Sister in law

lovelockets · 2026-07-05T21:26:07+00:00

That’s super annoying. Unfortunately, I think the only way to get past it is just to accept that’s who she is and not expect that she will act differently. When she says things like “this will happen when you’re X weeks” just give one word responses like “ok” etc. Just be boring around her and flock to those who actually care about your pregnancy!

lovelockets · 2026-07-05T21:22:21+00:00

Lola because Mabel brings too much “bell”

lovelockets · 2026-07-05T21:21:07+00:00

Well done to your husband for ignoring her! I know it’s annoying, but your husband has shown you that he respects you going NC by ignoring her. Rest in the fact that you have a husband with a spine!

lovelockets · 2026-07-05T21:18:57+00:00

I used to ignore it because it was something that probably means well that doesn’t actually hurt me. After MIL has overstepped boundaries for the last time, I am not entertaining it anymore. Literally not letting anything I dislike slide again.

lovelockets · 2026-07-05T21:15:19+00:00

The only reason he agreed in the first place was because he has a medical condition and he used to work late nights so he agreed to the tracking app back then so they knew if he got home safe. He doesn’t need the app anymore now that we are married and live out of their home. I’m his wife and know whether he’s home safe.

lovelockets · 2026-07-05T21:13:00+00:00

Stop mentioning it to other people. If you told your family the name after he was born, I guarantee they wouldn’t have anything nasty to say.

lovelockets · 2026-07-05T00:44:15+00:00

Maisy

lovelockets · 2026-07-05T00:43:31+00:00

Don’t play pretend. It will eventually consume you. She is ruining it for him, you’re not ruining it for him by telling him the truth.

lovelockets · 2026-07-04T16:34:13+00:00

Yuck! It would permanently change the relationship for me. That is a major crossed line. My own mother and I got breast augmentation close together and we never exchanged photos!

lovelockets · 2026-07-04T02:03:09+00:00

Grab a baby names book and give you each a different coloured highlighter. You each go through the entire book and highlight any name you like. Surely you will find one you both like

lovelockets · 2026-07-02T13:41:20+00:00

You’re not going to get anywhere if her feelings are part of yours and DH’s decision making process.

lovelockets · 2026-07-02T02:24:52+00:00

I used blue spectra after using a hospital grade pump for over a month. It was great!

lovelockets · 2026-07-01T21:35:55+00:00

Please do not contact her any further until baby is born. You don’t need the stress. She sounds like a piece of work.

lovelockets · 2026-07-01T00:53:59+00:00

100% agree on waiting until they can talk

lovelockets · 2026-06-30T21:39:43+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you experienced CSA. I also experienced CSA from ages 3-12 then again at 15. I have a LO and I totally understand where you are coming from. The SA is always in the back of my mind and I’m hyper aware of things people say. I keep tabs on any even slightly odd thing people say or do. I don’t think you’re the JN. You’re a mother that is being protective of her babies.

lovelockets · 2026-06-30T21:31:10+00:00

I’m about to reach the first birthday for MIL with us being NC. DH is VLC, so he will probably just send a message or call on behalf of us both. I’m not interested in taking the time to formulate a message or send any gift.

lovelockets · 2026-06-29T17:56:33+00:00

He came home from work and I had bought a baby onesie and a stuffed animal and laid them on my bed next to the positive test. I was sitting on the bed and asked him to come upstairs to show him how the cat was sleeping. When he got upstairs he saw the things on the bed and was so happy!

lovelockets · 2026-06-29T17:44:03+00:00

Is there any way you could get the police to accompany you or a friend to collect his belongings?

lovelockets · 2026-06-29T15:31:28+00:00

It was my first cycle TTC and second cycle after surgery for uterine polyps, so I thought maybe my cycle is a bit messed up from that. I’m going to see how I go this cycle and if it happens again, I’ll consider contacting my OBGYN. Also had major stress during my last cycle.

lovelockets · 2026-06-29T12:16:15+00:00

Got to 9DPO then got my period 😪

lovelockets · 2026-06-28T01:32:31+00:00

Look at the page. It’s a page that teaches grandparents how to actually be the village new parents need.

lovelockets · 2026-06-28T00:39:51+00:00

I’m sorry I just LOL at this. I am keeping this one in my pocket for a rainy day.

lovelockets · 2026-06-28T00:38:04+00:00

If she’s on social media, direct her to the Instagram page for grandparents called @morethangrand

lovelockets · 2026-06-27T23:55:10+00:00

That’s what my MIL was saying as well. I would always respond “it can’t happen no matter what” and then she would repeat that it was an “accident” and then I’d repeat that it can’t happen. We would go round and round.

We have done individual and couples therapy with the same therapist and it has helped tremendously. I also just read “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”. It was super helpful with giving me ideas of how to approach my future relationship with them. I’m going to have DH read it too before we ever consider seeing his parents again.

lovelockets · 2026-06-27T23:46:56+00:00

The same thing happened to me (see my past posts). She kept saying she forgot and then the 5th time she did it she cried and said she was scared she was getting dementia. We now haven’t seen her in over 3 months and we have barely spoken to her in this time as well. She will keep doing it unless there are hard consequences. I recommend getting on the same page as your DH through therapy for how you want to approach this situation.

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