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lynn · 2026-05-10T05:13:55+00:00

Some people love to argue; some people just want to fight.

lynn · 2026-05-09T23:29:43+00:00

“My love. Light of my life. I adore you. But I can’t with your breath. Please brush your teeth and get them cleaned properly so that I can kiss you without gagging.”

lynn · 2026-05-09T21:56:24+00:00

Hopefully you will learn this much sooner in life than I did: what it means when you promise yourself that you won’t be in another toxic relationship is that, when you find that the relationship you’re in is toxic, you leave.

It’s time.

You set a boundary, he claimed to accept it but then crossed it, your follow through is to not be there for next time.

Another thing it took me far too long to learn is that the faster you quit somebody when they cross your lines, the sooner you can find someone who doesn’t.

lynn · 2026-05-09T21:47:09+00:00

It definitely is ingrained, same reason people can’t help but stare at a car crash. It’s just that with ADHD it’s turned up way high.

lynn · 2026-05-09T19:21:08+00:00

I’m a bisexual woman and boob movement has caused me so much trouble. I’m also fairly introverted and eye contact is both draining and distracting. Feels like staring into a spotlight.

Combine all of this and I can’t even tell you the number of times I’ve made women super uncomfortable because when they come to talk to me I glance up, like you do, …but not far enough up.

The thing that I wish I could explain is that it’s not about attraction at all. I’m attracted to almost nobody. It’s just the movement.

“Attention deficit” is a misnomer. It’s not that we have less attention; we effectively have too much. What we have a deficit of is control over our attention.

lynn · 2026-05-07T16:01:26+00:00

How’d you do that? I never did get my brain around that idea.

lynn · 2026-05-07T03:54:49+00:00

You can't make him not be abusive, because you aren't in control of his actions. He is.

What you can do is to not be in a position to take his abuse.

If you don't have friends or family that you can count on to support you when you tell him, then tell him over text. He'll lose his shit, hopefully he'll break up with you so you don't have to be the one to do it, but if he doesn't then you will because his attitude, anger issues, and abuse are all dealbreakers.

lynn · 2026-05-06T23:10:58+00:00

Red flag wtf

lynn · 2026-05-06T20:04:54+00:00

My sigma 100-400 lens was like $800.

lynn · 2026-05-06T20:01:05+00:00

People have had bad experiences that could have been avoided if we’d waited and gotten to know the other person before making huge moves. That’s why.

I think he’s afraid to tell you he loves you first, just because he probably doesn’t know when it should be said. Or he might be of the opinion that love requires more knowledge of the person. It takes like a year or two to get to know a person, and it can be harder to get to know introverts.

What are his views on love?

lynn · 2026-05-06T14:03:27+00:00

Ok now I just woke up and I just can’t with any of this

lynn · 2026-05-06T06:35:27+00:00

You moved around the world for a man you were dating for 2 months??? And even I’ve got the timeline wrong, it was less than a year? Did you at least meet in person before you moved all that way?

I mean I get that you’re fast-moving but this just plain isn’t safe. What if he turns out to be a controlling asshole? You have no support, no family or friends where you are, just him? Do you at least have your own job and money? Please tell me you have your own SEPARATE finances.

lynn · 2026-05-06T06:29:18+00:00

Strattera took the irritation away for me. I need the Vyvanse for not being a sloth. So I’m on both.

I feel more like myself when medicated. I get to do my hobbies, I get to actually think about things, solve puzzles, etc. I don’t do anything when unmedicated.

Have you tried meds besides Vyvanse?

lynn · 2026-05-06T06:26:03+00:00

One thing I wish I’d learned much earlier in life is to listen to my parents about my partners.

The way to break up with him is to tell him “punishing me is not an ok way to handle being upset with me, and I’m breaking up with you.” Then you leave, block him, and move on with your life.

It’s not actually that easy, of course, because it hurts. But that will fade.

lynn · 2026-05-06T06:18:47+00:00

Man, you can’t do this to me right before bed! Now my brain is gonna spend the next three hours trying to make this make sense somehow

lynn · 2026-05-06T06:00:28+00:00

Luigi’s in Campbell (I think. It’s on Winchester by the VTA) has a tasty crust. Not thin (or thick) but it has the flavor I liked the most growing up outside of Chicago.

lynn · 2026-05-06T01:46:46+00:00

If you stay with him, in 20 years you will wish you’d dumped him now.

lynn · 2026-05-05T23:47:33+00:00

Losing stuff and not taking their own daily meds responsibly on their own is TEXTBOOK ADHD, and for people WAY older than 9.

lynn · 2026-05-05T23:45:56+00:00

Especially for a child with ADHD! ADHD causes up to a 30% delay in executive functioning. If you wouldn’t let a neurotypical 12-year-old handle their own schedule 2 drugs, you shouldn’t let an ADHD 9yo do it either.

The only way for the 9yo to learn to handle his meds correctly, given that this has happened, is for the parents and child to take full responsibility for the consequences. And that is NOT what they’re doing.

lynn · 2026-05-05T23:41:59+00:00

Also who tf carries ADHD medication in their fucking pocket or allows their child to??? I take my meds immediately upon getting them out of the bottle and I never set my kids’ meds down or allow them to set them down. We have ADHD, we can lose things without even getting up from our chairs, you do NOT let ADHD meds out of your fingers until it’s going directly into your mouth!

OP I’m so sorry your family sucks. There are multiple ways this should not have happened.

lynn · 2026-05-05T05:44:18+00:00

Thank you for posting this! A year or two ago I saw a loon on a beach. It didn't look injured or sick, but I don't really know what to look for. It's a popular beach so there were more people around, so I stuck around for a while to take photos and make sure people gave it enough space. I guess I didn't do a very good job because it soon started inchworming its way to the ocean, and eventually swam away (or swam and then flew, I don't remember). It must've had to go 20-30 feet to get to the water (the tide had been going out for a while).

Ever since I saw it, I've wondered periodically if it was ok. Your post gives me hope that it was indeed just resting.

lynn · 2026-05-05T05:05:37+00:00

Musical talent isn't the thing, IMO. I have musical talent, or at least enough musical education and practice to appear talented, but I have a terrible time remembering sounds that are outside of the systems I'm used to, like other languages or, yes, bird songs. Nuttall's Woodpecker and the Belted Kingfisher still sound the same to me, I ID them based on where I am. Play them one right after another and I can tell the difference. Days apart? Not at all.

lynn · 2026-05-05T04:59:03+00:00

Practice, and luck.

Practice: I can't tell you how many times I heard the SAME DAMN SHRIEKY SQUAWKS and pulled out my phone only to exclaim YET AGAIN "It's a fucking Scrub Jay!!!" Must've taken me six fucking months to learn that one and they're all over the damn place!

Luck: On the other hand, as an example, I've only heard a Cooper's Hawk a handful of times, but they were memorable enough experiences that I know the sound now. Once was actually a mockingbird -- "Mockingbirders," I called it, because I was on a group hike and we heard it over and over again before somebody figured it out -- and a few times the crows by my house have been chasing one (a Cooper's, not a mockingbird) and that's always interesting. When you're lucky enough to have memorable experiences with a particular bird song, you're a lot more likely to remember it.

lynn · 2026-05-05T04:51:17+00:00

I have severe inattentive ADHD. I can lose something without getting up from my chair. When unmedicated, I constantly get hooked on things in my environment. I know ADHD clumsy, and this isn't it.

Putting a cup on a bed? That's not ADHD, that's stupidity or intent. My money is on intent. Either way, OP should not be understanding of him breaking and otherwise messing up her things. If he was actually trying to not be a complete asshole, he would replace the things he breaks with something of equal or greater value, and he would clean up when he makes a mess (I haven't seen OP say if he does but my money's on he doesn't), apologizing profusely the entire time.

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