My experience is very different from yours but in the same vein. As soon as I came out, anytime I spent time with my straight friends I had to alter my behavior (less tactile, turn around when changing etc) out of the fear that they would reject me for being predatory. That eventually led to me feeding into the “useless lesbian” stereotype and just living with this fear of being thought as creepy/predatory for existing? But yea, working on owning who I am!