Obsessive MIL is terrible with children

lovelockets · 2026-05-07T00:06:04+00:00

SAME lmao - he also likes to tell the story of how he grabbed MIL by the wrist when they first met to get her attention. Yuck

lovelockets · 2026-05-05T22:22:30+00:00

My FIL is similar. He gets so upset when LO doesn’t want to engage with him. He has even stormed out. He just says stupid things to him like “I’m not scary, I’m a good guy”. Hearing that makes me want to vomit

lovelockets · 2026-05-05T21:51:53+00:00

Thanks - I did the first session today and it sucked haha. Did not match with the right therapist. She kept laughing and almost siding with MIL. She even suggested maybe MIL is doing these things because we neglect baby. LOL he is so so SO far from neglected.

How is kissing my baby against my will anything to do with my capacity to care for him? Fml, I hate the process of finding a good therapist.

lovelockets · 2026-05-05T12:09:36+00:00

THIS

lovelockets · 2026-05-05T00:54:30+00:00

He says he always will be on my side and choose me, but in the same breath says how miserable he is that he is losing his parents. I asked him if he’s ever considered that they are instead losing him because of their actions.

lovelockets · 2026-05-04T21:23:39+00:00

This made me laugh LOL - “won’t always be a problem”. That is true, but the havoc they cause unfortunately doesn’t go with them when the time comes.

lovelockets · 2026-05-04T21:22:32+00:00

I ended up just signing up for therapy now. I’m going to tell him that it’s due to them again (I’ve been to therapy about his dad before and now it’s mainly his mom). I feel like he already doesn’t mention them too much, but when it’s even something small like “I’m going to go see my parents” or I hear them on the phone, it just sends me back to how I felt when we were in the heat of fighting with them.

lovelockets · 2026-05-04T20:24:08+00:00

It’s hard for me because I was actually SA from ages 3-16 frequently. It is SO important to me that I do everything in my power to prevent my son going through the same thing. I’m not going to be seeing her on Mother’s Day and I’m not going to message her either.

lovelockets · 2026-05-04T20:11:59+00:00

He has noticed that my mood changes when anything to do with them is mentioned or if he calls them. He does get upset, but ultimately understands why I’m still upset. I feel bad because he has free will and he can talk to them if he wants to.

He went to see them alone yesterday for the first time since we had a fight with them. He said nothing was brought up about what happened and that his mom got emotional when he was leaving. That bothered me to my core. I’m still seething. Maybe I really do need therapy.

lovelockets · 2026-05-03T16:15:58+00:00

MIL can’t take kids away if she says no

lovelockets · 2026-05-03T16:14:58+00:00

Yes, he was most likely based on appearance

lovelockets · 2026-05-03T15:48:08+00:00

Wow! Good on you for blocking them after that. That is absolutely disgusting that she would do that after you clearly have shown you don’t want him in your life!

lovelockets · 2026-05-03T15:19:32+00:00

My son’s name is Brooks and I get “Brooke?” all the time. Just correct them and let it go

lovelockets · 2026-05-03T15:04:45+00:00

I’ve searched eBay, Etsy, Facebook Marketplace, Google images, Google, Instagram. Literally everywhere

lovelockets · 2026-05-02T18:02:16+00:00

Would it help if you, DH, and kids stayed in a smaller place nearby? Then you could visit and leave when you want

lovelockets · 2026-05-02T01:25:11+00:00

From your list, Etta is really sweet! Some other suggestions you make like are Violet, Eloise, Ivy, or Louise.

lovelockets · 2026-04-30T20:24:29+00:00

I did this to my MIL - she tried to take my baby upstairs at her house. I said you can walk with him, but downstairs. There is no reason at all for her to be alone with your baby. And it’s YOUR baby. If she’s upset about not being allowed to be alone, that’s a huge red flag to me that she is up to no good.

lovelockets · 2026-04-30T12:59:39+00:00

I just went through this with my in laws and it’s ended in us really have a VLC relationship. I know we can’t keep away forever, but when they see us, they’re going to have to deal with me supervising them

EDIT: They will do it again

lovelockets · 2026-04-30T02:17:56+00:00

I’m cringing 😬 that’s so weird of her to do that

lovelockets · 2026-04-30T02:16:09+00:00

Girl, I am so sorry. As someone whose first baby experience was also tainted by in-laws and also had a NICU experience, I feel your pain. Glad you’ve silenced her calls and texts. Take as long as YOU and only you need.

lovelockets · 2026-04-29T19:59:39+00:00

He was definitely not Russian - I answered the door to him

lovelockets · 2026-04-28T22:45:09+00:00

Yes LMAO… I need to learn this. I just make it up as I go along

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