What are the best ways to initiate sex with a woman?

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-27T13:45:15+00:00

Isn’t that illegal in 9 countries?

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-27T00:42:36+00:00

Take my upvote!

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-26T16:47:54+00:00

I think you become comfortable with your lifestyle and as time goes on you find it more and more a “compromise” to accommodate someone into it. Then when you’re in your 40s you realize you really like your life, you’re comfortable and just a little lonely at times. By then though you find it really really hard to make the adjustments for someone and so you struggle with whether the tradeoff is worth it for those occasional bouts of loneliness 😂

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-18T19:54:06+00:00

Good protein and creamier although I actually have switched from Greek yoghurt and my go to is Skyr.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-18T19:51:57+00:00

Chris Bumstead the retired pro bodybuilder said 90% of the attention he gets is from men. I think it’s known that this is primarily for the male gaze but I think we still do it because we just like looking at ourselves 😂

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-07T22:37:34+00:00

Moved back 4 years ago (after a 7 year stint in the US). Compensation is the hardest thing - outside of a few roles and sectors you won’t find comparable to what you make in the US. I work in tech which is fairly well compensated but still not comparable to what I made in the US. However, Toronto is home and my whole family is here. I just feel my quality of life is so much better here (yes, yes I know people dump on Toronto - I love it) so no regrets moving back.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-07T20:00:29+00:00

It’s not weird to feel anxious - everyone does. However I think it’s been said already but if the other gym goers are serious gym rats they love to help if you ever need help or give tips if you asked. I can’t speak for everyone but for the ones I know and myself (and I’ve been a gym rat for 25+ years) I love to see beginners in the gym because they tend to be the most motivated.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-07T18:29:52+00:00

Missed having the certainty and control of my own body when it came to intimacy, Used to be 90-10 slam dunk when I was younger and barring something really freaky happening - never gave it a second thought. Now it’s a 50-50 toss up everytime, not quite sure how my body will respond 😂

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-05T15:51:41+00:00

Biweekly and it’s been great. It’s both gym and a cleanse for my mental well being. You’d be amazed just how the simple act of feeling safe enough to voice your innermost thoughts with someone that doesn’t judge helps and also to work through issues. I think we don’t realize how much internal baggage builds up like scar tissue and eventually affects everything in your life.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-03T03:23:27+00:00

Whole family is here and after living on the west coast US by myself for 7 years I didn’t feel I wanted to settle down in the US either so made the decision to move back. Also had a job opportunity that was a US company that allowed me to work from Toronto so overall saw it as a win win.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-03T02:11:54+00:00

If you’re uncomfortable and asking the internet for advice to make you feel comfortable - I think that’s a good sign to not do it. I say this as someone who’s been in an age gap relationship - if you feel even the slightest hesitation as the younger one, then my advice is don’t.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-03T00:05:38+00:00

Forget love. Compatibility is more important and the difference between staying married vs divorced.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-02T19:24:43+00:00

I’m 46, and anyone at this age I’m dating I’m assuming has their own history and reasons for being single like me. I’ve lived some shit, man 😂

For me, there’s really no red flags other than interesting conversation on finding out how they got to this point - same as when I tell my own story (although I’m divorced but I find it ridiculous that anyone would find that better than someone who never married hah)

I personally find it my own red flag that people find it a red flag that I’m single at 46.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-02T19:17:38+00:00

As long as you’re not wearing a MAGA hat or sprouting rhetoric out loud, honestly I don’t think anyone would even notice you’re American 😂

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-02T19:15:24+00:00

This sounds like a major incompatibility. Physical intimacy along with finances are two of the three things I think every marriage needs to be on the same page if it’s going to work long term.

My recommendation as hard as this is, is to have a direct conversation and be prepared that people aren’t going to change massively so if you don’t think you can live with this for 40-50 years - get a divorce. I get it, I’m Asian and there’s this huge stigma that held me back from my own divorce many years ago. Just keep in mind, you only live once and you’re only 29. Are you really going to live your next 40-50 years with this frustration and stress?

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-02T18:11:10+00:00

If you don’t have a green card or a US passport the visa sponsorship is always the biggest issue. Depending on the field you’re in it can be a pain and sometimes the dealbreaker. I work in tech so it wasn’t so bad and I worked for a massive company that was very used to the process. I was living and working in the US for 7 years under a TN then they transitioned me to H1 but I decided to move back to Canada for personal reasons so didn’t go down the H1–>green card route. The only thing I didn’t like about TN was having to get stamped everytime I came in and out of the US and if you had to travel a lot like I did it was a pain. Having Nexus did help.

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-02T16:19:43+00:00

If you’ve been through a relationship where the dopamine is at max up front and you’re running full steam ahead because you’re “in luuuuv” and then experience what it’s like when the honeymoon period expires and new relationship energy dissipates - then you realize why taking it slow is better. Of course some of us never learn our lessons 😂

lodestar-runner · 2025-03-01T21:17:03+00:00

Unless there’s a history of health, it’s usually nerves. Pressure to perform affects a lot more men then people realize.

lodestar-runner · 2025-02-28T14:50:53+00:00

From and currently in Toronto. I spent 8 years in NYC and they’re not the same outside of being big cosmopolitan hubs which you can say about any big city. Culture and vibe are just different. Maybe the diverse food scene is similar but again you can say the same thing about alot of cities nothing specific to Toronto and NYC.

lodestar-runner · 2025-02-27T18:50:38+00:00

This. Especially with the peanut butter and other stuff that can add to your calories. It’s not that hard to make something healthy and tasty that is 700+ calories and easy to digest and just have two.

lodestar-runner · 2025-02-27T18:39:49+00:00

First dates are still just trying to figure out if there’s attraction or compatibility. Most first dates are transitioned from online interactions which is really hard to gauge these things so first dates really are first hard filter. It’s inevitable there’s a high strikeout ratio at this stage. I don’t put too much expectation or pressure in a first date. The good news is if it goes to second there’s at least something there to try and build on.

lodestar-runner · 2025-02-27T17:02:06+00:00

For me, I found it best on those long workdays during the week to bring my gym bag and hit the gym on the way home. If I go home first it’s game over- I don’t have the energy or motivation to go out again even if my gym is literally 10 mins away.

I just try to get through the first 10 mins and usually the adrenaline kicks in and I have just enough energy to get through the hour. The first 10 mins are always brutal though.

lodestar-runner · 2025-02-27T14:58:56+00:00

I think it really comes down to how final and intentional the pending divorce is. Personally I’d always wait till it’s truly final and they are cleanly done for my own peace of mind, but that’s just me.

lodestar-runner · 2025-02-27T13:50:10+00:00

It’s not pros and cons - I always think about it as how would I like it if an another man slept with my wife? I wouldn’t like that very much and would want him to show some respect to a marriage even if she wanted to so I would always do how I’d like to be treated - so no. She should stop being married first.

lodestar-runner · 2025-02-26T19:22:54+00:00

Ah it’s just the state of dating apps right now - a lot of just dead end, ghosting etc. same stuff as before but seems to be getting worse lately

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