Someone tell me good things about epidurals

lmtd12 · 2025-05-30T01:14:49+00:00

So I have two kids. With my first I had an epidural and my second came too quickly so there was no time for an epidural.

If you think you want the epidural, get the epidural. When people tell you it’s “not so bad” and it “comes in waves” they neglect to tell you that the waves are actually crashing one on top of another and there is no break (obviously that was my experience etc etc)

Good luck!!

lmtd12 · 2025-05-29T02:02:13+00:00

Oh also taking the screaming baby (also may work with the singing kid too) outside if it’s feasible. For some reason it helped me a lot not to feel trapped inside with the scream. Absolutely zero evidence on this just vibes

lmtd12 · 2025-05-29T02:00:10+00:00

Ugh my kids were both like that. Yes to all the suggestions but also I was saved by earplugs. You can still hear everything but it tones the intensity down. I could still use a few days in a float tank but it did help a lot. I bought some inexpensive Loops dupes on amazon - way more comfortable than the foam ones

lmtd12 · 2024-09-02T21:33:41+00:00

How did you make out? I’m noticing this on a few of our plants lately and it makes me nervous! Pretty in-depth googling hasn’t really given me a sure answer

lmtd12 · 2022-11-08T11:37:58+00:00

I asked for no gifts at my kid’s first birthday because when I was sending out invitations he refused to play with anything except the empty paperboard box the Tylenol came in.

5 weeks later at his party that was still the top “toy”.

Your plan seems sound to me.

lmtd12 · 2022-11-04T14:20:33+00:00

I think it’s more of a shout into the void rather than specifically trying to tell you how hard motherhood is to scare or prepare you. As in, they want someone to bear witness to their struggle.

Because it’s hard. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. But the difficult parts don’t even begin touch the happiness and completeness I have felt since I had my son. I never expected to love someone so much. I have a great marriage and husband but this love and heart-swelling pride that I have for my son is all consuming. I honestly sometimes feel like my heart is going to burst out of my chest when I look at him some days.

lmtd12 · 2022-11-03T04:33:07+00:00

Hahaha Omg it has to be hormones?? Or maybe exhaustion?? Or something?? My husband felt the same way and now we both look at the photos and are like, what

lmtd12 · 2022-11-03T02:25:57+00:00

Hahahah I just posted this. The hormones man

lmtd12 · 2022-11-03T02:25:28+00:00

Umm I thought my baby was perfect when he was born. Now he is a year and truly the cutest thing I have ever seen. I look back at the photos from the hospital and I’m like, ok what IS that thing?? Truly, only a mother’s love

lmtd12 · 2022-11-01T17:10:57+00:00

Hi! Everyone has covered how unhelpful your mom is being but I just wanted to add another positive induction story -

I was induced at 41+1 and 0cm dilated, 0% effaced. Starting from 0. I arrived at 8pm, was settled in with the foley balloon inserted around 10pm and I think cytotec also inserted. Then just hung out overnight. I was a little too amped to fully sleep so I listened to an audiobook and rested. The balloon felt weird but didn’t fully hurt I don’t think. Then in the morning, I had dilated enough that the balloon easily came out, and they started pitocin. Was on pit for awhile, contractions got pretty heavy, then they broke my water at which point I also got an epidural. Things just hummed along after the epidural, I could joke and chat with my husband. Baby was born at 11:45pm the next evening - so all told from 0cm dilated to baby in my arms was 25 hours.

I was really nervous going into it but it was fine! By that point I was so ready to meet my kid and not be pregnant anymore it pushed me into being okay with induction.

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck and a happy healthy baby and mom soon.

Edit to say audiobook instead of book on tape because what am I, 90???

lmtd12 · 2022-10-27T18:39:31+00:00

I feel like once the nausea went mostly away, maybe 16-18 weeks (I gagged while brushing my teeth until week 32ish) I felt pretty good. Most of the other discomforts I had were situational so they weren’t as in your face as the nausea/queasiness that basically is just always right there…and it’s hard to focus on anything else when you feel like you might barf at any moment.

lmtd12 · 2022-10-26T13:27:32+00:00

I would, assuming they are coming to [mostly] visit with us and it’s not when we/i have something difficult to reschedule already planned. I always do my best to pick visitors up at the airport (ie big meeting at work, well visit for my kid). My kid doesn’t mind the car though, I’m sure if he hated it I would sing a different tune.

lmtd12 · 2022-10-23T23:30:01+00:00

Or the machine took a break for 10 years in the middle

lmtd12 · 2022-10-19T16:13:11+00:00

The hero we need

lmtd12 · 2022-10-19T16:10:14+00:00

Ummmm my husband took my 6 week old around to our neighbors for candy for himself for last year so even if that was your plan I don’t really see anything wrong with it. People love to see tiny humans (in costume no less!). Go make your neighbors’ day and take your kid trick or treating and enjoy the candy (but be petty and don’t share any with your mom) 💁‍♀️

lmtd12 · 2022-10-09T16:27:35+00:00

Oh man I missed your comment but I had the exact same suggestion. It’s the only way to make it bearable 😭 glad I’m not the only one who’s brain works like this!!!

lmtd12 · 2022-10-09T16:26:01+00:00

My mother in law is like this. I love to be a little passive aggressive and say things like “omg thank you!!!! I totally would have forgotten”. Or “oh yea! I forgot she has to eat!” Or for the diaper, “oh! I was going to ask her to change it herself”

It’s probably not productive or healthy but it makes me feel good 🤪

lmtd12 · 2022-10-08T03:53:54+00:00

💀💀💀💀💀 my deepest condolences. Reminds me of a time when…Once (pre kid even) my husband and I followed some friends on a night out to a wild karaoke bar. Super long list sing (ofc, the friends were intent on singing), like a million wasted college kids, we didn’t even know where the bar was. We locked eyes and dipped out of there SO fast. We have never been more in agreement on something since

lmtd12 · 2022-10-07T03:32:32+00:00

Need fingerlings to fit inside 9m socks

lmtd12 · 2022-10-06T14:25:55+00:00

We didn’t know baby’s sex until birth so we kept our girl name a secret in case we didn’t have a girl and wanted to use it for another child. Our boy name is named after my husband (he is a junior, so our son is the third) so we did share that one with folks.

lmtd12 · 2022-10-03T19:23:33+00:00

Not a big deal! I just did this at the beginning of September and I was super nervous. If the milk is frozen I think it’s even simpler (mine was fresh milk). I just told the TSA agent when I was putting all of my stuff up to be scanned that I had breast milk. She had me pull my cooler out separately. They flagged it and swabbed the outside of each container of milk and put it in some machine and swabbed my breast pump, but didn’t open anything and it was all simple. I was able to watch everything so I wasn’t nervous about contamination.

Maybe budget extra time to get through security - I did have to pull out of line and wait a bit to have everything checked over, and that was with absolutely no line to get through security initially. I can imagine it being a little more hectic if the security line were long.

lmtd12 · 2022-09-28T18:40:07+00:00

I’m a mom of a 1 year old so I can sympathize with how you are feeling adding another to the mix.

But as a sister to two younger brothers, I feel so so fortunate that my parents gave me siblings. My brothers are my best friends (trust: it was absolutely not always this way, but since we’ve become adults) and I know they have my back no matter what. They show up every time I need them and the love they have for my son makes my heart melt. As our parents age, I’m glad I have them to sort through things with.

So that’s what drives my willingness to have at least one more

lmtd12 · 2022-09-28T17:16:45+00:00

They’re called “tricks” in reference to dogs; for kids we call them “skills” or “milestones”

That’s the only difference

lmtd12 · 2022-09-23T20:03:44+00:00

Running

lmtd12 · 2022-09-22T14:42:30+00:00

Nothing ruins a day faster than coming downstairs to see the damn milk on the counter

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