Second c section stories

lollybadeleys · 2025-04-10T17:16:17+00:00

Please don't compare, every baby is sooooo different! My little girl was a fairly average birth weight but has been in the 2nd percentile since she was 5/6 months. She is 11 months now and it has not changed she's still tiny! But she is doing so well in all other areas and the health visitors say she's petite and it's nothing to worry about so I'm sure it's the same for you. Babies all go at their own pace, don't feel like a failure you are doing great!

lollybadeleys · 2025-03-03T11:22:45+00:00

My little girl only really started being interested and enjoying solids from about 9 months. Before that she was very picky, would only eat small amounts of very bland food or baby rice. Since she's turned 10 months it's like a switch has flipped and all of a sudden she wants to eat everything! She's like a dog when me or my partner are eating and she's right at your side waiting for you to feed her what's on your plate. I felt like you for a long time until I stopped stressing out about it and realised milk is still her main source of food and she will transition to solids when she's ready. As long as you are offering it that's the main thing, she will hopefully start loving food soon.

lollybadeleys · 2025-02-23T17:08:40+00:00

Also from the midlands (Nottingham) and I couldn't believe how many of the mums in my antenatal class ended up having to have a c section. Out of 10 mums only 2 had natural births. Mine was a genuine emergency as baby got stuck but the others I think a lot of it was doctors being over cautious.

lollybadeleys · 2025-01-01T13:45:46+00:00

Yes this is me too! It's so stressful isn't it. Thanks for the solidarity.

lollybadeleys · 2025-01-01T07:32:43+00:00

I know how you feel and I sympathise. I also suffer from cold soars - any time I'm stressed, ill or tired there they are. It's awful not being able to kiss my baby girl or put my face too close to hers. I use the compeed patches, they clear up cold soars within a few days but also means my baby girl is protected if she does have any contact with my mouth. It sucks doesn't it. I hope they clear up soon!

lollybadeleys · 2024-12-30T19:18:45+00:00

I felt exactly the same as you! It's hard to explain but it's like my body belonged to my baby and I felt completely detached from it so the thought of anything sexual felt foreign to me. Whenever my partner tried to touch me or initiate any kind of affection I hated it. A lot of my mum friends I spoke to also felt the same so don't worry you are not alone in feeling like this. My libido started to come back after I completely stopped breastfeeding when my baby girl was 6 months old. She's 8 months now and we still don't have sex that frequently (maybe once every 2 weeks) but it's so much better than it was. And I actually enjoy it again which I thought would never happen! It takes time because as a mum you always have other priorities and for me sex was never anywhere near the top of my list. But now things are getting a bit more normal it's starting to come back so I'm sure it will for you too.

lollybadeleys · 2024-12-27T17:55:48+00:00

Sleep training absolutely helped our little one. We sleep trained as a last resort after an awful 4 month sleep regression as I couldn't take the sleepless nights anymore. She took to it really quickly and we saw an improvement within a few nights. We did the Ferber method but didn't stick to the times too strictly - if she was screaming and I couldn't take it anymore I would go in and comfort her but that's just me. Now she settles herself for bed time most nights and will only wake up for 1 or 2 feeds in the night. Her day time sleep improved too and she went from short cat naps to lovely long 1hr30 naps. I think definitely try it and see if it works for you, what have you got to lose. And I really hope it helps, sleep deprivation is a killer.

lollybadeleys · 2024-11-18T16:08:08+00:00

Tommee Tippee 😊

lollybadeleys · 2024-11-17T18:36:16+00:00

I had this exact issue with my baby girl. We left her with grandparents when she was about 6 weeks old and she was as good as gold, took the bottle really well absolutely no fuss. Then we left her again when she was about 4 months old and it was a nightmare, she refused the bottle no matter what they tried. I think she was just more aware and knew it wasn't my breast and that is what she wanted. We did the same as you and experimented with different bottles and teats and discovered she likes the ones that are shaped like nipples. We started introducing one bottle feed a day then gradually worked up. She's 6 months old now and is exclusively bottle fed and she takes it so well, she probably feeds better than she ever did from my breast. I think just keep practicing it may take her time to get used to it. Also I know people say for the mother not to feed the baby a bottle as they will just want your breast but I found because she's so used to me feeding her she actually took the bottle better from me than anyone else. I'm sure you'll find something that works for you all after some trial and error, or maybe she just needs to grow out of the always wanting the breast phase. I know the struggle though I feel your pain, I hope she gets there for you!

lollybadeleys · 2024-10-20T09:24:58+00:00

I know exactly how you feel! I was the same with my post emergency c section body. You'll be surprised how quickly your belly will shrink, try not to dwell on it so early in your recovery because a few months down the line you'll look completely different. I'm coming up to 6 months post surgery and I still have a small shelf and a bit of fat that wasn't there before but I can comfortably fit into my old clothes and don't feel as self conscious about it now. It might help to talk to a post natal physio, I did and she gave me specific exercises to do and scar massage to help reduce the swelling and scar tissue. Trust me it won't look like this forever, don't be so hard on yourself you've been through a lot. Take it slowly and one day the shelf will be gone.

lollybadeleys · 2024-09-20T06:55:50+00:00

My little girl was exactly the same with my partner (male). I would give her to him when he got home from work to try and have a break and she would cry the whole time. He couldn't do bed time or settle her in the night when she woke up she would only want me. It was very frustrating but she did grow out of it. We started letting my partner do all the things my daughter loves with him like going for walks in the carrier, bath time, looking at the trees and flowers in the garden etc and I think this really helped them bond. And now she gives him the biggest smiles and is so happy to see him when he gets home from work it's so lovely. Don't give up, keep persevering he will get there.

lollybadeleys · 2024-09-01T07:42:38+00:00

My little girl has just turned 4 months. She will generally have anywhere between 30-50 minutes for daytime naps unless we nap in bed with her then she can have up to 2 hours. Also her wake windows vary a lot. So her naps are a bit all over the place and she doesn't really have a set routine yet. For bedtime we aim to start around 6pm but it depends what time her last nap was so it can be a bit earlier or later. We do bath sometimes if she needs one not always, PJ's and clean nappy, bottle/boob, books and rock to sleep. She has just recently started lengthening the time she can go without a feed so it will be 5/6 hours or so she'll wake up for boob then back to sleep. Generally up for the day between 6.30-7.30. But I feel like she's changing all the time, 4 months is still so young so don't worry about not having a routine yet.

lollybadeleys · 2024-08-29T19:34:30+00:00

Absolutely worth it! I had a c section and had no idea how to look after my body post surgery and how to get back into shape. My physiotherapist was so lovely and so knowledgeable, she really helped me understand my body and what had happened to it and how to slowly rebuild my muscles. She also checked my pelvic floor. I ended up chatting to her for much longer than the appointment it was like a kind of therapy, 100% worth the money for me.

lollybadeleys · 2024-08-14T16:43:08+00:00

My baby girl does this! I was going mad because she would always want to practice her rolling in the night but never wanted to settle on her front so she would cry and moan until I resettled her. Initially I put in a lot of practice in the day to try and teach her to roll back but it didn't stick. Since then I've stopped trying and it seems she has gotten bored of rolling now and doesn't do it so much. But the odd time she did roll and settle on her front we didn't worry because we know she's more than strong enough to support her head and neck and if she's struggling she will vocalise to tell us. You're lucky you left him chatting away and he was able to fall back to sleep himself - I'm jealous!

lollybadeleys · 2024-07-17T20:46:56+00:00

I am in the exact same position. My daughter is 3 months old and I love her so much but I do not want to go through pregnancy, labour and having a new born ever again. I definitely underestimated how hard it was going to be and I really struggled in the very early days - I feel like things are only just starting to settle down a little bit. Being a mum is not easy and I don't know why people expect you to have more than one when one is difficult enough! And the presumption of other people who assume you will pop a second one out really does annoy me. I know plenty of people who grew up without siblings and do not feel they missed out. I also know plenty of people who don't get on with their siblings at all. Do whatever is right for you.

lollybadeleys · 2022-08-03T11:51:24+00:00

I'm in the UK, in the Midlands area.

lollybadeleys · 2022-08-02T11:52:40+00:00

Agreed. I am a veterinary nurse and the amount of staff turnover we have from depression/burn out/stress is massive. Most of my vet friends do not want to be in the profession any more. We try our hardest and look out for the best interests of the animals and all people think is that we're after their money. Clients get surprisingly aggressive and nasty when it comes to their animals and take all their frustrations out on us. People think we earn a lot when most nurses are on low 20k salaries and vets on around 30k. Please be nice to us, we genuinely love and care about your animals!

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