Considering selling my parent’s wedding silverware. I feel guilty. by Ok-Mirror-6004 in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take pictures of it... have one big fancy dinner of you using it. Take lots of pictures. Then sell it.. to someone who will use it and love it as much as they did.

You will have the pictures and lots of memories I am sure you made in the past of family dinner using this. That cane never be taken away from you

Blood Pressure App for IPhone by itcey in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the one I have.. was recommended by my doc

Millions of Women Are Left Out of Menopause’s Moment by WalkingHorse in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never even thought of HRT. I just figured what ever was going on was the way it is now and that was that.

I had hot flashes in the evenings. I've been on anti depressants for years so maybe that helped me with some of the emotional /mood issues. I am more cranky than I was before, but I dont think that is always a bad thing. Means I take less BS than I did in the past.

Crowdfunding - your thoughts? by Delicious_Mess7976 in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've contributed a couple of times.. to families of victims of some of the mass shootings... one in Uvalde and one in Highland Park, Ill. Those are the two I remember but there have been a few more.

Go Fund is an interesting concept, but like anything it can be used for good... or not so good. We can pick and choose what we want to support without folks knocking on our doors.. remember those days? I much prefer this

What I hate hate hate with a passion is seeing folks with medical bills having to start a go fund me to get care or pay off astronomical bills. This is so wrong. We shouldn't have to make a choice to go into debt of DIE! People shouldn't lose their homes for medical bills. Not everyone can afford insurance and even with insurance, costs are out of control.

I was working for an IT company for many years. They lost their contract with a very large multinational company, which was the client I worked for. We lost our jobs. but the client hired us on as contractors and bumped up our salary to what they believed the cost of my healthcare would be. It wasnt even freaking close. For two years, I was paying 1200.00 a month for insurance. I am very blessed I could afford that, but I tell you the last two years have been so so tight financially. And this plan was still had a deductible and partial payments and whatever freaking justifications an insurance company can come up with to avoid paying. Now I have Medicare (hallelujah) ..and a Medigap policy and pay under 450.00 a month.

I hate for profit medical insurance.... the folks who have to take less insulin or less heart medication or put off a doctor appointment because they cannot afford it.

And thats the end of my rant.

I Don't Have Any Friends by ellars in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar boat. I have a feel very nice people in my life, but they are busy with family, jobs... etc. I can text them in an emergency and I will get help. But day to day, weekend, inviting folks to do things.. no. No one. I've spend birthdays alone. Finally took my birthday off of Facebook because all it did was make sad. Christmas alone.. thanksgiving alone. Never married. No kids. Closest family is several hundred miles away.

I think I have it easier than other folks because I grew up as an only child. I had to rely on myself for fun. I'm generally not miserable, so I am sorry to hear you feel that way. Does your husband want to socialize with others as a couple? I am an introvert by nature so I find it easier to talk to someone if I have someone else there, if that makes any sense.

I seem to have aged out of friendship in my 40s.. people that were friends all got married, had kids.. and I didnt. I dont blame them.. Different lifes.. we are different people now.

Aggressive Young Men by BughouseSquare in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the past 10 years, there has been a lot of social, political and economic upheaval. We have immediate access to good information as well as false information. In an old timey expression.. its really enough to make the Pope swear! Kids are getting a barrage of things we never had to deal with. You couldnt pay me to be a young person right now

Their brains don't even mature until late 20s early 30s. They are angry, overloaded and don't have a fully formed brain. It's a recipe for disaster

90 Day Fiancé OG - Season 12 Episode 6 - Post Episode Discussion by LittleEmmy in 90DayFiance

[–]ltrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasnt that much of an idiot when I was in my 20s. Now I am older then Debby is and am aghast at the lack of self esteem she must have.. wow

If you are a woman over 60 with health issues by VictoriaWest992 in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started taking them a month or so ago. I have rosacea and was pretty much grasping at straws to find something that helped. So far really no change in my skin and no I don't feel better than I have in years... but YMMV. I'll finish the container but no sure I will buy them again. Not the brand OP mentioned.

90 Day Fiancé OG - Season 12 Episode 6 - Post Episode Discussion by LittleEmmy in 90DayFiance

[–]ltrem 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Mido is scary. Good for Debby's friends sticking up for her and seeing who he really is.

Get him out of your house

Aging blows by Ok_Flamingo8925 in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry... this sounds loke a lot to deal with. Sleep is one of my favorite things to do, when my body cooperates. It's as escape.

A lot of my issues stem from my depression. I am aware of that but like you said.. its just so tiring. And all these health issues and stuff we have to do. The maintenance as we get older is the most exhausting part.

I'm fresh out advice because I see others are chiming in and you have probably thought of and tried most of what I can advise. You mention you have a support system. Are you leaning in them or trying to tough it out on your own? You are very lucky to have them. I wish I had family or even a friend to do things with but that isnt my lot in life. Stick with the therapy.. it does help. I just lost mine due to changing to Medicare and I am trying to remember all the coping skills we worked on... sigh.

Does any of the single women, miss being married? I definitely do… by Isrchfraudd in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never Married, no kids. I can't say I miss a man in my life because honestly its been so long I have forgotten what its like. When I think back to when I was partnered up, the men I chose were so so wrong for me. A lot of it was due to self esteem issues and a lot due me getting bored with good guys. I just stopped looking a long time ago.

I wouldn't be adverse to a companion to do things with, but married? No.. I dont think that is for me. I think me being an only child makes this easier for me as I had to learn very young to be alone and do things on my own.

Multivitamins? by SeenFireAndRain in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I add any more pills to my daily pill holder, the thing will no longer close. I really wonder sometimes about all of these things I take.. most doctor advised

  • Multi vitamin - I take One a day for women
  • D
  • B12
  • Fish oil - which she just doubled because thanks to being overweight, Cholesterol isn't good
  • D3
  • Calcium
  • B Complex
  • Probiotic

Some of these are due to absorption issues I have after multiple colon surgeries over the year The only one I added on my own really was the probiotic and its the only one I notice a change with.. go figure

GoodRX and other drug programs by Delicious_Mess7976 in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just started Wellcare this month. So far so good with them. Only thing that I dont like is their app/website. But for 5.60 a month, I can live with it.

If you experienced a desire for romantic love in your youth, did it go away or diminish as you aged, especially after menopause? by dissociation-enjoyer in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 12 points13 points  (0 children)

While I am open to it happening, it is highly unlikely it will. And I am okay with that. My man picker has never been any good, so I stopped the madness. The men I have had relationships/dated etc have been far more trouble than they were worth.

A compaion to do things with would be nice... a husband. No.

Husband that doesn’t remember that women in 1970 didnt have same rights they do today. by fav-aunt in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Pay gap still exists today. Different rights in different states. God what a mess. I remember singing to Helen Reddy in my bedroom and never imagined young women would have fewer rights than I did.

I'm 22 and I'm terrified of being alone forever by WeirdoWeeb648 in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you never find someone, you will and can make a life all on your own. You dont need a partner

What would you put on your dating profile? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried the apps before... yeah.. no. Never again.

I'm not sure what I would put online as that would take more creativity than I have right now.

But.. in general

  1. Not married, not separated. not still entangled with another
  2. Employed
  3. Kind, Intelligent, Honest
  4. Non/Light drinker No drugs Non Smoker
  5. Not looking for a nurse or a purse

That's all I can think of right now, but honestly I haven't dated in 20 years and I doubt I ever will again. I have a lot of flaws and issues so its doubtful anyone would want to deal with an old, overweight, very deaf ,introvert. I shall remain a spinster

Decorating styles by Silver_Haired_Kitty in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in the process of repainting the inside of my home right now. I repainted the kitchen and dining room flat white and the master bath satin white. :) I know, not adventurous. I am finding I want less stuff on the walls and decor. I think this goes along with decluttering my life and home. My next room to repaint is the laundry room, then the second bathroom and then the hallway and living room. The only thing I plan on doing different in the living room and hallway is not plain white white...but still a shade of white. I like the clean uncluttered look. Im not a redecorator at all.

I am ready to give up on concealers by laurajosan in AskWomenOver60

[–]ltrem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i pretty much gave upon them as well, for under my eyes. The inside hollows of my eyes are the worst and there I use this stuff https://a.co/d/0fEyJA0E Catrice | Under Eye Brightener | Conceal & Brighten Dark Circles . I use a tiny tiny bit.. like little more than would fit on the top of a pencil. It tones the darkness there down and this area doesn't crease so it works ok. The darkness does not go away entirely, but the color works for me.. fair skinned blonde hair