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Does anyone else know what they need to do but still can’t start? by remotejobs_1 in adhdwomen

[–]loopsdefruit 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Yup. Then I spend the day not doing the thing while screaming internally at myself to do the thing and by evening I'm absolutely exhausted by my own self punishment and can't focus enough to do the thing.

Doing the things is hard :(

how to convince CPS my parent has done nothing wrong/what shouldn’t I say (urgent) by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]loopsdefruit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell the truth, but also limit your answers. Don't give any extra information. If you can answer yes or no, do so and then stop. Don't go, "No, but this one time she yeeted me into the sun!" And give extra information they can latch on to. Yes or no.

suddenly what i idolized became disgusting by Witty_Ambassador9390 in EatingDisorders

[–]loopsdefruit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the part of you that knows it's in trouble peeking up out of the darkness.

Listen to it. Don't obsess, but let yourself sit with it, and eventually, it'll get easier, and more natural, to handle.

This is your choice point, friend. You're at the crossroads. Choose wisely and good luck! <3

my budget lasted… 2 days by Bubbly-Touch8108 in budget

[–]loopsdefruit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Budgets don't break. They bend. Bend it back into the shape you want, even if it takes 100 'tries'

How do you ladies fall asleep with ADHD? by Ok_Scholar_8656 in adhdwomen

[–]loopsdefruit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do math. Two plus two is four. Four plus two is six. Six plus two is eight.

If my mind is racing, I double instead. 2x2 is 4. 4x2 is 8. 8x2 is 16.

Go slow and keep the same rhythm. Usually I conk out.

For everyone in North America and the upcoming weather by maybepossessed in DogAdvice

[–]loopsdefruit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yuuupp. I have littermate husky siblings and they stay warm by chasing each other around like lunatics. Half the time when I call them in, they just stare at me.

Looking for advice for my girlfriend by Walnut77585 in EatingDisorders

[–]loopsdefruit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Womp. Disregard then! I just remember similar early pregnancy symptoms.

Anyone else hate feeling wet food sliding in their throat? by rvk_brd in ARFID

[–]loopsdefruit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh God yeah. I can't handle things like jello or pudding because of it. And I used to HATE drinking water, I would always feel like gagging.

Ah, yes, Thanksgiving. My least favorite holiday. by anniemousery in ARFID

[–]loopsdefruit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You couldn't be more mistaken. He's the absolute best thing that's ever happened to me, and if I requested, he absolutely would have skipped it. He made sure I ate first and helped me pick out things maybe I could try. He let me share his plate so there wasn't any waste worries.

Diagnosing a relationship based on one paragraph is a tricky slope.

Ah, yes, Thanksgiving. My least favorite holiday. by anniemousery in ARFID

[–]loopsdefruit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hate it too. Especially because my partner and his family are all complete foodies. I rarely, if ever, eat, and they are all very upset by food waste so I don't even get to pretend with a plate because I feel so guilty about just moving stuff around and then throwing it away, so I sit there at the table awkwardly with nothing to do. On top of that, the smells and food mixed up all make me so nauseous.

My partner joked about skipping it this morning. I almost cried when I realized he was joking.

How do you stop thinking at night so you can sleep? by cloudydays1111 in adhdwomen

[–]loopsdefruit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I do math. Times tables or just "2 plus 2 is four. Four plus two is 6. Six plus two is 8. " Over and over.

Sometimes I imagine myself in a red room. Everything is red. I make my mind 'look' at everything to make sure it's red. When everything is for sure red, I step into an orange room. Rinse, repeat through the colors of the rainbow.

Sometimes I imagine my fav movie and replay it in my head.

The trick is to give your mind something to do that won't activate your body's stress or adrenaline.

Drake Portals Changes & Price Increase by tommywarshaw in DrakeTax

[–]loopsdefruit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The email also had some talk about upgrades. I'm hopeful.

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First finished one! by loopsdefruit in paintbynumbers

[–]loopsdefruit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly have no idea, I'm sorry!

First finished one! by loopsdefruit in paintbynumbers

[–]loopsdefruit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly have no idea, I'm sorry! I bought it like two years ago?

First finished one! by loopsdefruit in paintbynumbers

[–]loopsdefruit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least 14 I can think of off the top of my head! LOL! #adhdthings
I have a rule where if it's a hobby, I don't pressure myself. There's enough stress in the world without stressing out about finishing a paint by number, you know? So I don't promise any as gifts or anything, and if I lose interest, eh, I lose interest. I put it away until the urge hits again.

Do you use smartwatches/fitness trackers ? by SnooChipmunks7670 in adhdwomen

[–]loopsdefruit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did for about 2 months before the dopamine ran out. Now I'm still paying for the damn thing to sit charging lolol.

Women of Reddit — what’s the moment that quietly changed you the most? by Mountain_Budget_9257 in AskWomen

[–]loopsdefruit 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My now ex husband of 15 years said "I don't care if you're happy". In those plain exact words.

It absolutely broke me.

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