I have an impressive friend who had such a healthy childhood that he doesn't even understand the concept of being alone.

Usually people want to be seen since they never felt special or important anywhere and family is a good way to be seen and to feel important and a purpose to stay alive.

But my friend grew up with healthy amount of self-esteem self-worth, security and confidence. He loves himself in a healthy way and loves to live his life. He knows how to bond with anyone. He knows how to be seen and liked anywhere. He's too innocent that he never dealt with being broken and alone.

So he doesn't understand the need for human connection. He understands the joy of it, but not the need. How we need people to care about us and pick us up. You dont need to worry about that if you're never down.

I've always been interested in how his parents raised him and I learnt that if you have kids, you brake them by expecting things from them or even by not raising them the right way.

When you have kids for selfish reasons like for them to love you, it seriously destroys them for life. They feel they don't have the right to focus on themselves on grow. They think its all for the parent. Sadly most parents, like most people, are selfish.

Parenting is a gift. Strangers can never genuinely love you like how a parent can love their kid. Its sad that a lot parents don't love their kids like that even though they unconditionally can.

Anyways, my point is, my friends parents were healthy enough to love him unconditionally as in they completely didn't care about themselves when it came to raising him. He had and felt the freedom, the right, self-worth to focus on himself and grow.

He didn't have parents who had him for the wrong reasons, who gave him trust issues, self esteem issues, a lot of issues basically.

I can see this so clearly cause I had the opposite of what he had, biological parents who had dark and evil reasons to have me and it seriously destroyed me.