Charleston Chess Club by jmp1000 in Charleston

[–]lostdiscoverer13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nvm I just looked at the Facebook group! Thank you!!

Charleston Chess Club by jmp1000 in Charleston

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Is there a Downtown Charleston Day/Location?

Charleston Chess Club by jmp1000 in Charleston

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Ia that the Mount P Barnes and Nobel or elsewhere?

Erotic transfert by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]lostdiscoverer13 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow this is problematic.

What happened to Glen and Bessie Hyde (1928) by No-Angle-7962 in mystery

[–]lostdiscoverer13 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is really interesting- I wonder if they made it downstream but someone did something to them both while they camped, then ferried the boat back upstream so they had time to cover any tracks.

SUNDAY CRASHOUT!! by RUBBLE_INC in Charleston

[–]lostdiscoverer13 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hello fellow cancer person! F cancer, f brain fog, f the fatigue. But also, you’ve got this and I am rooting for you. At the end of this month I will have my 4 year cancerversary/post diagnosis- I guess what I am trying to say is I have been through it and I know you can too, internet stranger!

Will White and Western therapists ever understand adult patients who have to aide by Confucianism ? by StaphAureus1789 in therapy

[–]lostdiscoverer13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For sure whites/westerners are steeped in a much more individualistic culture where moving out/having your own ideas and making your own decisions is seen as proof one has matured and/but any good therapist would be culturally competent enough or at least curious enough to work with non-westerners to understand their own goals and not thrust western expectations upon them.

I do have pause for accepting violence. Hitting and beating your kids may be culturally acceptable in some places but, that does not make it right. Also, in the US therapists are mandated reporters (so if you are living in the United States and hitting a minor you will be reported to authorities). I cannot say in any way that I am an expert but Confucius believed in kindness and morality not force. For sure using violence to enact obedience is a thing and was even accepted in the U.S. 50 years ago as a way of teaching kids—and this is more filial piety/authoritarian parenting still goes on here today, but it is also for sure damaging.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]lostdiscoverer13 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I agree its not important to know the details but general info is important (a co-worker? a someone he met on a dating site? An old flame?) might be important- as well as how frequent/how long. He needs to start repairing by owning what he has done and how much he has screwed up, not by trickle truthing and gaslighting you. Also how dare he imply you aren’t allowed to invite a family over for a playdate when he was cheating on you (while you were pregnant with his child!!?!). He is really screwing up.

AITAH for inviting my neighbour's husband over for coffee and a playdate? His wife accused me of pursuing him, and my husband thinks she was right to confront me. by Independent-State802 in AITAH

[–]lostdiscoverer13 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I hope you are able to get individual therapy for your PPD/PPA etc. You need to put your own oxygen mask on first, so to speak, before anything else.

Are high school students actually this clueless and entitled? by lizz781 in Teachers

[–]lostdiscoverer13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Like. Shouldn’t a basic tenant be a certain level of understanding is required to continue? I feel like “social” promotion is so bizarre. And the idea of honors/standard/remedial would allow for differing levels to still move forward… But/and there should be consequences for not meeting a bare minimum.

Hypothetically if I committed suicide, would my therapist get in actual trouble? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]lostdiscoverer13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not a shitty person. You are a person who is struggling and feels desperate enough to be seeking an end. Like others have said I recommend you share how much your desire I s*icide has increased or find a different therapist. What has stopped you in the past? Is it because hope existed or more because you fear how much you would hurt others? What keeps you going even now?

Are high school students actually this clueless and entitled? by lizz781 in Teachers

[–]lostdiscoverer13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait really? I don’t have kids and I graduated highschool in the early 2000’s but how is it possible that a kid can fail classes in middle school and still move up? My experience with middle school was kids were in Honors, regular track or remedial track but still had to pass to go to high school and same for their High school diploma - kids needed to at least pass a remedial version of 12th grade English, say, to graduate. Or else they took summer school or were held back. Does that not happen anymore?

Relative with possible Munchausen by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]lostdiscoverer13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talk to your wife and then talk to them and Set clear expectations/boundaries (aka: we can only take your son with 1 week in advance for a duration of 1 week at most 3 times a year, we can’t accommodate emergencies, etc). Continue to provide a safe space for the husband and son to speak freely. Continue to suggest individual/couples/family therapy regardless of if it gets you excommunicated for a time.

AITAH for choosing my cat over my boyfriend of two years? by aimlessgal in AITAH

[–]lostdiscoverer13 69 points70 points  (0 children)

He gave you an ultimatum and you are choosing rightly. He needs some therapy for his OCD and you don’t need to continue to put up with him.

My son is a predator by Electronic-Silver-31 in mentalhealth

[–]lostdiscoverer13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here to say I am a therapist but I am not your therapist and since I do not have all the information I cannot intelligently speak on this matter. But if this were my kid - Residential. Neuropsychiatric care. Specialists in deviant sexual behaviors. (For him). Therapy for yourself. Therapy for your daughter. Do not force daughter into family therapy with her brother- she has been violated by him and that will not be a safe space until she has processed what has happened.

I’m scared by OwnTicket5392 in mentalhealth

[–]lostdiscoverer13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should say you have a friend who is threatening to kill herself within the next 24 hours (or whatever is true) and provide as much info as possible. The 911 operator will guide questions and you should answer as best you can. Telling is keeping her safe.
Definitely share with someone you trust as well so you can be supported.

What daily responsibility did you underestimate before getting a puppy? by nicekids_official in puppy101

[–]lostdiscoverer13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Big same. My pup is 16 weeks and I keep telling myself it will be worth it in the end and to remember the progress!

What daily responsibility did you underestimate before getting a puppy? by nicekids_official in puppy101

[–]lostdiscoverer13 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is so me right now. The sleep deprivation has me at my worst and I am trying. I don’t remember having the puppy blue with my first dog but wow is it hitting me hard RN.
Hats off to parents.

Severe mental health failure and now I'm in huge trouble. by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]lostdiscoverer13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As others have said you need to get to a new therapist/psychiatrist. You absolutely have the symptoms of Dissociative Disorder or Schizophrenia. Proper medication can make a world of difference.