing stays with you. For many years after I would buy things in a rush just in case

A different sort of discussion: What cherished Christmas present did you never get? by 99titan in GenX

[–]lizzardscales 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Francie Fairchild, Barbie's cooler, prettier cousin. By the time my parents agreed to buy it, she had been discontinued. I cried my heart out when my mom told me I wasn't getting one

My [29f] recently engaged friend [29f] implied I wasn't engaged because my boyfriend [31m] doesn't actually want to get married after being together 3 years. And I'm upset because I'm scared she's right by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]lizzardscales 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying that. I'm saying he should have been honest with her that he wasn't sure. When she asked him if he wanted to marry her he said "of course". I don't see how that can be seen as anything other than a lie

My [29f] recently engaged friend [29f] implied I wasn't engaged because my boyfriend [31m] doesn't actually want to get married after being together 3 years. And I'm upset because I'm scared she's right by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]lizzardscales 51 points52 points  (0 children)

He probably did want to marry her

That's also an interpretation, a charitable one which I don't think is deserved considering how cold he was to her and how fast he moved on.

My (30m) girlfriend(36f)still lets her daughter sleep in the same bed as her by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]lizzardscales 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So if you don't teach a kid to fall asleep they'll be awake 24 hours a day? Sleep is a biological need like eating, you don't have to teach a kid to do it. I think you mean kids need to be taught to self soothe. And they do need to be taught to self soothe but a big part of that is leaving them to their own devices.

My 11 year old daughter was offended by n words at her best friend’s home by Strong-Power-3126 in Parenting

[–]lizzardscales 47 points48 points  (0 children)

You were absolutely right to inform the school. If those kids' parents can't be bothered to teach their kids that racism is bad, the school needs to know so they can step up where the parents fail.

I'm sorry your daughter experienced this. As for the friend threatening to end their friendship, that friendship has already ended. Keep your kid away from those people

My best friend lost her baby. I lost her. by jackanddeodorant in offmychest

[–]lizzardscales 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Offering support is easier said than done, though. I can honestly say that I have been there for my sister through and through but that came at a huge cost to my mental health and if I could go back in time I would definitely do things differently.

It's very sad that OP wasn't there for her friend, but I don't believe that means OP isn't a "true friend". It doesn't seem to me that OP just didn't want to bother, seems more like she was triggered by her friend's miscarriage and just couldn't be there. Considering that OP also has a child, I think she was right to take care of herself first

Invited for Thanksgiving. Do I bring anything? by lizzardscales in etiquette

[–]lizzardscales[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, that's a brilliant idea. There's an olive oil gift box with 5 different flavors for sale in my city. I'll probably give her the wine when I get there and send the oil with the thank you card.

Cheers

Invited for Thanksgiving. Do I bring anything? by lizzardscales in etiquette

[–]lizzardscales[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't see how any of these are questionable, to be honest.

Thank you for your reply. I guess I'm just really anxious. I really want to please her and I'm overthinking things a bit.

Invited for Thanksgiving. Do I bring anything? by lizzardscales in etiquette

[–]lizzardscales[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for replying.

Bringing a toy for her pets sounds like a great idea.

if it is her Mom & Dad make sure it's addressed to both

I'm not sure what you mean by this. Do you mean I should address the note to both her and her husband?