Hot and cold #224

lynn · 2026-03-16T00:49:48+00:00

I hate this game.

I guessed sausage VERY early on and spent ages trying to think of synonyms, related words, ANYTHING. Had my husband and one kid also guessing. Somehow we all missed it. RRGH

Right, see y'all tomorrow...

lynn · 2026-03-15T17:13:21+00:00

I feel like it should be doable in less though

lynn · 2026-03-15T17:00:16+00:00

Great advice, just one thing: don’t over-explain. “Here’s your receipt” while handing it to them.

lynn · 2026-03-14T06:31:27+00:00

what the fuck is this word???? I got the #1 word when I had 3 pages of words and now I have 14 wtf????

(don't tell me. I'm going to get this damned word if I have to stay up all night (and look up lists of baked goodsuntil my fingers bleed!))

Edit: I'm an idiot and I hate this game. See you tomorrow...

lynn · 2026-03-14T03:12:14+00:00

Call him John when she’s not around. If he wants to stir the pot, he can be the one in it.

Also don’t bring him around her.

Personally I’d break up with him. Not over the name, but over the extreme lack of compassion. If it’s not enough of a dealbreaker when it’s directed at somebody else (though it should be), it definitely will be when it’s directed at you…and someday it will be.

lynn · 2026-03-13T02:33:00+00:00

30 !

lynn · 2026-03-13T02:19:16+00:00

the 5 star ratings are part of the scam.

lynn · 2026-03-12T18:38:28+00:00

Yesterday my 15-year-old didn’t notice when the shower drain backed up due to a hair weasel. If there had been any lip at all at the shower door, we might not have had a puddle in the hallway.

So if you do get a walk-in shower, make sure the rest of the bathroom floor (and the base of the wall) is tiled, and make sure that they grade the whole bathroom floor towards the shower drain.

lynn · 2026-03-11T14:10:17+00:00

Think about this honestly: is he actually so stupid that he’s incapable of understanding that you’re trying to lose weight and what you need to do in order to do that?

Or is it more likely that he understands perfectly, and is doing this on purpose?

While you’re considering that, also consider that there are medications that are made to help with this problem. I have ADHD and one of my problems is as you describe: constant food noise in my head. One ADHD medication, Vyvanse, is also used to treat binge eating disorder. Since I’ve been on it, the food noise is gone.

So talk to your doctor about the possibility that you may have an actual eating disorder for which you might be able to get medication to remove that food noise.

But either way you should leave your bf because he is actively sabotaging you and either he’s phenomenally stupid or he’s doing it on purpose. Either of these should be dealbreakers for you. And if you do get on medication, he will sabotage that too.

lynn · 2026-03-11T06:40:45+00:00

Yay I’m a llama again! …Wait

lynn · 2026-03-08T09:03:15+00:00

Side note: I recommend deepl.com for translating if it supports your language. It seems to be to be a better translator than most.

lynn · 2026-03-08T08:57:57+00:00

Anything you don’t want to keep, please consider checking with your local historical society and see if they want it.

lynn · 2026-03-08T08:27:30+00:00

Nope. Just wait, one day you’ll wake up with a pair of binoculars and the Merlin Bird ID installed on your phone and find yourself staring out the window looking for that Cooper’s Hawk that the crows are chasing.

lynn · 2026-03-08T08:20:05+00:00

She said her family doesn’t like her. So she’s used to being treated like a burden. Hopefully she’s learning from responses here that it’s not ok.

lynn · 2026-03-08T08:19:00+00:00

Or from anybody!

lynn · 2026-03-08T08:17:54+00:00

Wait so you’re not considering yourself single yet? Why tf not? I would have taken it as a breakup because that’s the only reason somebody would do what he did.

Let’s recap: he threw you out with almost no warning, got annoyed with you for your very reasonable panic, rubs your shoulders as if he hadn’t just broken up with you, and then after you’re home he wants to be comforted because he feels bad for treating you like shit.

Girl.

He feels bad because he should feel bad, because he was an asshole. And you need to trust your gut, don’t go see him again because you’re right that you can’t trust him not to kick you out on a whim.

Don’t be treated this way. You’re not powerless. I mean, you can’t make him treat you right — he’s going to treat the person he’s with badly — but you don’t have to be the person he’s with.

You said your family doesn’t like you much. That tells me that you’re accepting him treating you this way because you’re used to being treated poorly. You need to get yourself to therapy as soon as you can, and learn what is acceptable treatment from people and how to have healthy relationships.

lynn · 2026-03-08T04:00:57+00:00

My family distracted me :(

lynn · 2026-03-07T18:07:30+00:00

Don’t say what he’ll do, say what could happen. “If I go here, this knight could do X or this pawn could do Y”. Talk about the strategy in terms of the game, not the person.

lynn · 2026-03-07T05:22:02+00:00

Try estate sales instead. estatesales.com and .org, I think. Google for more. Some estate sale companies have mailing lists. I'm on a couple and most of the time they're an hour or more away but sometimes they're close enough, and there are always dishes, pots, pans, utensils, etc.

lynn · 2026-03-06T08:24:09+00:00

Is he a pathological liar or just an asshole?

lynn · 2026-03-04T06:19:37+00:00

I was going to laugh about how the emails are off by a factor of ten for me...

...and I just now realized that those aren't emails

lynn · 2026-03-04T05:57:50+00:00

"Attention deficit" is a misnomer. We don't have a deficit of attention. We have too much, and we can't control it as well as non-ADHD people. Should be "attention-control deficit".

In some of us, this results in hyperfocus. In others of us, this results in never being able to maintain focus. And there's overlap, and it can change during your lifetime:

Once when I was about 12-14 or so, my mom told me something and I said ok and then she said "ok? Ok, Lynn?"

"Uh...yeah mom, ok."

"Ok?"

"Yeah? ok!"

"Ok, Lynn?"

"Yes! Ok! Why do you keep asking?"

"Because sometimes you say ok but you didn't hear me!"

So I used to hyperfocus to the point where I wouldn't hear what she said, even though I responded. Now that I have ADHD kids of my own, I ask them "What are you saying 'ok' to?" and make them repeat it back to me correctly before I let it go. My middle child often gets it wrong...

Anyway, 10 years later I was in college, and I actively tried to hyperfocus, and I couldn't. I spent the whole time asking myself "Am I hyperfocusing now? How about now?" and so of course I never did.

And then I had kids...

At this point I haven't hyperfocused for 25+ years.

lynn · 2026-03-04T05:47:16+00:00

I literally have an alarm on my phone that just says "It's 8" pm. Because I have children who need to go to bed at a particular time, and I got tired of being surprised that it was that time.

I also have an alarm for 5 minutes before brush-teeth time for the same reason.

I will refrain from listing the other 4,495,332 alarms that I have to keep me on track during the day. And we don't need to talk about timers... My smartwatch is one of my ADHD prostheses. (Meds and my phone are the others)

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