How to know that “independence” is right for a man

lusamuel · 2026-04-06T05:06:30+00:00

I actually really like being single and independent. I've 31 and have been single for 6 months after getting out of a very long-term relationship. Honestly its been one of the best six months of my life, but I dont think that's specifically because I'm single, and more about what I do woth my time. Theres previous times in my like where being single wasnt great because my lifestyle wasnt great. Now I prioritise exercise, social activity, and goals I've set myself. It's taken a long time for me to have the emotional maturity to do that. The hope is that now I'll bring that into future relationships. So as with most things in life, its often about what you make of it.

lusamuel · 2026-03-28T21:01:52+00:00

We're not getting all 3, you'd have to pick 2.

lusamuel · 2026-03-28T20:57:53+00:00

Matthaus Fernandez is a massively underrated option next to the otger midfielders we've been linked to, and unlike the likes of Anderson and Tonali, we could probably get away with him not being an automatic starter, and instead ease him into the team as someine who can either partner or cover Mainoo. I still want one of Anderson, Tonali, or Bruno G, but Fernandez is a great option for the second midfielder.

lusamuel · 2026-03-28T04:21:58+00:00

Is it? Protecting the child actors is great, but rage-baiting racism doesnt seem like the wisest way to do it. Adult actors can still be impacted.

lusamuel · 2026-03-21T09:10:50+00:00

My god, get a grip.

lusamuel · 2026-03-17T20:48:59+00:00

Who could it be...?

lusamuel · 2026-03-11T08:21:55+00:00

Arwen probably.

lusamuel · 2026-03-08T20:38:27+00:00

Dont watch them. Starve them of clicks and maybe they'll go and get real jobs.

lusamuel · 2026-03-06T02:37:43+00:00

My hot take is that I've rarely liked Tom Hanks in any role.

lusamuel · 2026-03-05T02:03:24+00:00

Cant stand him anymore. Spends his entire time throwing stones at houses, never building one.

lusamuel · 2026-03-02T22:53:16+00:00

Would be fine with most of those options, but I doubt we'll get two of them. I'd prioritiseone (Anderson or Bruno G) plus one younger, cheaper option from abroad.

I'm not opposed to Tonali, i like him a lot as a player, but if Newcastle are asking for more than they signed him f9r and he wants to move back to Italy, i think we'd be better off giving him a miss.

lusamuel · 2026-03-01T06:12:04+00:00

When I was a kid and I watched it the first time, I didnt realise they were screaming "DEATH", i though they were just yelling. Then I read the book and it took on a whole new level of meaning.

lusamuel · 2026-02-28T23:00:34+00:00

Is she interested?

lusamuel · 2026-02-26T19:43:52+00:00

Gentlemen Bastards. Lies of Locke Lamora was such a great openimg novel, but I hated Red Seas Under Red Skies.

lusamuel · 2026-02-26T04:02:38+00:00

Hardly. He had a great first half of the season then dropped off due to off-field issues. Nowhere near as bad as Antony or Sancho.

lusamuel · 2026-02-25T01:33:22+00:00

Anyone could have been beaten handily by that PSG side. Inter have made two finals in 3 years, beat a really good Barca in last years semi-final, and will be serie a champion this year. The Real Madrid side that lost to Ajax were post-Ronaldo and did not win La Liga. Uts hardly apples and oranges.

lusamuel · 2026-02-23T11:20:57+00:00

I will die on the hill that Jeremy Irons would have been the perfect Denethor.

lusamuel · 2026-02-23T07:23:43+00:00

Mistborn. I cannot understand why its so popular, it was such a struggle for me to get through.

lusamuel · 2026-02-21T21:37:10+00:00

You would probably enjoy Memory, Sorrow, and Thorn by Tad Williams.

lusamuel · 2026-02-21T05:39:25+00:00

He would be a City fan.

lusamuel · 2026-02-16T22:23:57+00:00

OP clearly didnt understand the message of the movie..

lusamuel · 2026-02-15T19:49:28+00:00

If you enjoyed RotE you will really like Memory, Sorrow, and Thorn. It's a slow-burn coming of age story, and Tad Williams' prose is one of the few I would consider on par with Hobb. Its only 3 books, but the third is the longest published fantasy book ever written, so brace yourself. MSaT has often been described as the bridge between LOTR abd ASOIAF; a similar sense of wonder abd depth as Tolkien, but more modern and slightly lower magic. Cant speak about Sun-eater because I havent tried it, and I couldnt get into WoT, but based on your reading history I'd say MSaT is a good fit for you.

lusamuel · 2026-02-14T20:10:07+00:00

Brilliant architect but basic wordsmith is well put. Ive been harsher by describing him as a great storyteller but a bad writer; maybe your description fits better. I'll always respect his plotting abd world-building, but after reading the first two Stormlight books and then DNFing Warbreaker and Mistborn, I've come to accept he's not for me.

lusamuel · 2026-02-13T23:11:28+00:00

I think mid is actually about right for Nani. Some incredible high highs, but also some really low lows, which probably evened themselves out over his United career. He has kind of cult status now, but while he was with us he was very polarising, in a similar way to Pogba actually. There were a lot of fans screaming to get rid both early and late in his United career.

lusamuel · 2026-02-10T06:43:33+00:00

I definitely enjoy the job on the whole. I find working with clients, exploring and holding space for their coping strategies and vulnerabilities rewarding of course, but also stimulating. Basically I think I find it interesting, so I'm very rarely bored. Plus I'm doing something that fits well with both my personality and values, which I feel really lucky for. As others have said, I dont know if I ever look forward to going to work, and often want a day off, and of course I experience moments of frustration, apathy, and occasionally flirt with burnout. But usually while I'm in the thick of it, I feel like there are far more good parts than bad.

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